This professional is available for new clients.
This professional is available for new clients.
About me
Struggling with infertility or childlessness? Feeling lost, grieving, or struggling to find where you can fit in? Whether you're childless, facing infertility, neurodivergent, or LGBTQIA+, you don’t have to go through it alone. As one of the first UK counsellors to specialise in childlessness, I offer a space where you can come as you are and leave feeling understood and supported and with renewed confidence for your future. I work with individuals and relationships both online and face to face in Lewes, East Sussex.
ABOUT YOU
Maybe you are struggling to cope with medical or social infertility or with the uncertainty of being single and desperately wanting to be a parent.
Maybe you are in despair, struggling to sleep, always holding back tears or anger and not knowing how to move forward or even wanting to, now you are facing the possibility a life without children.
Or perhaps you are in the middle of IVF treatment or are applying to adopt but it’s proving very hard and you need some support.
Maybe you’re dreading that moment when a friend or colleague announces they are pregnant . Afraid that feelings, like jealousy and resentment, may come up for you that feel impossible to bear or even talk about?
Being unable to have children, for whatever reason, can make you feel that your life as you planned it is over. You are out of sync with those around you and there’s a painful longing that you don’t know what to do with. Life feels empty as you try to grieve a loss that others don’t seem to even see, let alone understand. If you know your journey is over, you may be scared you'll never feel happy or fulfilled again or that this grief will last for ever.
IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP
If you are in a relationship, you might feel it has been so affected by all you have experienced that you don’t know how to stay together or talk to each other about how you are feeling. You’re feeling far away from your partner when you want to feel closer. You just don’t know how to help each other or yourself. I work with individuals, couples and thruples facing childlessness or struggling to managing the challenges of life, with LGBTQIA+ people and neurodivergent people of all genders and sexualities.
HOW COUNSELLING CAN HELP
Counselling will support you to grieve properly so you can live a normal life again. You’ll be able to spend time with other people’s children without wanting to cry or run away. You'll begin to feel optimistic that there is a life after childlessness and it’s a good one. You’ll have someone to show you the way so you don’t feel lost any more, someone who gets it, someone who has walked the same path as you and come out the other side. There will be sad times, but you won’t need to manage them alone. There is life after childlessness and I’ll work with you to find ways through that are right for you.
I ALSO WORK WITH:
I also work with depression, anxiety, stress, and a broad spectrum of worries and problems people may face, especially in the queer and neurodivergent communities.
FAQS
Q Do you offer therapy and counselling for people who are having fertility treatment/fertility difficulties or actively pursuing adoption?
A Yes. I work with clients in all the stages of the journey to have children, including when it has come to an end, if you have been turned down for adoption or the IVF failed or didn't work.
Q Can you help me to cope with pregnancy announcements?
A Yes, we can talk about how this feels and I can offer practical suggestions.
Q Can you help me discover what to do next after childlessness, failed IVF or an infertility diagnosis?
A Yes, we can talk and plan at depth and in a focused and bespoke way, wherever you are on your journey.
Q What would emotional support for being childless not by choice look like?
A It's different for each client but broadly, we'll explore all your feelings, including the ones which don't feel OK like anger and jealousy, I'll put them in a context of what it's like to be in a minority in a pronatalist world and we'll plan together for a good future, even if it is completely different from the one you hoped and dreamed of.
Q How is your counselling/therapy inclusive?
A I have lived experience of childlessness, neurodivergence and queerness and I work with individuals, couples and thruples aged 18+. I am disability and chronic illness aware.
Q Do you work with childlessness or infertility grief?
A Yes, I specialise in counselling and supporting people who are grieving, I'll walk alongside you through every feeling you are experiencing until you feel the grief lighten.
Email me today to book in your free consultation. I look forward to talking to you.
Training, qualifications & experience
I trained at Brighton University in Person Centred counselling and have done follow up training in CBT and in Relationship counselling. I am also a qualified celebrant.
I have worked as a volunteer at Counselling Plus in Hastings and at LGBT Switchboard and Rise in Brighton. I have been a school counsellor and now have a private practice both online and face to face.
My experience means that I understand the issues faced by a wide range of people and specifically, those faced by the LGBTQIA+ community
I have a Postgraduate Diploma in Person Centred Counselling, as well as a PGCE, a PGCert in Theatre in Education and a BA (Hons) in History and Archaeology.
I have done additional training in creative approaches to counselling such as art and sandtray, for times when words aren't enough or are hard to find.
Member organisations
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The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Childlessness
Infertility
Baby loss and miscarriage
Neurodivergence
Queer specialist counselling
Therapies offered
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Fees
£75.00 - £95.00
Concessions offered for
Additional information
I have some concessionary places for people on a low income. Sessions for individuals are £75 and relationship counselling is £95. I offer an initial free and no obligation phone call to prospective clients.
When I work
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My availability is flexible and does change so if you need a time outside the hours specified above, please do feel free to contact me.
Further information
I work in a way that prioritises your needs and desires, I see our work as a collaboration that is based on your needs. We'll have regular reviews to make sure you're getting what you need from our work together.
I offer a free and no obligation initial twenty minute phone call for all prospective clients, both individuals and couples/thruples, just drop me an email to arrange.
