Paul Thurtle

Paul Thurtle

About me

I offer non-judgemental, confidential and supportive counselling which focuses on my client’s specific needs and issues.

My experience working in both education (as a primary school teacher) and as a funeral director means I am aware of the stresses and pressures of demanding and emotionally challenging professions.

I believe that counselling can give us an insight into the way we behave and help us to get in touch with our feelings and emotions. The things we were taught and learnt as children and our early relationships can influence us as adults causing us distress and upset. Being able to explore the past as well as present-day feelings in a non-threatening environment can help to make sense of our lives and so live our lives in a more meaningful way.

I work one-to-one with adults and young people. I offer both short and long term counselling.

For many of us, not thinking about those ‘difficult’ things can help us get through the day. These ‘difficult’ things might be unpleasant or frightening childhood memories. There may be events from our past that we find deeply shaming. We may have unresolved feelings about another person or regrets over the things we might have said.

It can be hard work trying to keep these feelings suppressed. Doing so can lead to anxiety, low self esteem, obsessive behaviours, depression and an overwhelming sense of shame.

Lots of us find that counselling provides an opportunity to explore our feelings in a safe, confidential and supportive space.

Some people find that a few sessions of counselling are sufficient; others use the sessions to explore feelings and ways of being. The journey we make together in counselling can be scary, sad and tearful, but can also be exciting, funny and liberating. New ways of being can be explored; the opportunity to be with another person who is a companion not an instructor, provides an environment where change can take place. This can happen suddenly or over a longer time period.

Whatever our age we can still change; we can still discover things about ourselves; we can surprise ourselves with our strengths, our resilience and our willingness to get through.

It can be a relief to share our fantasies, dreams and aspirations knowing that they will be received non-judgmentally; all too often others shut us down when we want to be heard. We soon learn to shut down as our feelings and desires are seen as off limits by others. This leads to isolation and a sense of being disconnected from others. It can also be helpful to discuss fetishes such as Kink, B.D.S.M., A.B. and various other things that stimulate us.

I believe that life is not binary and that we are not binary; I work with and believe in diversity. I have worked with gay, bi and questioning/queer clients. I also work with Trans clients.

Counselling can help to reflect on the way we relate to others; we can explore intimacy, boundaries and the sort of relationship we want to have.

For the past two years I have worked one day a week as a voluntary counsellor working with bereaved clients at the Woking and Sam Beare Hospices.

I am experienced in working with people who are hard of hearing and am ‘Deaf Aware’. The room I work in is peaceful, comfortable, safe and well lit.

I have some basic Sign Language (Sign Supporting English) and have used a ‘Total Communication’ approach with young people.

Training, qualifications & experience

I studied at Guildford College and in 2017 I graduated from the University of Greenwich with a Foundation Degree in Humanistic Counselling.

I hold the Diploma in Adolescent and Schools Counselling from the Metanoia Institute.

My BACP Membership No is 801236.  BACP Registration No: 340886

I am a qualified teacher - I have a B.Ed. (Hons) degree and I hold the Diploma in Funeral Directing (N.A.F.D.).  I have worked with children and bereavement and have extensive resources to support this area of my work.

For the past two years, I have worked one day a week as a volunteer counsellor working with bereaved clients at the Woking and Sam Beare Hospices.

Earlier this year I worked one day a week as a volunteer counsellor in a Girl's High School working with young people.

I am experienced in working with people who are hard of hearing and am ‘Deaf Aware’.  The room I work in is peaceful, comfortable, safe and well lit.

I have some basic Sign Language (Sign Supporting English) and have used a ‘Total Communication’ approach with young people.

Member organisations

BACP

Accredited register membership

Other areas of counselling I deal with

I also work with clients who practice Kink, B.D.S.M., and are A.B.
I have worked with gay, bi and questioning/queer clients. I also work with Trans clients.
Counselling can help to reflect on the way we relate to others; we can explore intimacy, boundaries and the sort of relationship we want to have.

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Fees

WEEKDAYS: 8am – 6pm £50
6pm – 9pm £60

A reduction in fees can be discussed for senior citizens, unwaged, students, those working with children and in the funeral service.

WEEKENDS
10am – 4pm £60

Further information

I offer counselling from my practice based in my home in Chertsey, Surrey (close to St Peter’s Hospital and Junction 11 of the M25).

I am local to Ottershaw, Virginia Water, Staines-upon-Thames, Egham, Shepperton, Chobham, Woking, New Haw, Addlestone, Weybridge and West Byfleet.

Maps & Directions

Chertsey, KT16

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: No
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: Yes
Other languages: Sign Supporting English

Accessibility

Accessibility information
Wheelchair access: No

I can arrange a home visit if you have a disability or impairment.

Availability

Weekdays: 8am to 9pm Weekends: 10am to 4pm

Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults