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About me

I Specialize in Bereavement.

Have you loss a loved due to Covid 19, Suicide or a Violent crime. Have you loss a loved one many years ago and have never spoken about it? No doubt you carry the pain of losing your loved ones. It can make  you feel lost or confused, guilty or really sad and alone in your Losing a partner is like a  trauma, especially if you led an active life together. It could mean the end of a whole life style that you both shared together. Or losing a child can leave a deep and lasting wound. As though the pain never leaves you.  A death of a child is usually more traumatic then the death of an older person. It can mean loss of (future) relationships, future dreams,  experiences that have not yet been enjoyed. This can also apply to women who have experience the lost of a baby by miscarriage.

No matter how many years may past, the deep pain of loss stays with you to this day.  Do you feel as if you have lost something of yourself no matter how many years goes by or how many children you may have?

If you have experienced any of the above, have you ever asked questions like: 'How can I live with my grief'?  'Is it normal to grieve this way'?  'What can others do the help me? 'How can I help others who are grieving?

All these experiences can leave you feeling sad, anxious, depressed.

It can be a great relief to just be understood and heard, to see things more clearly, or just yo talk about how you feel. Can you call me, I know there is wisdom in knowing what to say and what not to say, what to do and what not to do.  I will provide you a safe space with out any judgement, I will empathise with you and give you positive regard you deserve.

I'll also support you if you have suffered any other traumatic experiences.

Session are 50 minutes and is led by you, so you can bring whatever you like to the sessions.  Please call me on 07940 598662,  I will offer  a free 15 minutes consultation to tell me a little about what's happening, and we can take it from there!

Training, qualifications & experience

I currently run my own private practice at home while caring for my family.  I love people and volunteer for a large charity in helping people with life and moral skills. I have had many traumatic experience's in my life which had shape my life and my journey to be a Counsellor. My joy is to see my client change their negative thoughts and thinking from the start of therapy to a clearer understanding of why they tick the way they do in the 'here and now' at the end of therapy.  Some of my clients feedback are the reason why I love my job.

I worked for NHS for 10 years as a Bereavement Support Worker.  I supported families who had loss love ones, I also worked passionately with Women who'd experience pregnancy loss.

I currently volunteer for St Christopher's Hospice, where I support families who are bereft.  These could be long term illness, suicide, traumatic death, I also support those who feels that they can't move on and feel 'stuck', guilty or even angry about their loss.

I also volunteer for an agency Care To Listen, where I support those with generic problems like anxiety, low mood, stress, domestic violence and many more.  I have an 'all rounded' skills, knowledge and experience to help others on their journey to self-actualisation.

Trained with

Cruse Bereavement;

Place2Be as a School Counsellor.

NHS IAPT -Talking Therapy. This consist of six short session, almost like Solution focus therapy. I have a good recovery rate with client and excellent feedback.

Diploma in: Therapeutic Counselling; Life Coaching; Domestic Violence;Domestic Violence and Abuse Awareness.

I'm currently studying a Diploma in Psychology.  I also have additional certificate in Online Counselling, Domestic Violence & Family Support Worker.  I continue my professional development with CPDs to be able to assist and support my clients in the best way possible.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Therapies offered

  • Gestalt therapy
  • Mindfulness
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Play therapy
  • Psychodynamic therapy


£35.00 per session
Free initial telephone or online session

Concessions offered for

  • Keyworkers
  • Low income
  • OAPs
  • Students
  • Trainee counsellors
  • Unemployed

Additional information

Fee are £35 and will consider low cost to unemployed.

Bank Transfer to be paid in advance before each session.


Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

Please call between 9am- 9pm to see if I can fit you in, I will always try to accommodate.

Further information

Please see website moodonup.co.uk

Thornton Heath

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme


Lurlene Angela De Costa

Lurlene Angela De Costa