Ruma Verma, MSc, UKCP registered Psychotherapist
- Hi, welcome to my page, I fully appreciate how daunting it must be to find yourself here and looking for some help. I am fully qualified insured professional psychotherapist working with individuals and couples. I work with you on a weekly basis although depending on your situation we may agree to meet twice weekly.
Work with individuals
I work with individuals (from age 16), working with anxiety, low mood and depression, identity issues, low self esteem, stress, emptiness, sadness, loss, grief and bereavement, relationship and family issues including communication skills, cultural issues, anger management, health concerns, work issues including stress and redundancy, sexuality, trauma and abuse, and suicidal thoughts.
My frame is humanistic using Transactional Analysis which uses different models of how to work that best suit your situation. Over time I have completed and incorporated other teachings so as to integrate my learning to help you.
Often, when we feel empty, stuck, low or are experiencing struggles in our personal or work life we may think about coming to counselling. We may have developed patterns of relating that are unhelpful and leave us unfulfilled and unhappy or ill at ease.
Therapy enables you to identify what the issues maybe, to explore how you think and feel about them and to uncover how you relate to others and indeed to life. It provides a new focus and reflective space to gain awareness and insight into your processes and to provide you with support and growth. It is a safe place to experiment to enable you to have choices and options going forward.
I respect each individual's unique experience. Our work will be to explore and uncover it's meaning working together.
Transactional analysis is a theory about personality that enables us working together to understand how you maybe relating to others, the patterns that you may have developed and to gain insight and awareness. It is also a theory about communication so as to raise your own understanding of how you come across to others and to help you to say the things that you might find challenging so as to improve your situation.
My work is empathic and compassionate and above all non judgmental. I work relationally so I will keeping a close eye on how we relate with each other and the unconscious dynamics that come into play between us. I am interested in attachment styles and we will work together to resolve how these may become evident in our coupling. I am committed to working through these with you which makes our relationship therapeutic and real.
Generally therapy is about gaining emotional support. Counselling is when we are aware of a stressor or event causing us discomfort whereas psychotherapy is about looking at relationship patterns.
I understand how to take that initial step maybe daunting so I usually suggest a free telephone call to see how we may work together. It is very much a two way process as you need to be comfortable with me too.
I am happy to discuss with you before you commit to coming as I understand how it is to initiate something that you are unsure of. However, it is the first step to looking after yourself. Let's start the conversation.
In my work with couples I want to hear from you both to gain an understanding of the relationship as that is my client for therapy. How can we work together to foster better communication and understanding between the two of you? That is the key. After our initial meeting I may suggest a one-off meeting with one or other of you as well to grasp the issues of relating that maybe troubling you.
Way in which I work
Generally people are unclear and unsure about a lot of things including counselling at the start.
I usually ask that after the first session and our mutual agreement to work together that you commit for at least 12 sessions. That maybe enough but during that time we will be exploring the issues that have led to your coming and to see if they can be resolved, worked through, and understood.
We will then decide if a longer term or open ended therapy is right for you. Others maybe looking to working open ended to find support in this increasingly isolated world we live in.
The session will usually be at the same time on the same day of the week for 50 minutes with individuals or couples.Research has shown that weekly counselling is hugely beneficial due to it's cumulative effect hence the emphasis on a regular meeting each week.
I start and end sessions on time.
I work in Twickenham which is readily accessible by public transport or by car from Surrey and south west London areas such as Richmond, Hounslow, Teddington, Barnes, Putney, Kingston, Hampton, Hounslow, Osterley, Isleworth, Heston, Ealing, Brentford, Chiswick, Hanworth and Feltham.
Training, qualifications & experience
My extensive training has all been at Metanoia Institute, London a highly recognised training institute with an excellent reputation.
I understand that where I trained may not mean much if anything to you but it provides you with reassurance that you can expect is a level and standard of training and professionalism to our work.
Diploma in Pyschotherapeutic Counselling, Metanoia Institute.
Diploma in Psychotherapy, Metanoia Institute
CTA (P), EATA,
MSc (Pysch), Middlesex University
Certificate in Couples Counselling Tavistock Relationships,
Volunteer Counsellor at Metanoia Counselling & Pyschotherapy Service, (up to 36 sessions) Wimbledon Guild (working with a 60 session model) and West London Centre for Counselling (IAPT NHS 12 session model) in Hammersmith.
I am a member of UKCP, IARTA and Metanoia Institute and am guided by their ethical principles to ensure my work is respectful and mindful at all times. My work is regularly supervised by trained and accountable supervisors.
I attend regular training for my development and growth as well as CPD.
I accept referrals from employee assistance programmes and some insurers; if you supply an authorisation code
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
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My fees are £60 for an individual and £80 for couples each for a 50 minute session.
My fees are reviewed on an annual basis and the fees above take this into account for 2019.
My therapy space is close to public transport links with SW Trains and buses. There is also free parking roadside subject to availability and RFU traffic regulations.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
|Other languages:||Punjabi and Hindi|
Ground floor room accessible via a ramp with hand rails and disabled toilet facilities.
Mornings, afternoons and evenings weekdays.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|