Hi, my name is Steve Day let me tell you a little about myself. I have been helping people just like yourself since I was a young teenager in my college days. Back then I could be found most lunch breaks talking to someone in a corner in the cafeteria, trying to help them understand themselves and the world around them. I may be a professional by qualification now, but I still have that passion to help that has always driven me. My goal is to help you with your issues in a way that best helps you personally. I pride myself on going above and beyond for my clients. I do not sit passively, I am invested in helping you, the best way I can while I am with you. I work in the “person-centered” way, meaning I deeply respect you and the position you are in, I am free of judgement or negative feelings, as I believe we are all doing the best we can at the moment we are in and I believe that you have it within you, all that you need, to help you grow, recover, heal, develop or change anything you wish. All you need is the space, time, understanding and warmth to help you get there and that is where I come in. I have helped many people over the years and I would like to help you too. Contact me today and book an introductory session for free.
If you would like to talk contact me and together we can help you move towards the place you want to be.
What is counselling
Counselling is a talking therapy designed to help people who are suffering from negative or unwanted thoughts, feelings or beliefs that they are having. These may come from anywhere such as childhood, work, personal life or imagination. The goal of counselling is to create a safe and trusting place for the client to express their thoughts and feelings in a way that is supportive in order to help the client find a resolution that is best for them. It is much more involved than a chat with a friend or family member as it focuses on the client and what they are thinking and feeling and has a clear set of rules and boundaries to help the client feel and be safe such as confidentiality and a trained therapist who is there is help the client rather than pass any judgements or opinions. It can feel painful and challenging at times as the issues raised often have an element of discomfort, for example, talking about a painful childhood.
Who is it for
Counselling is for anyone who wants to change how they act, think or feel into a more positive way. It is for those who want to find a better way to live their life free of unwanted thoughts or feelings, it is for anyone regardless of age, gender, race or any other label you wish to use, it is for anyone who believes or hopes to find change and growth or those who are needing to change as old ways of acting, thinking and feeling no longer serve them. Counselling is most helpful for those who are wanting to change but are struggling with the issue or feeling overwhelmed and wish to have an extra pair of eyes, a new perspective or simply the extra support while they need it.
Reasons to come for counselling
You should consider counselling if you wish to talk about anything that you consider painful or upsetting. Almost any issue can be helpful to explore in counselling, this could be pain from childhood, guilt for something you have done, fear from things you perceive in the world, work-related stress, relationship issues be that as an individual or as a couple. It can be about a fear you have such as flying, it may be about how unhappy you are in your personal/social life or maybe an addiction or loss. These are endless reasons to come for counselling and these are just a starting point.
- Trauma or abuse
- A recent shock such as a break-up, a loss of work, loss of a loved one
- Issues in your personal life
- Fears you wish to overcome
- Unhealthy thoughts
- Unhealthy habits
These are only the tip of the iceberg and counselling can help with a large number of issues
What to expect and how it works
This is a short break down of the main things to expect when coming for counselling
- After deciding that you want help the next step is booking your first session, you can do this using my online booking system or you can contact me to arrange it. You can pay for the first session online at the time of booking or in cash on your first session.
- There is nothing that you need to bring to your session, just come along at the agreed time. (some feel it is helpful to bring such things as notes or writing or a writing pad, this is up to each person and will not change the way we work)
- The first thing I do with all clients when they arrive is welcome them into my therapy room and offer and make a drink.
- We then spend the time talking about your issue in depth, more on this part later.
- Towards the end of your time, a small sound will indicate that the time is almost up, at this point we finish off anything we are currently talking about as there is no time to open up new topics.
- Unless it's your last session we discuss your next session booking and say our farewells for the week.
Counselling is an individual thing and each person has a slightly different way of working, talking, trusting, opening up, processing, etc. This means that the way we talk is up to you, I do not tell you how you should talk or the things you should talk about or the way you should do it. The space is yours to look at and talk about what is bothering you.
As a general rule we talk about and focus on the issue you came to get help with, we often focus on how the issue is affecting you now. It is sometimes painful, stressful or fearful as you are working on wounds that hold you back and there is often a fear of appearing silly or weak and fear that you will not be able to change, this is not the case as I and everyone else also feels the same with their issues, this is why it takes an element of courage to open up and talk and it is expected that it will be a little difficult however as you start to talk and relax these fears soon pass.
The first session is very often considerably less stressful than people expect or fear as it is the expectation of it that is fearful. Once in the room, almost everyone sees it is relaxed, calm and they see the understanding and desire to help in my eyes.
How it changes
Over a few sessions of talking and opening up about your issues you will start to feel better as you offload and feel heard and as the feelings that are buried come to the suffice and you start to evaluate yourself and start finding ways that can help you feel better and as part of the work you naturally start to shift and change as the new insights and awareness come from our work. It's through talking and exploring that you find a way to feel better about your issue, it's just a question of taking the risk and trusting that you can find a better way.
My role is to help support you as you express your issues, I am here to help you understand and make sense of your life. I am here to help you feel relaxed, safe and free to be the full you without fear of judgment or opinion, I am here to reflect back to you things I see, hear, think and feel as we talk. It may be that I do this by pointing out discrepancies; for example, if you said something like “I don't care about him” but you looked down at your feet when you said it. Or maybe if I notice a pattern of thoughts from you that all lead to the idea or belief that you are not enough or unworthy. My role is to listen to you as fully as I can and to give you more than just a chat with a friend or family member. I am impartial and don't have my own agenda when talking meaning you are free to allow your thoughts and feelings to flow where they want to. Am here to help you move from where you are to where you want to be by creating the right place/space for you to change or grow in the way you wish to, to help empower you and help you heal, move on or adapt. I am here to show you a more fully formed picture of yourself and nurture a positive view of yourself and your options.
What is the goal or outcome
Only you as the client can set the end goal or decide the place you wish to be as only you know what will make you happy. The goal or outcome is your own in counselling and a goal set by anyone else like a boss, a parent or lover or even a counsellor will not be true to you. The goal or outcome of counselling differs for each person who comes for counselling as each individual has different issues and has a different point that they would like to reach before they felt happy. An example could be someone feeling trapped in their career. A goal could be to get to a place of being able to get up and work each day without feeling sad and for someone else, they would not feel anything less than a change into a career and feeling fulfilled a success.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a fully qualified and trained person-centred counsellor. To give clients the greatest help I can I draw upon the years of professional training I received as well as years of experience working with a vast range of clients. I also use my personal life experiences and all the knowledge gained from hundreds of books, countless video presentations, seminars, talks and other forms of wisdom I have acquired. I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy and I work to their framework and code of practice.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Behaviour problems
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Tourette's syndrome
- Work-related stress
My fee per hour is based on the time of day, this is due to later hours having more value to me when I wish to spend time with family and loved ones, for this reason, my fee is reduced for early sessions, however you always get the same very high level and standard from me regardless of the time.
Fees are based on the start time of sessions. I offer sessions between 9 am and 8 pm most days a week however I do not work all these hours, please see the calendar when booking for my availability.
I offer a small limited number of low rate (£20 an hour) sessions per week however these are for those who feel they need help but struggle with costs
- My session fee is £30 (9am-3pm) £40 (4pm-5pm) £50 (6pm-7pm) £60 (8pm-9pm) for a 1-hour session
- If you wish to have a longer session it is £20 for the second hour regardless of the start time
- All but your first session booked requires a down payment to hold and reserve the time. This is done by paying a one time £20 ahead payment to cover your next session that carries over each week and is used in the last session as part of the session payment.
If you would like to know more about me and the way I work or maybe ask me a question feel free to visit my webpage where you can find more info and an easy contact form.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I have a set of steps leading up to my front door and the facilities in my home are upstairs
I work from 10am to 6pm most days a week and also a few evenings depending on other commitments. Please use the online booking option on my webpage to check my availability
Types of client