Lesley Wilkes FDSc. MBACP (Accred)
Life presents us with challenges everyday which can leave us feeling frustrated, stressed, and down. Often it is hard to find the words to express how we are feeling or to know who to speak to about the difficulties we’re facing, and this can be an overwhelming and lonely experience. We can’t change what we have done in the past or what has happened to us but we can choose how to handle these challenges and how they will shape us. Suffering is part of being human but each of us have the potential to take control of our own happiness. If we choose to acknowledge our problems and find the courage to take responsibility for them, it is possible to achieve acceptance and find peace.
How I work
I am an experienced counsellor who works with a range of emotional difficulties offering both short and longer term counselling. My counselling practice is based a short walk from Petts Wood station, but given the current lock-down restrictions, I am offering video counselling support
I can provide you with a safe and confidential space to discuss whatever you would like at your own pace. I will create an environment of trust where you feel comfortable to express yourself freely and without judgement. I will be respectful of the difficulties you are facing and I will listen carefully to understand your experience. With this foundation in place, we will work collaboratively to connect your current feelings to the source of your pain. We will explore your thoughts to make better sense of your distress and work to goals we will set together. We will work with the possibility of building on your confidence to enable you to make choices more in tune with how you wish to live your life and support yourself.
I am trained in/and use Psychodynamic and Person Centred theory in my work. I have an ongoing awareness of the relevance of the past, in particular childhood experience, and how this might be impacting your life in the here and now. My style of relating places emphasis on the strength of the therapeutic relationship, which I believe is very important and I use a conversational style which I feel develops a more natural connection. I am also able to offer interventions using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Transactional Analysis for solution focused goals. My training in different approaches, allows me to adapt my way of working to suit your individual needs.
I work with individuals from a wide range of different cultures and backgrounds. My experience includes counselling children in a primary school setting, adolescents in a senior school and Bereavement counselling for adults in a local hospice. As well as my Private practice, I currently work with adults at a local charity focusing on anxiety and depression. I also undertake work with the government IAPT programme, and NHS PCT work.
Common themes in my work are: depression and low mood; anxiety and stress; relationship difficulties; childhood difficulties, childhood sexual abuse and neglect; life stage transitions - challenging identity, confidence, self esteem; social isolation; social media difficulties; trauma; serious illness, recovery and managing chronic pain; grief/loss, bereavement - as a process to acceptance; self harm; addiction; disordered eating; suicidal thoughts; self care.
It is important to find the right counsellor where you feel comfortable and safe to share your concerns and I understand this may be an overwhelming and a difficult step to take.
Please give me a call on 07551 223770 if you feel it would help for us to have a brief informal chat to discuss how I might be able to help you.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Accredited member of the BACP
- Foundation Degree Science in Counselling. (Open University)
- CPCAB Level 5 Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapeutic Counselling
- CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
- Certificate in practising CBT
- CPCAB Level 2 award in Understanding substance misuse
Continued personal development to include:
- Complex trauma
- Bereavement complicated by abuse
- Working with Anger
- Grief when a child dies
- Supporting Clients with Adult Safeguarding & Deprivation of Liberty in Mind
- Primary and Secondary Schools and Bereavement
- Narcissism and the Body
- Overcoming Anxiety and Panic Attacks
- Why we sleep - Matthew Walker
- NHS - IAPT training
- Working therapeutically with Disordered Eating (Prof. Julia Buckroyd)
- Therapeutic Use of Stones
- Clinical forum on Shame
I am committed to the process of continual professional development and abide by the code of ethics and practice of the BACP. I have full professional indemnity insurance and attend regular supervision with a BACP Accredited supervisor.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£50 per 50 minute session.
Concessions offered for
I am recognised on the following registers: BUPA, AXA PPP healthcare, Aviva, Vitality, Aetna Global Benefits