Ruta Zukaite, Dip.Couns MBACP
First of all, from my own experience I know how difficult it can be to find a counsellor you 'click' with. This is why I offer free initial face-to-face consultations.
My counselling practice is guided by a belief that we all have a natural impulse toward self-healing/self-correction when we feel supported. I feel passionate about my profession. I am so grateful for all the times I could witness beautiful transformation in my clients. My aim is to help individuals get in touch with their inner voices, regain their sense of self and strengthen their resilience to overcome difficulties that they are facing.
My approach is relational, experiential and emotion-focused. It stems from research on attachment and neuroscience. Our conversations will be compassionate explorations of your emotions, somatic experiences, and formative experiences while having a new and good experience with me that heals old wounds. I am a certified MBET (Mindfulness Based Experiential Therapy) therapist. Currently I am attending Essential Skills Level2 training in AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) and I am literally falling in love with this magical approach. I gravitated towards AEDP because it was firmly grounded in current neuroscience and in how emotions can be strategically used to bring forth positive transformation. And in AEDP, the stance of the therapist is informed by excellent research in attachment. Providing a safe environment for the patient makes it possible for them to explore new parts of themselves that were, until now, too scary or shameful to approach.
If this still sounds alien to you, I'd like to tell you a little bit more about the way I work:
I work with emotions so if emotions are coming up I may stop you and ask if we can slow down and let the emotions come. I also work very relationally. So I may check with you during our time together and ask if you are feeling I am understanding you, if you feel I am with you. I also work experientially which means I focus on what is happening right now - in this moment. You may be telling me about something that happened yesterday or a long time ago - and I want to hear about it and I'd also like to stop you and ask what you are experiencing now as you are telling me this. I may ask you about your family of origin, about your childhood, about adolescence as experiences in these stages of life have a great impact on how we see ourselves and how we see others.
Training, qualifications & experience
- CPCAB Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling using Mindfulness based Experiential approach
- Fully registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
- Certificate in Essential Skills Level 1 AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy)
- Currently in an ongoing Essential Skills Level 2 AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) training
- Trainings in Mindfulness Techniques
- Trainings in Working with Obesity and Weight Management
- Facilitation of Mindfulness workshops
- Trainings in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
- Facilitation of Psycho-educational groups
- Psychological assessments
Areas of counselling I deal with
Photos & videos
I offer 50 minute sessions at the same time each week.
Initial face-to-face/Skype consultation - free
Face to face session - £50
Skype session - £40
Guided breathing meditation:
Guided meditation to help with pain or overwhelming emotions:
My favourite poem:
The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals, or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain - mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own.
If you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful - to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes.”
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Thursday: 11.00-16.00; 18.00-19.00
Types of client