Mike Clark - Individual, Couples and Relationship Counselling MBACP BA (Hons)
I provide online counselling over Zoom specialising in working with Relationship difficulties and Anxiety for individuals and couples. This is an effective and efficient method of delivering services.
For clients who are experiencing stress, anxiety, depression, a lack of direction in life or relationship difficulties.
Working with me will provide you with an opportunity to safely explore and reflect on what you are experiencing. By making sense of what is happening to you then new ways of being can be determined and put in place.
It is common to find yourself stuck between conflicting thoughts and desires so causing distress and confusion. You may seek to move away from something that it limiting and yet dread the unknown.
Often an internal dialogue that is self-critical with judgemental and limiting thoughts is experienced. I will work with you to enhance your awareness of them. This enables those negative thoughts and feelings to be challenged.
Changes can then be made, interrupting destructive cycles, bringing about more positive feelings, greater self-worth and increased well being
It also enables recognition of those things that have past, changed or been lost to you, so you can reflect on and come to acceptance with the situation.
You can access how to ‘get the most from individual counselling’ from my website at: https://newdirection.solutions/getting-individual-counselling.
Couples and Relationship Counselling
I specialise in working with couples to resolve and improve relationship difficulties.
Relationships change over time. As they do this may lead to conflict, loss of trust and emotional/physical distance. The causes are many and varied from the lack of fulfilment, impact of children through to trauma and affairs.
The work I undertake is collaborative in nature and seeks to:
Look at how your relationship first began; the individual strengths and attributes that first attracted and drew you to each other.
Review what has changed and what is happening or not happening now, including external impacts on the relationship.
What do you want and need from the relationship now. How do you want the future relationship to look like.
We will look at what changes are necessary and possible for each individual and the relationship so as to meet those unmet needs. This is difficult at times but is also enhancing and empowering.
I do not apportion blame, criticise or shame my clients. My approach is to understand, support and encourage positive change individually to enhance the relationship where possible.
Tools such as learning how to use 'positive engagement' through listening, acknowledgement and awareness coupled with 'finding your voice' are important tools to moving forwards without feeling diminished.
You can access ‘getting the most from couples counselling’ from my website at: https://newdirection.solutions/southampton-couples-counselling-getting-the-most-out-of-sessions
Please note I do not work with couples where there is active psychological or physical abuse within the relationship. In this instance individual counselling should be sought in the first instance so that the abusive behaviour can be understood and stopped. Further information is available on my website.
Reaching out takes courage and is the first step in moving toward a better place.
I will treat you with respect and dignity whether an individual or a couple. Counselling and psychotherapy is not about judging, criticising or telling you what to do. It is about supporting you through difficult times, bringing insight and hope, whilst encouraging positive change that empowers you.
I use Transactional Analysis to bring into awareness what goes on for you internally and how you relate to others. This shows patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours. When you recognise those ways of being that no longer meet your needs they can be revised so that they do.
I have a Person Centred approach which recognises that each individual knows at a fundamental level what is right for them and what they need so as to realise their potential.
My specialist ongoing post graduate professional development in couples and relationship counselling was undertaken with the couples institute led by Dr Ellyn Bader.
Initially I work weekly with clients for an agreed, reviewing progress against your initial goals on a regular basis. As changes are experienced the frequency of sessions are typically reduced until the outcome is achieved and sessions are ended.
Please visit my website https://newdirection.solutions for more information and feel free to contact me with any questions you may have.
Training, qualifications & experience
B.A. (Hons) Humanistic Transactional Analysis Counselling
Graduate of Couples Developmental model, Dr Bader, (Couples Institute)
Certificate of Couples Counselling (Basingstoke Counselling Service)
Working with Anger, Rage and Relationship
Gambling and Alcohol addiction (Options Counselling Service)
Organisations worked for
Options Counselling Service
Hampshire Carers Trust
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Individual session: £50
Couples session: £70
Payment by online banking
Cancellations received within 24 hours of your scheduled session may be charged for at full fee.
For more information on my practice, about me and how I work please visit my website; https://newdirection.solutions