Paul Thurtle - Registered Member MBACP
Hi, I'm Paul, a professional counsellor located in Chertsey, Surrey.
I offer non-judgemental, confidential and supportive counselling which focuses on my client’s specific needs and issues. I work one-to-one with adults and young people, and I offer both short and long term counselling.
I believe that counselling can give us an insight into the way we behave and help us to get in touch with our feelings and emotions. The things we were taught and learnt as children and our early relationships can influence us as adults causing us distress and upset. Being able to explore the past as well as present-day feelings can help to make sense of our lives and so live our lives in a more meaningful way.
For many of us, not thinking about those ‘difficult’ things can help us get through the day. These ‘difficult’ things might be unpleasant or frightening childhood memories. There may be events from our past that we find deeply shaming. We may have unresolved feelings about another person or regrets over the things said.
Lots of us find that counselling provides an opportunity to explore our feelings in a safe, confidential and supportive space. It can be hard work trying to keep these feelings suppressed. Doing so can lead to anxiety, low self esteem, obsessive behaviours, depression and an overwhelming sense of shame.
What to expect from counselling:
Some people find that a few sessions of counselling are sufficient; others use the sessions to explore feelings and ways of being. The journey we make together in counselling can be scary, sad and tearful, but can also be exciting, funny and liberating. New ways of being can be explored; the opportunity to be with another person who is a companion not an instructor, provides an environment where change can take place. This can happen suddenly or over a longer time period.
Whatever our age we can still change; we can still discover things about ourselves; we can surprise ourselves with our strengths, our resilience and our willingness to get through. Counselling can help to reflect on the way we relate to others; we can explore intimacy, boundaries and the sort of relationship we want to have.
It can be a relief to share our fantasies, dreams and aspirations knowing that they will be received non-judgmentally; all too often others shut us down when we want to be heard. We soon learn to shut down as our feelings and desires are seen as off limits by others. This leads to isolation and a sense of being disconnected from others. It can also be helpful to discuss the things that stimulate us.
If you would like to discuss how we can work together, please get in touch.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Foundation Degree in Humanistic Counselling.
- Diploma in Adolescent and Schools Counselling from the Metanoia Institute.
- My BACP Membership No is 801236. BACP Registration No: 340886
I am a qualified teacher, I have a B.Ed. (Hons) degree and I hold the Diploma in Funeral Directing (N.A.F.D.). I have worked with children and bereavement and have extensive resources to support this area of my work.
My experience working in both education (as a primary school teacher) and as a funeral director means I am aware of the stresses and pressures of demanding and emotionally challenging professions.
For the past two years, I have worked one day a week as a volunteer counsellor working with bereaved clients at the Woking and Sam Beare Hospices. Earlier this year I worked one day a week as a volunteer counsellor in a Girl's High School working with young people.
I am experienced in working with people who are hard of hearing and am ‘Deaf Aware’. The room I work in is peaceful, comfortable, safe and well lit. I have some basic Sign Language (Sign Supporting English) and have used a ‘Total Communication’ approach with young people.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have some basic Sign Language (Sign Supporting English) and have used a ‘Total Communication’ approach with young people.
I also work with clients who practice Kink, B.D.S.M., and are A.B. Clients who are gay, bi and questioning/queer clients. And I also work with Trans clients.
Counselling can help to reflect on the way we relate to others; we can explore intimacy, boundaries and the sort of relationship we want to have.
8am – 6pm £50
6pm – 9pm £60
10am – 4pm £60
A reduction in fees can be discussed for senior citizens, unwaged, students, those working with children and in the funeral service.
I offer counselling from my practice based in my home in Chertsey, Surrey (close to St Peter’s Hospital and Junction 11 of the M25). I am local to Ottershaw, Virginia Water, Staines-upon-Thames, Egham, Shepperton, Chobham, Woking, New Haw, Addlestone, Weybridge and West Byfleet.