About me

Counselling acts like a conductor, bringing different musicians together in an orchestra.  It helps a person to look at all the different, often conflicting parts of themselves, in order to find a more integrated whole. I work with any individual and their unique life situation.I also work with couples. I am able to create a warm, easy and completely confidential space for you to address your issues in.

In the counselling sessions we will focus on the challenges and opportunities that the present offers.  We may look at the patterns that were created in your childhood so that you understand yourself better.  We may include your dreams for the future, in order that you can come closer to fulfilling your potential in life.

Counselling can help with:

  • Accepting as well as changing yourself.
  • Finding better ways of resolving problems and conflicts.
  • Having a safe place to meet difficult emotions, understand and transform them.
  • Experiencing more freedom and choice.
  • Finding your way forward with renewed strength, meaning and purpose.

Training, qualifications & experience

Malai Sontheimer BAc MBAcC Dip Psychosynthesis Counselling MBACP

Malai Sontheimer holds a Diploma for Therapeutic Counselling.  She trained at the Institute for Psychosynthesis in London from 1988 to 1991 and is a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP).  Malai has also trained in the Option method; a cognitive, behavioral approach which helps people look at their belief systems, attitudes and judgments.  She has 20 years of experience working in private practice, mainly with individuals.  Malai also has a wealth of life experience.

She has a lot of experience in working with teenagers and young people, as well as people who lack confidence, are depressed, anxious, angry, self-critical, traumatized etc.  She has worked with many parents, as well as parents of children with special needs, people with special needs, people who have retired, as well as people diagnosed with cancer and other serious diseases.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

parents and carers of children and adults with special needs


Additional information

Free 20 minute initial meeting possible.

1 hour session for £45.

Concessionary rates are available.

Further information

“Life is not the way it is supposed to be. It’s the way it is. The way

you cope with it is what makes the difference.’’ Virginia Satir

Please have a look at my website www.xspecial.co.uk, to find out more

The Southville Clinic
68 Coronation Rd

The Family Practice
116 Gloucsester Road

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults

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