Becky Stokes BSc (Hons) PgDip MBACP
If you’re struggling with stress, anxiety, or unwanted thoughts and feelings, or just want to understand yourself a bit better, I’d be very happy to hear from you.
Counselling can help you to deal with a tricky or unpleasant situation, overcome stress and anxiety, manage depression, increase your confidence, silence your inner critic, improve your relationships, create better boundaries, and gain a better understanding of yourself.
By offering you a safe space to talk about what really matters to you, I can help you move towards the freedom in your life that you've been craving.
The positive effects of counselling can last you for the rest of your life!
Although I can help you in any area of your life, I specialise in working with people who are looking for love by offering relationship counselling for individuals/singles (see my specialist website: www.findlovethroughtherapy.co.uk).
I am a fully qualified, BACP-registered, counsellor and psychotherapist based in Dunoon, Argyll, on the beautiful west coast of Scotland, with several years experience of working with adults of differing ages and backgrounds with a range of issues, both in short-term counselling and longer-term therapy. I have a quiet and calm approach to working, with a dash of humour thrown in if appropriate!
Being person-centred, I believe that everyone is unique and has their own perspective on life, based on their thoughts, feelings and beliefs. You are the expert in your own life (even if it doesn’t always feel like it), so I’m not going to judge you, or give you advice or tell you what to do. Instead, through empathy, openness and kindness, I will help support you to explore how your situation feels for you and, by building a relationship of trust and respect between us, together we can work towards finding the best way to move forward for you.
I offer 50-minute counselling sessions, with a reduced rate for the initial session which will allow us the opportunity to get to know each other and find out if we would like to work together.
Please note that due to Covid-19 restrictions, all counselling sessions are currently taking place via video (Zoom) until further notice. The situation is under regular review and face-to-face sessions will resume as soon as I feel satisfied that it is safe to do so.
I understand that going for counselling, or even enquiring about it, may make you feel nervous or anxious, but please don’t let that be the barrier that stops you from seeking the help you deserve. Be assured that I will always do my best to put you at ease. I am here to help and will be happy to hear from you.
If you would like to enquire about booking an appointment, or have any further questions, please don’t hesitate to contact me.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have a BSc (Hons) degree in Psychology, a Postgraduate Certificate in Counselling Skills, and a Postgraduate Diploma in Psychological Wellbeing, Counselling and Psychotherapy. I also have a Certificate in Online and Telephone Counselling.
I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and adhere to their code of ethics, as well as having regular clinical supervision and continuing professional development.
I have several years experience of working with adults of differing ages and backgrounds with a range of issues, both in short-term counselling and longer-term therapy. I also currently work part time at Argyll and Bute Women’s Aid, offering counselling to women who have experienced domestic abuse, as well as providing admin support to the organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Although I can help you in any area of your life, I specialise in working with people who are looking for love.
Are you looking for 'the one' but keep falling for the same type of person, kissing too many frogs (or not enough!), or living with the agony of unrequited love?
I know what it's like to have your heart broken, feel used, and be cheated on; to fancy someone from afar only for them never to notice you, and start believing that you're unlovable and destined to be alone forever - because I've been there (and got a large collection of t-shirts to prove it!).
There's lots of information out there about how to snare the person of your dreams, but instead of following a set of rules, how about giving counselling a go? It's the only thing that worked for me, and now I want to be able to help you.
Counselling can help you to:
Find the real you
By learning to understand who you are and what you want, you’ll gain a better perspective of what you are looking for in someone else.
Understand what love is
By identifying how you think about love and relationships, counselling can support you to overcome any beliefs that may be influencing how you approach relationships or the type of person you are attracted to.
Overcome the issues that are keeping you stuck
Finding love isn’t about how attractive or intelligent or wealthy you are. It is often things such as low self-esteem, attachment issues, control issues, or unrealistic expectations that can stop you finding the love you are looking for. Exploring these issues in counselling can help you to change the way you relate to others and give you a new-found confidence when it comes to love and dating.
Differentiate between what you think you want and what you actually want
Do you want to settle down and get married because that’s what your parents think you should be doing? Are you sleeping around because that is what your friends think you should be doing? Counselling offers a space for you to explore what it is that you’re actually looking for instead of what others are wanting for you.
I can't promise to find you the person of your dreams, but I can support you to become the best version of you, your authentic self, to give you the freedom and clarity that will help to bring the right kind of love into your life.
£40.00 per session
The initial session cost is £35, and £40 for each subsequent session.
By video: payment is by bank transfer, and must be paid at least 24 hours in advance.
Face-to-face: payment can be by cash, cheque or bank transfer. If you wish to pay by bank transfer, the payment needs to be made at least 24 hours in advance.
As appointments can be in demand, if you wish to cancel a session, please contact me as soon as possible. This gives me the chance to offer your appointment slot to someone who may be waiting for an appointment. If you fail to attend a session without letting me know in advance, or cancel a session with less than 24 hours’ notice, you will be charged £20 for the session.
I currently have afternoon and evening sessions available.