Susan Wilkes MA, BACP & EMDR (accredited) Young People, online therapy
Relationship Problems, Child related Issues, Anxiety, Panic, Stress - I can help you to navigate your way through this difficult time and to reach a more peaceful and harmonious way of living together or just with yourself.
I provide a calm, confidential and professional environment that has helped hundreds of people overcome their difficulties in life, I hope that I can help you too.
The key to therapy is the relationship between counsellor and client, the ability to form a trusting relationship is the basis of a therapeutic relationship where unresolved struggles can be explored and worked with safely.
You can be assured that I will always respect whatever you bring to therapy.
Are you experiencing any of the following challenges:
- Aftermath of an affair
- Compulsive Sexual Behaviour (Sex addiction)
- Pornography and the Internet
- Partner of a Sex addict
- Lack of Communication
- Being in a controlling and abusive relationship
- Lack of sexual desire
- Becoming first time parents
- Step Parenting
- Depression, Anxiety, Panic, Fear and Stress
- Work place bullying
I am a highly qualified and experienced therapist and have helped and supported many couples and individuals to begin the process of change …Please call me on 07831 169635 to make an appointment and let me help you with the struggle of untangling the complicated web that relationships can leave you stuck in.
I am fully qualified to work with teenagers and to support parents manage problematic behavior and emotional problems that your teenager may be experiencing.
Being able to talk to someone who is impartial and can help your teenager to voice and express how they feel about what is going on for them....can have a calming and transforming effect on the family system....If you are struggling to know how to talk with your teenager and this is affecting your couple or family relationship, then please contact me and let me help you through some of these challenges and to turn things around.
I offer flexible appointments with evening availability.
HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP YOU
Many problems with relationship difficulties can impact on how we feel about ourselves, anxiety and depression can affect many people when the relationship is not given the time, attention, and attitude it deserves, this difficult work can be the most rewarding for all.
With love comes heartache, this is a fact of life and not as negative as it seems at first. If you don't care deeply for someone disagreements and problems will only be a passing annoyance...the more someone matters to you, the more you will mind when things between you go wrong.
The problems that arise in every relationship test your love - affairs and betrayals, lack of trust, anger issues, lack of intimacy, family issues, abusive words can be painful to live with. However this can be used as an opportunity to face the relationship together....the heartache love brings can eventually increase your love. I know as a relationship therapist that happiness in a relationship depends on meeting problems together. Living with conflict that does not melt or disappear is tough for both parts of the couple relationship...learning to tackle differences positively can be far healthier for all.
Problems in relationships don't always have to mean the end. Working through problems together so that there is no winner or loser has a transforming effect on love, it gives it strength and flexibility and allows you to trust in its power to unite you. Love that has never been tested is fragile....problems can therefore be a good thing!!!.
I am passionate in helping people to raise their self esteem and self confidence to deal with the issues that can come along in every day life, unhealthy relationships and situations can have a massive impact on someone's belief system about themselves and working through and understanding negative thoughts and feelings about yourself that can lead to unhealthy behavior can really transform a person's life.
Through my work with Relate, I have extensive training and experience in working with the sort of issues and conflicts that arise in most domestic situations and how this can impact on all parts of the couple and family system. Being able to talk issues through that might be creating feelings of general unhappiness and distress can help to bring about effective change and enhance well being.
I have worked in various high schools and primary schools working with children and young people for the many years. I also have extensive experience of working online with young people who are struggling to make sense of the world around them and have also an interest in working with the parent child relationship that can be a challenge at times.
Trauma, Stress, Anxiety, Panic, Avoidance
I am an accredited EMDR Practitioner and have worked with many people to help them to process the memory of any event that has a lasting negative effect. We all know people who have lost jobs, loved ones, even possessions and have truly suffered as a result.
When you have lost your peace of mind or if you have never had it, there can be serious physical and psychological consequences no matter what the cause. Regardless of the triggers the causes are generally found in earlier life experiences, this can lead to depression, anxiety and panic attacks and this can be healed in a safe pair of hands.
Physical Health issues are obvious EMDR targets – as they are scary, life-threatening and leave people feeling helpless. Many health issue create fear and sometimes hostility, creating even more anxiety and loss of control. Ways of treating this include targeting the beginning of the event; other people’s responses (or lack of); the subsequent treatment; the feeling of anxiety that may have accompanied it and still does; the change of identity after the an illness; aware of own mortality; loss of function, roles and sometimes friends and worries about the next attack…..fear of death, the process of dying, fear of being dead, the fear/guilt of leaving the people they love, such as children, and people with attachment issues from childhood can often fear being alone at death......
EMDR can be used to clear these distressing states, fears and thoughts, but only IF the patent is able to participate….dealing with major health stress in current life may trigger traumatised parts of a person from a previous illness etc....and can lead to an avoidance of treatment….EMDR can work wonderfully with this and can help people to heal past and current anxiety.....does this sound like a typical day for you??? It doesn't have to be like that any longer.
I work face to face in my own very private and secure counselling room that I have had built alongside my home, it is the perfect place to reflect on any issues that you may bring to therapy. My counselling room has a private entrance, so provides a confidential service where you will be met by me at the door. I also use Skype, live chat or email exchange which is particularly useful for people living in remote areas or who may have difficulty accessing therapy, maybe people who are housebound for whatever reason, or for people where it is more convenient to access therapy online.
Training, qualifications & experience
MA (Distinction) Relationship Therapy
Accredited Member of BACP and UKCP
Member of ACTO (Association of Counsellors and Therapists Online)
Member of EMDR Europe & Ireland
Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Therapy
Diploma in Person Centred Counselling
Certificate in Online Therapy
Relate Certificate in Counselling Children (5-10 years)
Relate Certificate in Counselling Young People (11-19 years)
Relate Certificate in Family Counselling
Relate Training In Domestic Violence
EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner, Parts 1, 2 and 3
EMDR and Ego State Therapy: Healing Complex Trauma
Certificate in Clinical Supervision, accredited by The British Psychological Society 2013
Trainer in Managing Critical Incidents within Workplace Settings - University of Chester 2013
CPCAB Accredited Diploma in Sexual Compulsive Behaviour, 2015
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
The Association for Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC) is the leading UK organisation providing hope, information, support, and treatment options for those affected by sexual addiction and compulsivity.
ATSAC sets standards of practice for qualified therapists and provides accreditation for specialist training courses. A therapist who has gone through ATSAC recognised training will have the knowledge to respect and work with you sensitively to find out how best to support your needs.
Therapy options may include one-to-one sessions, group work, and/or relationship counselling. ATSAC is a not-for-profit organisation.
EMDR Association UK
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
- Fee for individual work £50 per one hour session
- Fee for couple work £60 per one hour session
- Fee for Family work £70 per one hour session
- Fee for EMDR £60 per one hour session
- Fee for Sex Addiction work £60 per one hour session
- Fee for online work £50 individual, £60 couple and EMDR