Neil Loffhagen - MBACP, BA (Hons.)
As a Gender, Sexual and Relationship Therapist, my aim is to help you explore all aspects of your gender, sexuality and relationships. Being GSRD & LGBTQ+ friendly and affirmative, I offer full acceptance of who you are. I will work positively with you and support whatever your gender and sexuality may be. Whatever you bring I feel we will be able to explore together, leading to greater self-acceptance, plus greater personal peace. No issue is considered more important than another. Every area you bring is of unique importance.
We are each unique, so the way we work together will be unique.
My aim is to help you in your journey to discover your potential. I am not here to tell you what to do; that is advice and any change would likely be short-lived. Through self-discovery, a power within can be found which may surprise you and those around you.
I offer full acceptance of who you are, to enable you to fully accept yourself. Once you accept yourself, desired change can happen. Carl Rogers wrote:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
Accepting yourself just as you are does not mean you are content to stay as you are. It opens something inside that allows lasting change. You are then able to make the changes you want in your life or gain contentment with where you are.
As, Brian Thorne, another person-centred therapist, said:
"I have discovered since that love devoid of understanding, although it can bring comfort and solace, can never heal."
My offering is unconditional love and acceptance, combined with understanding to help bring healing and thus any change you may be seeking. The overall aim is for you to have no need for a therapist or counsellor. As Brian Thorne also wrote:
"If therapy has been successful, clients will also have learned how to be their own therapist."
"It is as though he listened
and such listening as his enfolds us in silence
in which at last we begin to hear
what we are meant to be."
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Person-centred, Focusing-oriented, Psychosexual and Relationship therapist/counsellor. I have been counselling for over 10 years. As well as seeing clients privately, I have volunteered at a youth charity, based in Reading, Berkshire, counselling young people aged from 12 to 24.
- Advanced trainee in Diploma in Psychosexual Therapy
- Essentials in Gender And Sexual Diversity Therapy
- Certificate in Focusing Skills and Theory for Therapists
- Diploma in Person-Centred counselling
- Certificate in Person-Centred counselling
- Certificate in Counselling and Listening Skills
- BA (Hons) in psychology
Member of the following organisations:
- Registered Member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP)
- Member of the National Council of Psychotherapists (NCP)
- Member of College of Sexual and Relationship Therapy (COSRT)
- Member of the British Association for the Person-Centred Approach (BAPCA)
- Member of the World Association for Person Centred & Experiential Psychotherapy & Counselling (WAPCEPC)
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD/LGBTQ+)
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The horrible bit – I charge £60 per counselling hour, which is 50 minutes. We are all unique in what works best for us, so a session can be longer or shorter according to your wishes. This is open for discussion. Costs are then charged pro-rata. Some concessions are available for students and others.
Payment can be by cash, cheque, PayPal or using “mobile to mobile payments”.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Daytime, evenings and some weekends.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|