About me

Having relationships with yourself and other people is at the heart of what it means to be human - and if these relationships aren't going well or are causing you pain, you might need some support.

Acknowledging that you're struggling in your relationships, or you're feeling lost, anxious or sad, isn't easy to do. But if you're ready to take that step, I'm here to walk alongside you.

About me

I’m a warm, down-to-earth and compassionate therapist using a practical, evidence-based approach to support my clients. While I can offer help in many areas, I have special interest and experience in working with addiction issues, disconnection from our true selves (codependency), healing from childhood trauma and shame, anxiety, and maternal mental health.

Over the last few years I have also worked with clients with depression, OCD, intrusive and obsessive thoughts, codependency, trauma, shame, addiction, eating disorders, relationship issues, low self-esteem, body image issues and bereavements, amongst other issues.

I can offer you a safe, supportive space to reflect on your emotions and we work together to discover tools, techniques and approaches that best serve you.

I'm fully qualified and registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).

How do I work with clients?

I’m a humanistic integrative therapist, and I work relationally. Here’s what that means:

•  Humanistic means that I believe you already have all the resources, knowledge and wisdom you need within yourself, to create change. My job is to work with you to create a safe, supportive space, where you can explore yourself and your feelings, ultimately working towards your own growth and healing.

•  Integrative means that I’m trained to use a range of different approaches, tools and techniques and adapt these to suit my clients. For example, I might draw on a combination of CBT tools, mindfulness and compassion-based techniques to support you. Or if you're dealing with addiction, painful relationships and codependency, I'll use dedicated treatment plans based on my specialist training, using accompanying workbooks and resources, if you're open to them.

•  Relational means I believe that relationships – both with others and with yourself – are at the core of what it means to be human, and difficulties in them are often the root cause for people coming into counselling. So creating a strong, healthy, positive relationship between me and you, my client, is at the heart of our healing work together.

I draw on evidence to inform my approach, and I keep things practical

I look for evidence-based tools, techniques and suggestions to offer my clients. That means that I use things that have been shown through research and evidence to help make a difference to people's lives. This includes, but isn't limited to, approaches like compassion-based therapy and mindfulness practices.

I'm a writer as well as a therapist, and I often suggest practical writing tools to my clients, such as worksheets and writing/journaling exercises that you can work on between sessions, if you want to. I find this can be really helpful for noticing and processing thoughts and feelings.

I have further specialist training and experience in the following areas:

  • Addiction and recovery from addiction, including the 12-step approach
  • Codependence recovery, based on the models and five symptoms set out by Pia Mellody
  • Relationship issues and their roots in childhood, particularly our 'attachment styles' with early caregivers
  • Healing from shame and early childhood trauma
  • Maternal mental health, including pregnancy loss, birth trauma and postnatal issues.

What happens in our first session?

It's really important that you like and feel comfortable with a therapist before starting to work together.  So before arranging our first session, I offer a free 20-minute call to make sure we're a good fit. There is absolutely no pressure to continue working with me after this call.

If we go ahead with therapy, our first session is an ‘assessment’ session where I will ask you some questions so I can gather more detailed information about you, your background and history, and why you’d like therapy at the moment.

We’ll also discuss what you’d like to take away from therapy and agree a time to ‘check in’ and review how our work is going.

Where can you see me?

I offer face-to-face sessions in Southgate N14 and Finchley N12 as well as Zoom and phone sessions.

Training, qualifications & experience

My qualifications and experience:

  • Two-year BACP-accredited Advanced Diploma in Humanistic Integrative
  • Counselling, CPPD (2020-2021)
  • Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling, CPPD (2013)
  • PG Diploma in Psychology, University of East London (2010)
  • BA in Modern Languages, University College London (2005)

Short courses in:

  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
  • Neuroscience, Attachment and therapeutic Alliance
  • Psychiatry, Psychopathology and Psychodynamics
  • Time Limited Counselling
  • The ‘Alchemy of Relationships’
  • Equine-facilitated Psychotherapy
  • Transactional Analysis

I work both long-term and short-term with clients.

And I encourage my clients to come to a weekly session on the same time and day each week. In our first session, we can decide together how long our work will last, and we will review how our work is going for you at regular intervals.

Here are some of the issues I can help with, but even if you don't see the specific issue you are dealing with listed here, feel free to contact me. I may still be able to help.

  • Addictions and addiction recovery, including 12-step support
  • Codependency
  • Relationship issues, including romantic partnerships
  • Sex and sexuality in relationships
  • Low self-esteem or self-confidence
  • Body image
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Setting and holding boundaries
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Panic attacks
  • OCD and intrusive thoughts
  • Loss and bereavement
  • Miscarriage
  • Postnatal depression

Member organisations

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Codependency

12-step recovery support

'Love/fantasy addiction' and obsession or 'limerance'

Pregnancy loss

Postnatal depression and anxiety

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
  • Compassion-Focused Therapy
  • Gestalt therapy
  • Humanistic therapies
  • Integrative
  • Mindfulness
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Psychodynamic therapy
  • Transactional analysis
  • Walk and Talk Therapy

Fees

From £70.00 to £75.00
Free initial telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income

Additional information

I offer sessions remotely, over Zoom and the phone, as well as face-to-face in North London. My in-person sessions take place in a cosy, warm, bright room at Aashna Counselling & Psychotherapy Centre in North Finchley.

I charge £60 for a 50-minute Zoom/telephone session and £70 for a 50-minute face-to-face session.

Choosing the right therapist for you is really important

That's why there's no pressure to continue working with me if it doesn't feel quite right for you. I offer a 15-minute free phone consultation before we arrange our first session, to see if we feel like a good fit. Reach out to me here to book a call, if you feel I can help.

Availability

Contact me for more information about my availability. There may be a wait of a few weeks at the moment before I can see you for a session.

London
N12

London
N14

Type of session

In person
Online
Phone

Types of client

Adults
Older adults
Organisations

Key details

DBS checked

Online platforms

Skype
Whatsapp
Zoom
Nikki Allen

Nikki Allen