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CertCCRelate, PG Dip (Couple Therapy), MBACP

About me

I am a couple counsellor/therapist with over 20 years experience working with Relate and in private practice with couples and individuals on relationship issues.

Since the outbreak of Coronavirus I prefer to work either via Zoom or FaceTime. On the odd occasion I can arrange a face to face meeting but this is not my preferred regular situation.

There may be challenging times in your relationship which make you feel stuck, hopeless or prevent you from moving forward in a constructive, fulfilling way.  Acknowledging that your relationship may need help or support does not mean that you have failed in some way, it just means that you are searching for a new way of being or a resolution to your problems.

Problems can arise for all sorts of reasons. It may be the circumstances and situation you find yourselves in emotionally and/or physically together with all the pressures of modern life that are causing difficulties. On the other hand it may be experiences and relationships from the past are interferring at an emotional and psychological level with your current situation.

I see my work as supporting, helping and enabling people to explore and find new solutions, ideas and conclusions for whatever is going on for them and to enable progress in communication and greater awareness of themselves, each other and the relationship.

I offer a safe, confidential environment in my home with ample parking and work in a flexible way geared towards a clients needs and personality.  I feel this is very important because as individuals we are all unique and respond differently to various approaches and ideas.

Training, qualifications & experience

Relate training 1987 - 91
ACC training 1992
Certificate in Marital and Couple Counselling 1996
Post Graduate diploma in Relationship Therapy 2007 (psychodynamic and systemic)
Ongoing CPDs

My experience includes working both with individuals and couples on various issues which affect their relationship and I have also worked with conflict resolution within teams of management in business.

My referrals have come from various sources including GPs and solicitors.

Continuing professional development is ongoing and just some areas covered are
mental health and couple counselling, adult survivors of sexual abuse, affairs, solution focussed therapy, loss and bereavement, mindfulness, creative therapy techniques, crisis counselling, transactional analysis.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

depression in relationship
effects of redundancy on relationship
effects of serious illness on relationship
loss - both financial or emotional within relationship


From £75.00 to £80.00

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Students

Additional information

Since the outbreak of Covid I am offering Zoom and FaceTime at reduced rates of £70.00 per hour.   If, on the odd occasion, I do arrange a face to face session this will revert to £80.00 per 60 minute session.

These fees are negotiable where there is a low income.

When I work

I see a limited number of clients Monday to Friday day or early evening and occasionally on a Saturday morning.  I have varied availability and am prepared to be flexible regarding times.

Further information

What is relationship therapy?

It is where a couple come for counselling in order to find a way of overcoming difficulties in their relationship. Time to focus on each other. Focus on the relationship in a neutral space and be able to put their point across in a heard and safe environment.  It is about clearing barriers and understanding the difference in the narratives so therefore having the potential to re-write the story of the relationship.

Often only an individual within a relationship will come. With this a different approach is needed but a change can still be impacted because as the individual grows in awareness and understanding of themselves and their situation, they begin to evolve and this can cause a shift in the dynamics of the relationship.

Reading, Berkshire, RG4

Henley-on-Thames, Oxfordshire, RG9

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults

Key details

The room I work from is on the ground floor although there is a step at the front door. I do however work online or by telephone.