Sue Trevelyan, Couples Counsellor, MBACP (Accredited)
Welcome to couple counselling. I am a trained and experienced couple and relationship counsellor. I have worked for more than twenty years specialising in relationship work with couples and individuals who are experiencing difficulty. While there are many kinds of problem, each relationship is unique with its own character and needs. I will work with you to achieve your particular aims by talking through your concerns with you.
I believe that kindness and giving time to each person is important, and work in this way to find a useful focus that helps you to get to get to the heart offbeat is the matter.
Many people have pressing concerns which cause a relationship or marriage stress and even depression. Our feelings and expectations may change over time, perhaps gradually, when feeling dis-ease maybe vague and hard to describe, or even quite definitely and suddenly. Seeking help is not always an easy thing to do, but to talk to a trained counseller, who is there as an ally, to listen with an approach that is empathic and not judgmental, and is reassuring, is a course of action by which you've nothing to lose. The process puts you more in control. You will have the opportunity to make your life and relationships a priority, and use your sessions as an empowering and often comforting strategy to find wellbeing. I will be there to help you find a useful focus, and more understanding of your individual concerns and clarity for the future.
The sessions last for an hour, or sometimes half an hour by arrangement.
The number of sessions varies according to clients' wishes. Sometimes there is no 'quick fix', so more than one or two may be useful, sometimes this extends to 6 months or more. If you like you can plan a series of four to six sessions.
It is important to feel you are making the right choices so do please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or you would like to talk before deciding to arrange a meeting.
I will have my mobile to hand before your session so that we can meet easily. You may want to come alone or with a partner, be married or single, live locally or come from further afield. We will establish who wishes to come, the cost and your contact details, and I ask that we have a brief telephone conversation beforehand to verify these. All ages, ethnicity and sexual orientation are welcome.
During your session
Central all ways of progressing is to talk with you about what has prompted you to seek help, if a couple to give time and thought to each person to express your concerns. Conflicts and lack of communication may be an initial focus, there may be others too. Towards the end of a session we talk about strategies that may be useful for the week ahead.
All concerns are relevant, however small.
The sessions are very personal to you and each one is special. The process can be hard work, bring sadness, be of great interest, invariably needs commitment. Counselling may bring many emotions to light, is never dull, and can even be really good fun!
I am committed to the process of each client, and to a careful and empathic approach.
Your information and your sessions are confidential with the exception of any harm to yourselves or another person coming to light. This is normal practice for counsellors, is part of the ethical code of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) of which I am an accredited member and to which I am bound. My details are also on the BACP website. The organisation is a very well established and accredited body supporting the interests of the public and the standard of the counselling.
Reasons for seeking counselling
are very varied, and may include
- lack of communication
- work problems and relationships
- worries about children
- loss of a previously happy relationship
- concern about the future
with accompanying anxiety, loneliness, ongoing arguments, grief, depression.
The list may seem daunting but of course not all these will apply to you. The important thing is that every concern is of importance and can be aired, and to remember that hope may be round the corner even in the most difficult and distressing times, because they feel more bearable and you can make choices and achieve longed-for goals. Sharing with your spouse or partner helps to make you a team. Many family/ children issues are helped in the privacy of couple work.
I offer face to face counselling for all clients. Telephone counselling and Skype are also options if suitable.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a fully trained and experienced couples and relationship counsellor, and have worked continuously over 20 years using different therapeutic approaches including systemic, psychodynamic, TA, cognitive behavioural, and person centred. Throughout I have attended additional training days to extend and update my practice.
4 year diploma, London Marriage Guidance (awarded 1997)
4 years as salaried counsellor with London Marriage Guidance
9 years BACP accredited Relate licensed practitioner in Cumbria
4 years independent BACP accredited practitioner in Cumbria, then Cheshire and Shropshire
The four-year diploma training at LMG included training sessions with the Tavistock Institute for Human Relations, and I subsequently worked at the Tavistock for two years before moving to the north of the country.
I have been an accredited counsellor with BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) since 2003; my accreditation is updated annually. The BACP website has full details.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
Other areas of counselling I deal with
The issues above are frequently helped in counselling - the list gives some idea of the range of distress that may be of concern. I have ticked the general headings that apply, there are more subheadings than listed above.
A further list to show this:
Breakdown of communication; marriage guidance; all issues that may arise at different stages of life in heterosexual, gay and lesbian marriage and relationships; intimacy and connection to sexual desire; deciding to commit; problems in first year of living together; difficulty in conceiving;having a baby; couples parenting young children, any child who seems to be a problem,; teenage children, children leaving home; difficulties in deciding not to have children; in not wanting children; in deciding to adopt; issues with grandparents; a 'problem' child; loneliness in a relationship; illness; feelings of needing to separate, difficulties in separating; mediation; post-separation tensions including access to children.
Handling one's own emotions, telling a partner about your emotions, what to do when being unsure what you or your partner feels, telling a partner you don't feel heard and/or understood.
Fears of being ignored, put down, disregarded, neglected; experiences of abuse and bullying in a relationship.
And as above, illnesses, work problems, bereavement and its aftermath, problems with family members and in laws or other important connections.
Fees are as follows and may vary according to need:
£50 per hour's consultation with a couple.
£40 per hour's consultation with an individual person.
Concessions are available. Your fee can be discussed at any time.
Commitment to the sessions arranged and the time set is important, even though it may sometimes be a struggle to keep to it.
Cancellation charge The full fee is payable if less than 48 hours (excluding weekends) is given. No payment is required for missed sessions if due notice is given.
For telephone and Skype you will be asked for payment in advance of the session.
I have benefited from a thorough, broad-based training and accreditation through professional counselling organisations which updated their training continuously. A four year specialist couple Diploma course included a wide variety of relationship work, emphasising the agency and value of the individual within the couple, the wider family and society.
My accreditation with BACP since 2003 is renewed annually and I am listed on their website bacp.org.uk
Clients may be adult couples of all ages, ethnic background and sexual orientation, married, cohabiting or living separately, and single adults at any stage.
Remember that people can really feel as if they are going crazy in a relationship that seems fine to the outside world. So don't be afraid to seek help and please ring and leave a message at any time. I will answer the same day if possible.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Contact by mobile, email from this site or my website. Please do leave a message if I am not available and I will get back to you on that day if possible.
Types of client
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