Patrick Belas BSc MSW MA UKCP Registered
Thank you for your interest in my profile.
Here is some information which I hope will help you find a suitable counsellor or therapist.
I welcome questions from visitors and hope my replies might help people make better informed decisions about which counsellor to contact. I also find out what is important to those visiting the site. Any questions can be left on my email and will be treated in total confidence.
If you are uncertain about how to choose a counsellor or therapist it may be useful that after reading and comparing counsellor's profiles, an initial phone call and/or face to face meeting may help with the decision. Trusting your instincts can often be the best evidence.
Part of the my interest is in helping people consider what if any type of counselling or therapy might be most useful (such as individual, couple, family or group). I am a dual qualified professional who has had significant trainings and experience in various Multidisciplinary Units across the country. I am therefore able to offer a broader understanding of different counselling and therapy approaches for people to consider. Some of this I may be able to provide but importantly I know my limitations too. I do however have a good knowledge of other counsellors/therapists/psychotherapists who may be able to help in these circumstances.
In terms of my working life, I was employed as a Family and Systemic Psychotherapist (also called Family Therapist) in the NHS for 15 years and was Head of Family Psychotherapy. Qualifications include a BSc honours degree in Psychology and MA in Family Psychotherapy from the Tavistock Clinic in London. I also hold a Post Graduate Qualification as a Supervisor when I studied at the University of Surrey.
I am fully qualified and registered with the main national registering body (United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy - UKCP) as a Family and Systemic Psychotherapy and as a Supervisor. In addition I am listed on UKCP's separate register for those working with children and young people under 18. (If you would like more information about this paragraph, and why it is important please see the section *below).
My interests focus on people's relationship issues, dilemmas or difficulties and how these affect or are affected by their worries or difficulties. Uncovering possible strengths and resources around us and actively considering newer ways of thinking/behaving can be useful routes to better management of our lives and locating new solutions to old problems.This is partly what Family Therapists bring to counselling and therapy.
I have spent many years closely attending to how and what people say in order to understand in more detail their experiences and views on problems, their abilities, and what available support (or lack of) from family, friends and wider relationships have been available. Also finding out what people have tried so far with what effects is key to understanding each person's unique situation.
After such a process, a more tailored approach to supporting realistic and effective change or adjustment or just a better understanding is possible.
Difficulties like anxiety, depression, family and personal relationship problems can in some instances be intrusive to our day to day lives and may edge us towards considering professional support. I can help. I can also see people where longer term traumas such as surviving sexual or physical abuse or neglectful/damaging relationships significantly impact on health and wellbeing as well as those we care about. These are highly personal and sensitive matters in which I have substantial experience.
I have continued to develop special areas of interest. Currently, these include
- working with families where the relationship between adult children and parents/guardians (sometimes involving grandparents too) have been cut off or are particularly difficult.
- helping parents help their children, when they feel that past or current marital difficulties have had a detrimental affect upon them and their attempts so far to help have been limited or appear to have made matters worse.
- couple work
Sometimes people don't have a clear problem or reason for wanting to see a counsellor or therapist, but may just feel unfulfilled, bored or moody, wanting to find new ways to just "be" or to develop as a person, or learn from previous "mistakes." These too can be a basis for seeking counselling or therapy.
I offer to see families, couples, parents, friends and individuals depending on what people think might be better for them.
For professionals working in Health, Community or Charitable organisations who are seeking general support or supervision, I can be of service. I have provided this to a wide variety of colleagues from very different trainings, disciplines and backgrounds, as well as qualified Family Psychotherapists over many years both in my NHS work and privately. If uncertain whether I may be of help, I'd welcome a message or any questions.
Finally, I hope the above goes some way in helping you decide which of the registered counsellors, therapists or Supervisors you may consider talking to as a next step.
Although my phone is often diverted to voicemail I listen on weekdays daily and try to respond within 2 working days (as I do my email) so please contact me if you think I could be of further help in your search.
* Only those who are so qualified and registered with UKCP specifically as a Family Psychotherapist or Family Therapist meet the high standards which the NHS in particular set for those calling themselves or providing Family Therapy. The NHS will not employ anyone for such a specialist post without proof of such an advanced training and specific upto date UKCP registration. I think this is important for the public to know because individuals with UKCP registration as a Family Therapist have:
- undertaken a minimum number of hours in seeing families including children for therapy
- attended a minimum number of hours per year additional training directly related to Family Therapy
- been meeting with a senior and registered Family Therapist on a regular basis to discuss and develop their work and address their training and professional development
- agreed to an ethical code of practice which if breached will mean sanctions
- to be answerable to the public, employers and UKCP for any complaints made about them. There is a formal process for such complaints and the more serious if proven can lead to de-registration from UKCP
Training, qualifications & experience
- BSc (hons) Psychology
- Masters Degree in Social Work
- MA Degree in Family and Systemic Psychotherapy (Tavistock Clinic London)
- Post Graduate Qualification in Supervision and Consultation (studied at University of Surrey)
- Training and experience covering over 30 years with children, parents and families in NHS and Local Authority specialist teams.
- Just under 30 years of working within a number of NHS multidisciplinary specialist child and adolescent mental health teams (CAMHS) in London and Hampshire.
- Joint leadership of an Eating Disorders Team
- Head of Family Psychotherapy
- I recently retired from the NHS but simultaneously ran a small Independent Psychotherapy service in Hampshire. I saw Families, Parents and Couples and Individuals
- Professional supervision and consultation has also formed a significant part of my work. Those I have helped have included family psychotherapist, counsellors, therapists, nurses, teachers, and those working as carers in all aspects of their work.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Health anxiety
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Separation anxiety
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
£100 for initial appointment
£85 for follow up appointments
Free initial phone or email consultation
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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The Therapy room is based in a small building in central Romsey, which is about 6 miles North of Southampton. It is fully wheelchair accessible as are all facillities. There is a receptionist and waiting area.
Please leave any messages or questions on my email. I check these daily on weekdays and try to reply within 2 working days.
Types of client
Supervision & training
Are you are a counsellor, therapist, psychotherapist, doctor or other professional, including those in training, working with families and finding it particularly challenging? This maybe a good moment to consider external support with a registered and qualified specialist Family and Systemic Psychotherapist who has a University post graduate qualification in Supervision and Consultation.