I have over ten years of experience in creating conditions that help people turn their lives around, find relief, feel happier and content in their day to day lives again.
It might be hard to imagine that one day you won’t be suffering the way you are now.
It might be how things are in a relationship, it might be how you feel about yourself, feeling low, struggling to cope with anxiety, past trauma, panic or huge challenges in your life.
Maybe you you know exactly what you want to be different but can't quite get a grip on how to get there or what specifically is holding you back.
Do you want to be a more confident person, feel comfortable being in social situations?
Do you want to manage things in a calmer way, find happiness again or new ways to enjoy relationships instead of avoiding them?
Do you need help to stop putting things off or to get better at making decisions? Would you like to manage differences of opinion in a more peaceful way?
I’ve seen so many complete transformations in the lives of people who are in despair, feel totally overwhelmed or simply have a vision of a different way of being.
It all starts with the first step of committing to yourself through therapy by making that decision to get help to grow through what you are going through with someone caring and impartial by your side.
I have seen life changing results working with adults to achieve their goals when struggling with issues such as:
- Domestic Abuse
- Narcissistic/Pathological Love Relationship Abuse
- Challenges at Work/Career Changes
- Financial Worries
- Parenting Difficulties
- Post Natal Depression/Anxiety
- Relationship Issues
- Low Self Esteem
- Eating Disorders
- Learning Difficulties
- Emotional Struggles
- Complex Trauma
- Social Anxiety
- Generalised Anxiety
- Panic Attacks
- Setting Boundaries
Check out some recent client reviews in the photos section.
I have a special interest in helping others build resilience skills to move forward despite hardship. See below sections for further info on my special interest areas.
People experience all kinds of difficult circumstances, relationships and troubles in life.
I believe our behaviours, feelings, thoughts and internal reactions in our day to day lives all have a reason for existing.
My approach considers how our experiences and environment spanning from this moment as far back as the womb and to previous generations can impact us physically, mentally and socially.
I offer an integrative, trauma-informed biopsychosocial and relational approach.
My role is to help understand what the bigger picture is around what you’re facing right now, understand this with compassion, without judgement, find ways to make sense of everything while finding you relief from whatever is causing you pain.
WHAT I DO...
I help people to overcome all kinds of challenges in their lives by building resilience through:
- Individual Integrative Counselling or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- Counselling & Mental Health Group Facilitation
Check out my special interest areas by scrolling to the bottom of the page...
I'm a Registered Integrative Counsellor and Cognitive Behavioural Therapist holding a membership with BACP. I work within their ethical frameworks, am fully insured with Balens, registered with ICO and am a member of the PVG Scheme with Disclosure Scotland.
I engage in regular supervision with an accredited therapist and regular continued professional development training relevant to the challenges face by the people I work with.
WHAT AND WHERE...
I provide safe face to face, walk and talk, and video counselling. ( Please check current status in your enquiry re covid)
I facilitate groups offering insight and solutions for people in Central Scotland and South Lanarkshire where I set up Resilient Recovery Counselling. (Please check current status in your enquiry re covid)
Sessions are available online for clients from all over the UK.
When face to face is offered, safety procedures are in place relative to the current laws and government guidelines. You are provided with these prior to attendance.
Walk and Talk Therapy is available. A great alternative to face to face or online sessions. Fresh air and therapy to clear your mind.
This is covered by insurance, routes are pre planned, protection of confidentiality is considered, plans made to avoid or manage crossing paths with known people, weather considerations are taken into account.
Online counselling is available from my private home office.
I do not offer telephone therapy.
The Lanark Mental Health Hub
A Mental Health Hub has been founded by Myself and another 3 passionate therapists to serve the community of Lanark providing various group services and a range of approaches. More information will be added as this grows. The Group room is almost set up with all appropriate facilities. The Hub will provide groups to support people who wish to work on issues relating to healthy lifestyles, parenting, self-confidence, stress management, anxiety recovery programmes and domestic abuse recovery . In the future we will provide additional accessible sessions and workshops - arts & crafts, coffee mornings, mindfulness, meditation, breath work and yoga.
WHAT I OFFER YOU...
At Resilient Recovery, focus is placed on compassion and empowerment.
You will be treated with respect and fully heard as a safe space is held for you to explore what you’re going through.
You will be supported to find helpful, practical ways to cope with whatever is troubling you right now.
Happiness and fulfilment may seem out of reach right now, help isn’t. Let's find a way forward together.
I assure confidential, compassionate, trauma-informed, empathic counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy for people seeking solutions that can last a lifetime.
There will be zero judgement here as you're accepted for being human, doing the best you can with the tools you have and the circumstances you are in at this time.
People are simply trying to cope. The coping strategies and patterns we choose can change with the right help and care.
If what you want is to discover the skills and strengths within you to help make changes In your life, contact me for a free chat.
WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
Resilience is described as having the ability to bounce back. To return to the original form despite being bent, stretched or compressed. Often we can expect to go back to how we were before an event or period of challenge, it is ok to have changed as a result. It may well have been a necessary adaptation to manage what was happening in life.
So many aspects of today’s world can have us bent out of shape, stretched beyond our means or crushed by strings of stressful events.
We can find ourselves feeling alone, struggling to cope from day to day and that we aren’t reaching our full potential.
People already have many of the skills, strengths, capabilities and potential to get through the struggles they face, often needing some guidance and support to realise them.
WHAT HAPPENS IN THERAPY?
I work with you step by step to turn the struggle on its head by choosing the best suited individualised methods and interventions within relational work with you.
These teach individually tailored resilience skills you can apply to illness or challenges throughout your life.
At all points, the therapy process is collaborative, meaning we work as a team.
I can offer interventions but you are the expert of your own life.
You will never be talked at or treated with anything but respect, therapy isn’t always easy but it can be engaging, creative and far from the couch and notebook tv depictions.
I work in lots of different ways adapted specifically to you and your issues, using what you feel comfortable with, these can include things like:
simply talking, board work, diagrams, handouts, worksheets, audio recordings, music, videos, visualisations, relaxations, behavioural experiments, mindfulness, diary tasks, grounding and breathing exercises, role play, humour, goal focused work, communication, assertiveness, social skills training, exposure therapy, nervous system regulation with body and emotional awareness are some to note but there are many others. I incorporate somatic awareness where appropriate.
Progress reviews and feedback from you about your experience of therapy and interventions will be reviewed often to make sure any adjustments can be made to take your views of our way of working into account, address any blocks, celebrate changes and help you connect with the work in a meaningful way. In every session, I check in on what has been most useful or could have been different to better tailor your experience.
The beginning stages will involve getting to know you, building a clear picture of what you are facing, how you are coping and what you want to achieve and change in your life.
This is an opportunity to find out what your goals are and inform steps of a plan that can be developed with you to work towards achieving them.
There will be options of strategies and techniques linked to those goals that work on building new ways to cope and grow through the experience.
The approach can work with a cognitive behavioural base, however, there are several other approaches that may be more appropriate in particular cases.
We are individuals and what some respond to, others find different methods to be more useful and easier to connect with. You may work better with body awareness, visuals, metaphors, or written material.
As an example, the best approach for navigating something like bereavement may be very different from something that would help tackle symptoms of social anxiety.
It's most important to me to adapt and respond to the needs you have at any given time. I can make appropriate adjustments for clients with various additional support needs.
When it's clear we are making progress, that positive changes and new patterns are taking place in how you feel, think and behave, we will look at maintaining this and building on strengths.
Before an ending, I provide a framework developed with you to help reflect on the learning and growth throughout the experience, understand what has maintained the difficulties at a time, what has been discovered that has been most useful and look at ways to keep these changes in place by working on prevention and handling of future issues.
The aim is to bring a lasting and meaningful change into your life.
Training, qualifications & experience
- NQ - Introduction to Counselling
- NQ - Counselling Skills
- COSCA - Counselling Skills
- Scottish Mental Health First Aid
- Prevention & Management of Violence & Aggression Levels 1-3
- SCOTACS - Diploma - 2 year Counselling Individual & Groupwork - A Cognitive Behavioural Approach -COSCA & SQA Approved. -SCQF LEVEL 10
- Certificate of Proficiency with BACP
CPD - Continued Professional Development Trainings
- Treating post traumatic stress disorder effectively and efficiently : A cognitive approach 2018
- New cognitive and behavioural interventions to prevent PTSD and depression in at risk groups 2018
- Delivering novel formats of evidence-based treatments for PTSD: Early Issues & Solutions 2018
- Gender Based Violence
- Learning Disabilities Reasonable Adjustments
- Learning Disabilities Communication
- Cruse Bereavement 1 - Introduction to Loss & Grief
- Cruse Bereavement 2 - The Grieving Process
- Cruse Bereavement 3 - Intervention & Skills
- Cruse Bereavement 4 - Supporting Bereaved Staff
- Child Protection Training
- The Disclosure of Self Harm - Edith Bell 2021
- Adverse Childhood Experiences Training-ongoing
- The Embodiment Conference 2020
- The Collective Trauma Summit 2020
- Online & Telephone Counselling-ongoing
- Working with Trauma in a Time of Trauma - Carolyn Springs 2021
- Working with Trauma That Has Become Stuck - Carolyn Springs 2021
- Working with Trauma Triggers and Flashbacks - Carolyn Springs 2021
- The Wisdom of Trauma feat Gabor Maté 2021
- A Guide to Wholeness - A Guide to Understanding and Integrating Trauma Course with Gabor Maté- 12 Modules 2021 (Understanding Trauma, The Nature and Science of Trauma, Saying NO;Attachment vs Authenticity, Relationships, On Guilt, Shame, Anger and Grief, Illness as Adaptation, Psychedelics and Trauma, Spiritual Bypassing, Healing and Compassion, Compassionate Inquiry Case Studies, Somatic Practises with Betsy Polatin Parts 1&2)
- Humanual Basics with Betsy Polatin 2021
- Narcissistic Abuse : Why Therapists Fail to Recognise Pathological Love Relationships - Sandra Brown 2021
- Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abuse: The Clinicians Guide to the New Field of Traumatic Pathological Love Relationships -ongoing
- Gaslighting 101 for Therapists : 3 Strategies to Help Clients Break Free from Narcissistic Abuse 2021
WHAT'S MY EXPERIENCE/BACKGROUND?
I have a wealth of NHS experience working with patients in areas including but not limited to Acute Psychiatric Wards, Maternity, Accident & Emergency and St Andrews Hospice Palliative Care throughout Lanarkshire over a 7 year period.
I cared for people at all stages in life, babies in maternity, children in paediatrics, young people navigating school or transitions into working lives, adults setting up their first home, patients attending accident and emergency, having routine or life saving surgeries, those suffering from severe symptoms of mental health problems, people receiving elderly care, people in long term hospice care and even mortuary work. Having seen the impacts of adversity at all stages for ordinary people at close range, I found a love for giving one on one talking support to people suffering from the emotional strains of life. I found novel, effective ways of engaging with people who had limited communication, issues with memory, aggression, anxiety or who were scared. My objective was to build a relational connection to help others realise they were not alone and to help them feel safe.
I naturally wanted to reassure them and connect in a meaningful way. I wanted to do more in this capacity in a focused way.
I volunteered and worked with a person-centred charity empowering, supporting and advocating for people with learning difficulties and life limiting Illnesses in Central Scotland. I felt passionate about helping others achieve their own goals of living in the most fulfilling and independent way possible. I helped people overcome the many challenges and difficulties they faced, such as managing finances, coping with change, finding employment, arranging and adapting housing, mediating in relationships, safeguarding them, tackling issues such as consent, human rights, anxiety, sleep problems, sensory issues, aggression and anger. I found this so rewarding, valued doing this with integrity, strong ethics and wanted to take it further.
Alongside these working experiences, I have been a business owner for over 11 years and progressed through my own challenges in my personal, family and business life. I have developed strong life skills using strategies and tools through my own growth and counselling training that have helped me build resilience and flexibility that I can offer to others. I know the benefits of a strong therapeutic relationship and the growth of committing to myself.
I have been training and studying Counselling at different levels since 2009 and qualified to build a private practise as an Integrative Cognitive Behavioural Therapist where I do what I love.
I love to see the transformation in people and the happiness that brings to them.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
£45.00 per session
Free initial online session
Concessions offered for
For each service there is a free initial 20 minute zoom meeting to establish your needs and a sound match between us. The relationship between you and your therapist is a huge factor in the outcome. It's important you feel comfortable and that there is a good fit. This initial consult is a chance to cover some basic checks, get a brief overview, propose how I could help and answer any questions you might have about our potential time working together. You can decide on the call or take some time to reflect and speak with some other therapists before making your decision.
Payments are required in advance of the first full session to secure a booking.
Counselling & Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
- £45.00 per session for individual counselling, this includes face to face, online and Walk & Talk (unless considerable travel is involved)
- Reduced rate is available in the case of financial hardship for new or existing clients. There is a waiting list for these at the moment as a limited number of slots can be offered per week. This allows me to maintain the service and continue to offer a buffer for existing clients who have a sudden change of circumstances that would otherwise mean they have to terminate therapy at a time of increased need. Do contact me if you wish to be added to the waiting list for reduced rate. Some clients have engaged in fortnightly sessions until a slot becomes available for weekly reduced cost sessions.
Parenting Resilience Group Cost - 12 week Course
- £10 per person per 2 hour session
Parenting Resilience Course - Private Individual/Couple Sessions
- Individual £30.00 per session
- Couples £50.00 per session
Staff Awareness/Training Workshops
Delivery of group Psycho-educational interactive Mental Health training sessions at your organisation for staff/employees - specifically tailored to the needs of the business/staff.
- £150.00 for one time sessions
- £900.00 for 6 week blocks
I accept Direct Transfer.
SPECIAL INTEREST AREA & ADDITIONAL SERVICES
I am passionate about prevention of adverse childhood experiences, also about helping people heal from the impacts of them.
I am continually developing my knowledge of the most recent research and developments in the treatment of trauma.
Working with survivors of emotional, psychological, physical and sexual abuse, I incorporate combinations of trauma focused CBT, Polyvagal Theory, Compassion Focussed Therapy, Somatic approaches and embodiment to help overcome the lasting impacts of trauma.
With a love of work with Mums, Dads and families in maternity wards, experiencing the depths of post-natal depression and the beauty of growth and joy in using Hypnobirthing, I developed a special interest in pre-natal and post natal mental health.
As my research piece in the final Diploma year I presented a proposal for a study to bridge the gap in the current research, exploring the use of a specifically designed 12-week Group Course of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy as a preventative treatment for people at risk of Post Natal Depression.
THE PARENTING RESILIENCE GROUP
Following such strong positive feedback, this proposal has grown into The Parenthood Resilience Group.
Tackling challenging topics for people considering, expecting or newly with children that help alleviate the stresses and potential roadblocks that lead to mental health issues for parents or adverse childhood experiences for children.
The areas explored include:
- Expectations of Parenthood
- Parenting Decision Making Resources
- Assertiveness Training
- Emotional Abuse Awareness
- Communication Skills
- Birthing Preparation Resources
- Mental health awareness, psycho-education & support resources covering:
-Post Partum Psychosis
-PTSD & Birth Trauma
-Partner’s Post natal mental health
- Breath Work
- Mindfulness Exercises
- Meditations and visualisations for pregnancy, birth and beyond
- Adverse Childhood Experiences Psycho-education
- There are also sections that focus on safeguarding self care, sourcing support, exercise and social connectedness.
This course runs for 12 weekly 90 minute sessions and is available in a format for:
Single Parent/Individual Sessions
Private Partner Sessions
Group sessions for pairs/singles for a max of 12 members