Sally Cloke, Dip Couns, Reg MBACP
1 The Russetts
01303 813957 / 07743 401350
Are you struggling with a situation in your life, which is causing you to experience distress and need some help?
Would you like to improve your relationships?
Do you want someone to talk to who will listen to you fully and without judgement?
Hello, my name is Sally and am a registered Integrative Counsellor and have received NHS training within a BACP accredited college.
I provide a safe, comfortable and confidential space where you can talk about what is causing you to experience emotional difficulties and distress. I am here to listen to you carefully and validate your feelings in an accepting, deeply understanding and genuine manner.
How I can help you:
I understand it's important that you feel comfortable and can connect with your counsellor. With this in mind, we can arrange a free face to face initial consultation or if you prefer discuss your needs over the phone.
We can discuss your specific needs and answer any questions regarding the counselling process. If we believe we can successfully work together we would discuss the practicalities and arrange our first counselling session.
Alternatively, I am able to offer home visits, which may be helpful if you would like to explore relationship difficulties and where childcare is difficult. Or perhaps you have limited mobility, or where isolation or anxiety may cause you to experience difficulties in accessing counselling. To explore your particular circumstances please contact me, so we can discuss these further.
I am trained to work with Individuals, Young people and Children, in addition to working with Couples. I am able to provide both Discernment Counselling, which enables us to see if problems in your marriage are solvable. With clarity, we then may move to Couple Relationship Counselling if you decide you would both like to work on the difficulties you are experiencing.
I have a wealth of experience which I have gained within the private, public and voluntary sectors of working with children, teenagers, adults and families. I have always believed in the importance of building a trusting and genuine relationship and it is my view that a relational approach empowers an individual to feel able to express previously unexpressed feelings.
Areas of difficulties I have experience of working with include:
- Affairs and betrayals
- Bereavement and loss
- Contemplation of divorce
- Emotional, physical and sexual abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorders
- Panic attacks
- Relationship difficulties
- Separation and divorce
- Stress related work issues
- Trauma - resulting from experiences in life
My approach is Integrative, which means I am able to draw from a range of therapeutic approaches enabling me to meet your needs in an individually tailored way. Moving away from the presenting issues and symptoms towards a deeper level, revealing a more genuine and contented individual.
I am experienced in building a trusting therapeutic relationship with the view to empower you, which has a positive impact on your confidence to make your own decisions. I do however, understand that it is not easy to talk about what is troubling you, so please be assured I will be led by your pace with which you are comfortable with.
Our relational way of working together will be based on my accepting you fully and will not judge you in any way. It is my belief that when therapy is of a good quality you will better placed to feel safe enough to take risks in what is shared.
Importantly, I welcome and value your honesty in expressing how you feel we are working together, which I believe deepens the quality and value of our work together.
Sometimes you may have uncomfortable feelings and I would like to reassure you, that I welcome your thoughts and feelings and opportunities to explore what may be happening between us within our therapeutic relationship.
You may be suffering from unresolved feelings of hurt or loss leaving you confused and frustrated as to what may be happening to you and unhappy with what you may be experiencing in your life. I am here to listen carefully and fully to you in such a way that may be new to you.
Weekday, evening and Saturday morning appointments are available.
I also offer Skype sessions, which enable us to connect in a way, which you may find more convenient given our busy lifestyles or perhaps sometimes the necessity to spend time away from home.
Private parking is provided and situated conveniently adjacent to my consulting room which is discreet in its location.
“I just think it has been a fantastic experience, you have helped me through these months. Without you I wouldn’t be where I am, able to reflect and see things with a fresh perspective and make changes.” - Mark
"I would like to thank you very much for your help and understanding when I was at the most desperate state of my life and so alone. When I came to counselling I had no expectations or idea what I wanted. I do not think I would have returned to my usual self without your help that has been welcoming, attentive and insightful. I now understand counselling is a journey which has been exactly what I needed.
In the future anyone who receives counselling from you will be well served." Anonymous
"I was treading water.
I was thrown a lifebelt.
I became safe and secure in a lifeboat.
I was finally able to reach the shore." - Anonymous
A Martian Journey
"When we started the journey, I had no idea where we would go.
During our journey we have meandered to visit many places.
Most places were where I needed to visit, but we visited some very unexpected places.
As the hills towards the end of our journey came into view, I became fearful of the end.
However as we crest the hills, I can see a new journey starting as we part." - Andrew
“Once again you were there for me. All my sessions with you have been emotional and helpful. I am not the devastated soul that you first met. Thank you very very much for helping me to transition to a new life. All the best in the future. – Anonymous
Training, qualifications & experience
My training within an NHS provision has enabled me to gain experience of practising in a range of counselling provisions and continue to provide counselling within a charitable organisation, which is important to me and find rewarding.
I hold a Diploma with Credit in Integrative Counselling accredited by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).
Certificate in Counselling Studies
Certificate in Counselling Skills
Couples Relationship Counselling
My experience includes currently working with children and young people who are statemented with Autism.
Living with Autism may be experienced as confusing and isolating, alongside difficulties to recognise, understand and express feelings. This can lead to social and communication difficulties and therefore prove challenging to connect with their own emotions or of those of others.
Change is particularly difficult as the familiar may now become confusing, unsettling and frequently resulting in experiencing associated feelings of anxiety. These changes may appear small but can be significantly upsetting for the individual, which frequently lead to obsessive behaviour in order to manage the anxiety. When living with Autism there may be feelings of disconnection within their environment or society, which can heighten isolation and loneliness and impacting on self esteem and experiencing positive emotional well being.
For some individuals who live with Autism the symptoms can be so distressing and confusing that alternative ways to cope may be sought. These could lead to addictions, self harming or a tendency to become involved in abusive relationships, to feel a sense of belonging or escapism from their reality. These may be perceived in a way to escape the pain, isolation and difference felt, however frequently resulting in further pain and suffering for the individual.
Furthermore, I have experience of provided counselling to children and young people within residential settings and facilitated therapeutic consultations with qualified foster carers.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Children’s learning difficulties
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sex addiction
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Other areas of counselling I deal with
If you are considering divorce, however are uncertain this may be the right path for you, I am able to provide discernment counselling. This is short-term work, not to solve marital difficulties, rather to consider if they could be solved.
It is my intention that successful discernment counselling enables both partners to reach a deeper understanding of themselves and what has happened within their marriage. Therefore promoting greater clarity and gaining increased confidence in making decisions to work towards more healthy and meaningful lives.
Couples Relationship Counselling
Working relationally underpins my practice with individuals, therefore it is only natural that this remains true and is reflective of how I work within my couples counselling. My focus is to work with the ‘relationship’, rather than individuals. My training is integrative in nature and as such enables me to draw from several prominent theory - based approaches and to tailor how I work to be able to meet the needs of each couple.
For couples interested in my confidential services, please contact me so that I am able to email you both a copy of my Terms and Conditions and Questionnaire. Once you and your partner have completed and returned these to me these will help me to understand a little more about your situation. I will then contact you to arrange an appointment to meet with you.
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My fee for Individual work is:
One hour session £60.00
My fees for Couple and Discernment Counselling are:
One hour Couples Session: £70.00
One hour Individual Session: £60.00
I am able to offer concessionary rates for students and people on a very low income or in special circumstances.
I would like to assure you that when our working arrangements have been agreed, the contract between us ensures your appointment time is protected and solely available to you.
Therefore I operate a 48 hour cancellation policy. This means I would require payment for any missed sessions without 48 hours cancellation notice.
You will find my consulting room in Brabourne and is ideally located to serve the town of Ashford and Hythe and the surrounding villages of Sellindge, Aldington, Bonnington, Mersham, Willesboro, Lympne, Wye and Brook.
My room is light, calming and comfortable with discreet parking always available on the drive which is adjacent to my room.
My work is fully supervised which adheres to the requirement of the British Association Counselling Psychotherapy Code of Ethics (BACP). I am a registered member of the BACP, I am fully insured and hold a current enhanced DSB, (Police check).
I am passionate and value my ongoing professional development and actively seek out opportunities to ensure my continued learning of new skills and to remain aware of current research and evidence.
Continuing Professional Development includes:
- Working with OCD
- Attachment - relational working
- Personality disorders
- Loss: What does life mean for me now? (BACP conference) Including - The cost of porn and sex addiction
If you would like more information about the way I work and what to expect, please visit my website: www.sallycloke.co.uk
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I offer a range of appointment times including daytime, evening and Saturday morning and understand that lives are busy and time is precious.
Types of client