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Looking for someone to talk to about relationships? I am an online counsellor who specialises in relationships, working with individuals to help them improve their relationship, or support them to leave a relationship, find a relationship, or move on from heartbreak - and everything in between.
If you are in a relationship:
Are you feeling unsatisfied in your relationship but don’t know what to do to change it? Maybe you’re not sure if you want to continue to stay in the relationship, or would like support to help you end it. Maybe your partner is controlling or even abusive and you feel you have nowhere to turn. Or maybe you’re the one who exerts control over your partner and would like to stop but don’t know how.
If you have just come out of a relationship:
Has your relationship just ended and you’re struggling with overwhelming feelings, wondering what happened, why, and what you can do about it? You may even be feeling physical pain, or just feel numb and empty inside.
If you are looking for a relationship:
Are you wishing you were in relationship and wondering why you can’t find anyone or why your relationships don’t last? Or maybe you’re living with the agony of unrequited love and don’t know what to do about it.
Whatever the relationship issue, do you feel you can't talk to anyone about it? Maybe you’re scared of being judged, or feel that you don't want to burden anyone, or think that no-one wants to listen, or that no-one will understand how you feel or what you're going through?
How counselling can help:
There's lots of information out there about how to have the perfect relationship, or how to find the person of your dreams, but it's not always a case of one size fits all. Everyone is unique and therefore every relationship is different. Counselling offers you an alternative perspective on yourself and your relationship patterns - a bespoke service that is completely tailored to you and your particular needs or issues.
I can help you to:
- Overcome the issues that are keeping you stuck
Finding love isn’t about how attractive or intelligent or wealthy you are. It is often things such as low self-esteem, attachment issues, control issues, or unrealistic expectations that can stop you finding the love you are looking for. Exploring these issues in counselling can help you to change the way you relate to others and give you a new-found confidence when it comes to your relationship(s).
- Differentiate between what you think you want and what you actually want
Do you want to settle down and get married because that’s what your friends and family (or even society) think you should be doing? Are you sleeping around because that is what your friends think you should be doing? Are you staying in a relationship because you don't think you deserve any better or worried about the consequences of leaving it? Counselling offers a space for you to explore what it is that you’re actually looking for instead of what others are wanting for you.
- Understand what love is
By identifying how you think about love and relationships, counselling can support you to overcome any beliefs that may be influencing how you approach relationships or the type of person you are attracted to.
- Find the real you
By learning to understand who you are and what you want, you’ll gain a better perspective of what you are looking for in someone else.
Working with UK-based adults aged 18 and over, I offer a safe, non-judgemental space to give you the chance to talk about whatever it is that you're struggling with, and help support you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences, so we can both fully understand what it is like to be you and why you feel the way you do. This will give you greater clarity about yourself and your situation, which in turn will lead us to discover what we can do to change how you currently feel.
I can't promise to find you the person of your dreams or give you the perfect relationship, but I can support you to become the best version of you, your authentic self, to give you the freedom and clarity that will help you to make confident decisions about relationships that are right for you.
How I work
I use a person-centred approach to counselling. I believe that everyone is unique and has their own perspective on life, based on their thoughts, feelings and beliefs, gained through their previous experiences.
Because you're the only one who knows exactly how you feel or what you've been through, I'm not able to give you advice or tell you what to do to make you feel better. Instead, through building a relationship of trust and respect between us, we can work together towards finding the best way forward for you. A truly bespoke experience, tailored solely to you.
I offer 50-minute counselling sessions, with a reduced rate for the initial session which will allow us the opportunity to get to know each other and find out if we would like to work together.
All sessions are online via video (Zoom), so you can access all the benefits of counselling from the comfort of your own home, whilst eliminating the cost, time, stress and inconvenience of travelling to and from appointments.
A little more about me
Born and raised on the Cheshire/North Wales border, I am a fully qualified, BACP-registered, counsellor and psychotherapist now based in Dunoon, Argyll, on the beautiful west coast of Scotland, with several years experience of working with adults of differing ages and backgrounds with a range of issues, both in short-term counselling and longer-term therapy. I have a quiet and calm approach to working, with a dash of humour thrown in if appropriate!
I understand that going for counselling, or even enquiring about it, may make you feel nervous or anxious, but please don’t let that be the barrier that stops you from seeking the help you deserve. Be assured that I will always do my best to put you at ease. I am here to help and will be happy to hear from you.
If you would like to enquire about booking an appointment, or have any further questions, please don’t hesitate to contact me. You may also want to visit my website: https://beckystokes-counsellor.co.uk.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BSc (Hons) degree in Psychology
- Postgraduate Certificate in Counselling Skills
- Postgraduate Diploma in Psychological Wellbeing, Counselling and Psychotherapy
- Certificate in Online and Telephone Counselling
I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and adhere to their code of ethics, as well as having regular clinical supervision and continuing professional development. I am also a member of ACTO (Association of Counselling and Therapy Online).
I have experience of working with adults of differing ages and backgrounds with a range of issues, both in short-term counselling and longer-term therapy.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).
Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.
Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.
All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Although I specialise in working with individuals with their relationship difficulties, I can help you in any area of your life, including (but not limited to) anxiety, low mood, stress at work.
I am always happy to hear from you, so if you are interested in working with me, whatever the issue, please feel free to contact me.
£45.00 per session
The initial session cost is £35, and £45 for each subsequent session.
Payment is by bank transfer, and must be paid at least 24 hours in advance.
As appointments can be in demand, if you wish to cancel a session, please contact me as soon as possible. This gives me the chance to offer your appointment slot to someone who may be waiting for an appointment. If you fail to attend a session without letting me know in advance, you will be charged the full session fee of £45. If you cancel a session in advance but with less than 24 hours’ notice, you will be charged £20 for the session.
When I work