The Relationship Works Couples Counselling
Does your relationship need help? The Relationship Works only counsels couples or individuals working through relationship issues. Like Relate - it is a specialist service provided by counsellors who are trained in working effectively with a variety of relational issues.
The link above for our website - therelationshipworks.co.uk - explains in more detail the theory behind our practice and biogs on the counsellors.
You may have noticed that most individual counsellors on the Counselling Directory have no specialist training in the couples field - and yet offer their services; this is a controversial area. The Counselling Directory Home page specifically advises that clients only seek couples counselling from Diploma trained relationship counsellors - as is the case with us.
Taking the first steps into any counselling environment can be a traumatic decision for any couple. It can often feel like a threat to the very core of the relationship itself. This does not have to be the case - as the process is primarily about addressing what is going wrong, or what has been lost or forgotten in the relationship.
Of course, it is also true that for some, couples counselling is about the mediation of a separation process; while this can be a desperately painful scenario, a negotiated settlement on good terms, can be hugely beneficial to all parties, and this is especially the case when children are involved.
In the first instance, however, The Relationship Works is for when it just isn't working! It is for when you would like to get expert and experienced help to see if the deficit in each other's needs can be understood and met - and a profound existential sense of each other in partnership can be found and held again.
Jack and Catherine are both available on a weekly basis and both hold different areas of specialist training that they can offer all couples. The practice has two consulting rooms and a spacious waiting area (awaiting wi-fi), where you can help yourselves to tea or coffee or use of the rest room. You can also clear you head in the peaceful park environment of nearby Waterloo Gardens. There is always ample free-parking available directly outside.
More generally The Relationship Works is able to offer a total package of care to couples that includes additional individual work in other areas. These could include depression, anxiety, child trauma or specialist areas such as diagnosed or undiagnosed Aspergers and Bi-polar.
We also offer our highly rated child psychotherapist and young person specialist who can work entirely confidentially with other members of our client couple's family; often issues relating to the kids or step kids, can be a deciding or devisive factor in a struggling relationship. Matt is available on a weekly basis to work with your younger kids and teenagers; it is important to understand that his work with your child is confidential to them - and that the 'safe' boundary is often what allows the work to be successful.
So as in your couples counselling safe professionally held boundaries always need to be in place. In a way we are talking about trust. When attempting to regain trust in your relationship it may be important - to build on a process in which you can both trust. A process that looks after your individual needs fairly and without gender or other prejudice. We have the confidence and experience to know, that what we can offer this...
To support the couples who attend the clinic - where appropriate we are able to offer psychological support to the children and step-children within your family system via Michell Pointon-Bell, who is a highly regarded qualified specialist in the field. The 'kids' often play an important role in finding a more creative resolution to relationship difficulties - and having them attend their own counselling sessions in the safe environment of the practice is often a relief.
If you have any questions at all about how the service we provide could work for you, then please do take that first step and send us an email; we will try to get back to you within 48 hours and are always happy to have a quick chat on the phone.
Training, qualifications & experience
Masters in Counselling
Stage 2 Diploma in Relational Couples Therapy
Masters in Consultative Supervision
Doctoral Modules 2009-2014 Bristol University
Accredited Member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP)
Masters in Counselling
Stage 2 Diploma in Relational Couples Therapy
Member of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP)
Michelle Pointon-Bell(Michelle works with the children or adolescents of couples attending)
Post Graduate Diploma in CBT
Post Graduate Diploma in Counselling Children and Young People
Member organisations *
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling we deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
AN INTERSUBJECTIVE APPROACH TO COUPLES COUNSELLING by Jack Rochon Jan 2015
The field of couples counselling is fast moving and complex - and in many ways has little in common with one-to-one counselling. The latest specialist couples training highlights for example how neuroscience has brought new insights into how and why we may develop dysfunctional adult relationships. The work of Daniel Stern* (2004), an iconic American psychologist and therapist, is generating exciting new cross modality approaches to working with couples and individuals. David Shaddock's influential text** (1998) suggests disentangling relationships can be complicated. Of course we often just simply misunderstand each other. But deficits and difficulties that were first experienced in childhood and adolescence may be triggered by our partners. Relational psychodynamics and intersubjective theory suggest that these deficits can be addressed and that we can develop the 'the healthy domains' that we need in order to have the quality relationship that we all deserve.
We are creative beings - but may have lost our way. By taking ownership and responsibility to address this developmental damage we can again become the authors of our own lives and exert our free will and take responsibility for the quality of our relationships. This can be a challenging exercise. Facing up to our own part in a failing relationship takes courage and determination to turn it around. But this is a possibility. Real hope exists that we can live creatively in a happy partnership. It does take commitment and a willingness to take responsibility for those parts of us that are not perfect and need a little revisiting and care.
Relationships, and the meeting of two peoples subjective histories can feel like a seemingly magical connection of transformation, creation and love. This process, however, is a subtle alchemy which can easily be disturbed. If you would like to work with an experienced and specially trained psychotherapist to explore whether it is possible to restore a healthy fulfilling balance then get in touch. Working collaboratively with an up to the minute model of relational psychodynamics and interstubjectivity, may help you & your partner. Understanding how your past is present in your intimate relationship, is often a great starting point.
* Daniel Stern (2004)The Present Moment in Psychotherapy and Everyday Life.
** David Shaddock (1998) From Impasse to Intimacy: How Understanding Unconscious
Needs Can Transform Relationships
Jack Rochon Couples Counselling: £55 for a 50 minute session
£70 for a 75 minute session
Catherine Jones Couples Counselling: £40 for a 50 Minute session
£50 for a 75 minutes session
Michelle Pointon-Bell (Counselling Children only) : £40 per session
The Long and the Short of it - You Decide
Some couples like to come in weekly for the shorter 50 minute sessions while others prefer to have 2 to 3 weeks between sessions and hence often take up the longer hour and a quarter sessions.
Re-arranging Session Times
We completely understand that it is not always easy to co-ordinate two people's diaries and as long as sufficient advance notice is given of any change, then no charge is made. Cancellations of 24 hours or less prior to an agreed meeting are charged at 50% of the session rate, as room bookings & counselling time & travel commitments cannot be made good at that late stage.
- Areas of Specialist training available to all clients:
- Relational breakdown
- Marital infedility
- Porn addiction
- Various addictions
- Autistic characteristics
- Bi-polar characteristics
- Eating disordered characteristics
- Severe Child Trauma
- Sexual Abuse
- Male Sexual difficulty
- Female Sexual difficulty
- OCD & compulsive characteristics
- Sexual Identity issues
- Transgender issues