Paul Lipman - MBACP. Individuals and Marriage and Relationships.
Should you wish you can find out in more detail how I can help by going to my website (above) or from the information (inc. couples counselling) below my profile.
I came into counselling following the help i needed in 2006 and having spent my first five years with organisations such as MIND i have since helped individuals and couples with every imaginable difficulty in my own practice.
Being a counsellor for me is many things. Sometimes it’s about coping strategies and supporting my clients through a tough time or loss, others want to develop qualities or change in some way and many are looking to be free of past events or have questions about themselves and their lives. Whatever brings you here there really is nothing too big to ask for help with.
Whilst I have much experience what I believe makes the difference is that I have lived with and worked through my own anxieties and difficulties in counselling and I know the thought of talking to a therapist can be daunting.
I remember when I first started counselling feeling scared, I might break down, about being totally honest and was vulnerable with little idea what to expect. So I may well have some idea about how you are feeling right now.
We can all struggle at times though and having counselling is an opportunity to change your life for the better and break negative patterns which keep you stuck. For me I changed in ways I couldn’t have imagined and want your experience to be the same and for you to be able to look forward to your sessions.
Never forgetting I offer an encompassing informal,relaxed and supportive environment and an open, warm and genuine relationship in which I am fully involved, working together and not a blank canvas. I find this approach creates the best outcome for therapy – allowing trust to naturally build, ensuring clients can come knowing they can explore anything about themselves without judgement and comfortable with me guiding them through what is a very personal journey
You will also find I’m compassionate by nature about whatever you have to say and sensitive when working through what is difficult for you. So yes, counselling can be tough at times however it is also empowering and freeing, leading to a sense of emotional well being.
... In counselling using a combination of techniques which I will help you learn and guidance you will gain greater self- awareness and understanding of your difficulties, change in ways which enable you to find your own answers and manage and control your emotions to be able to build a better quality of life, free from patterns of negative thinking, difficult feelings, unwanted behaviours or being overwhelmed by past events. Also further developing confidence in yourself and to express yourself freely.
My aim for you and all my clients is to be able to leave feeling better and confident in knowing how to cope, keep well and shape a life which is more than just getting by no matter what has happened in the past.We all deserve that!
Marriage and Relationships
Many who come to see me often feel hurt, misunderstood, frustrated and distant from each other. Counselling though can make a positive difference and many go on to enjoy a relationship which is stronger than if they had never had their difficulties.
I have no interest in taking sides or judging what has happened; and whilst there is is no road map to a successful relationship what I do know is that when we can communicate in respectful ways and replace "judgment" with understanding ourselves and each other more deeply answers to even the most difficult relationships can be found.
I will create a calm and safe space and help you:
- Know how to relate to each other in ways that develop warmth and love and allow you to feel good about yourself and each other.
- How to keep the fun and intimacy in your relationship and wanting each other.
- Ways of approaching conversations and being with each other which can repair hurts and wounds, enabling you to feel safe and trust each other.
- To be able to work together with your different personality and sensitivities in ways which fulfill your needs without becoming a bone of contention or competitive.
- Understand the role your history can play in your relationship and how any negative coping patterns keep you stuck in negative cycles.
- Ways to understand each other and find solutions during even the most difficult conversations without them breaking down or escalating into arguments.
- What next
I understand how difficult it can be to take the next step. That’s why you are welcome to call me for an informal chat or arrange an initial no obligation meeting after which you can decide if having counselling will be helpful for you.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have BACP Accredited qualifications in Integrative counselling and psychotherapy, Diploma qualifications which include relational development conflict resolution, Gestalt coaching and additional specialist training for those suffering from Trauma which includes abuse and rape including those with PTSD. I have also developed an in depth knowledge of how early life events continue to silently impact in adult life and lead to such difficulties as anxiety, depression, low self esteem or behavioural difficulties such as addiction, obsession and or paranoia.
I spent my first 5 years with National counselling organisations such as Mind, often helping at the more challenging end of mental health;with those in relationships, running groups and working to help those with longer term or extreme difficulties and specifically those experiencing anxiety and depression. Since then in my own practice.
Academic Diploma in Integrative Counselling.
WPF Certificate in Psycho-dynamic counselling
Child development and behaviors
Relational Development and Personal Communication
Trauma and recovery
Person Centred, Transctional Analysis, Gestalt and Relational counselling.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Depression, anxiety, anger, self-harm, eating disorders, attachment disorders, loss and grief, phobias, panic, sexuality, abuse, self harm, obsessions, addiction, post traumatic stress, Bipolar and Asperger syndrome.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma. (PTSD)
Specialist training by Babette Rothschild, one of the worlds foremost leading experts and authors in treating Trauma and PTSD. This means I understand the Autonomic Nervous System which is vital in choosing safe approaches.
BACP Accredited - Couples , Relationships & Communication
See my website for full details..
Anger Programs/ Courses
I have run Police funded Anger management courses for a Southern based counselling organisation.
BACP Accredited - Creativity
Working with: Arts, imagery, visualization, role play, body language and mindfulness techniques.
Other (experiential training)
Group Therapy / Psycho educational workshops
Gestalt systemic and family constellation therapy.
Gestalt experiential therapy
Gestalt Group facilitation and coaching
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Career counselling
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
With regard to counselling, I have over the years maintained a particular interest in developing help for those who's difficulties are of a deeper nature and longstanding. I have always been curious about how past experiences can unknowingly live on within us and continue to silently effect how we think, feel and behave many years later and keep us from solving our difficulties now or from building the kind of relationships we want.
As a result i have developed approaches which can help with most kinds of difficulties because to some degree or another we form our ways of coping in early life, often leaving us with unhelpful patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour. Together we can identify yours and work to disconnect from them. This leaves you free of difficult feelings, a silenced inner critic and clear minded and able to bring out and have others see your qualities.
Marriage and Relationship counselling: £75 - 55 min.
Individuals: £65 - 55 minutes.
I also offer counselling from Caterham (CR3).
I am committed to offering safe and effective counselling and:
- Retain Professional indemnity insurance
- Abide by the BACP Code of ethics
- Commit to ongoing professional development, keeping up with the latest advances and knowledge.
- Collaborate with other professionals if helpful, without breaking confidentiality
- Have professional clinical supervision to ensure I offer effective therapy and which is a BACP requirement.
- Never help outside my area of competence or experience.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I can offer appointments Monday to Friday 9am to 8:30pm. .
Types of client