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Lydia Ernstsons (memb BACP) Counsellor & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist

Banstead SM7 & London W1W
07435 660553 07435 660553

About me

Hi, my name is Lydia and welcome to my page . I am an integrative therapist meaning my approach is a combined one tailored to what I feel suits your needs.

I am a practising member of the BACP . I follow their ethical framework.  I understand that coming to therapy is no easy step and often a life crisis can be the catalyst for finally seeking help.  I provide a safe and non-judgemental space. I believe passionately in therapy and the empowerment and healing it can bring to a person's life.  It is emotional crippling to not be able to express who you are and how you feel. I see therapy as personal development as, learning how to be in your body and befriend your emotions is so much easier than being at their mercy.

One of my favourite quotes in favour of therapy is from Pete Walker's book "Complex PTSD From Surviving to Thriving". On page 53 he says the following: -

Modern advances in neuroscience suggest that we are intrinsically limited in our ability to emotionally regulate and soothe ourselves. More and more research suggests that our ability to metabolise painful emotional states is enhanced by communicating with a safe** enough other person.

(** safe here is not just in the context of physical safety but more meaning someone you can trust, someone who has your back, who really hears and listens to you and cares for your wellbeing)

I offer a 20 minute free telephone chat for you to ask more questions.

There is free parking very close to the practice (Banstead SM7).

Training, qualifications & experience

  • CPCAB Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
  • CPCAB Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Skills
  • CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
  • BA Hons degree (non-psychology subject)

I trained in a women's centre counselling victims of domestic violence. My specialisation is in narcissistic abuse recovery (including but not limited to - codependency, echoism, CPTSD, scapegoating, gaslighting, denial/minimalisation, love-bombing, ostracisation, coercive control, "flying monkeys", empath-narcissistic dynamic, golden child/lost child, projection and malignant narcissism). I have many years of both personal and professional experience with this abuse.    Before becoming a counsellor I worked for 3 years for a non-profit organisation campaigning on raising public awareness of narcissistic abuse.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Narcissistic abuse recovery, codependency, echoism, people-pleasing.

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
  • Integrative
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Psychoanalytical and psychodynamic


From £45.00 to £70.00
Free initial telephone session

Concessions offered for

  • Keyworkers
  • Low income
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

  • Initial consultation £60 (1 hour) *£70 Central London location
  • Face to Face £50 (50 minutes)    *£60 Central London location 
  • Online/Telephone £45 (50 minutes)


Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

Castle House
Park Road


Type of session

In person

Key details

DBS checked

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Lydia Ernstsons (memb BACP) Counsellor & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist

Lydia Ernstsons (memb BACP) Counsellor & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Therapist