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MBACP (Accred), BA (Hons) Relational Counselling

About me

Welcome to my page telling you a little about myself and the way I work.  I appreciate that thinking about counselling can be daunting, so finding the right counsellor to work with is important.  I offer a professional service, delivered in an empathic and caring way.

About Me

I am a Integrative counsellor, with over 20 years of experience in both private and NHS settings, and I am an accredited member of the BACP adhering to their ethical framework, but above all I am down to earth and supportive.

My way of working

My belief is the relationship we create is key to the whole process of counselling. By placing the you at the centre of the counselling, focussing on your needs offers an opportunity for you to explore issues that are causing difficulties and may feel impossible to resolve or set aside.

As my therapeutic approach is integrative, I offer a range of approaches in order that you may explore issues in a way that feels comfortable and appropriate to you needs. I have also trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and often use tools from this method in my work.

How does it work

The process can, amongst other things, offer you the opportunity to become self-aware, explore patterns of behaviour along with noting your choices when faced with issues. The counselling sessions gives you time and space to work through problems and challenges, with an experienced practitioner, who will encourage you to work towards being the person you would like to be. In the current climate where things can feel unsettled and fearful, which is a normal response to uncertainty, life can easily become more challenging as we all  try to deal with difficult and unknow experiences. I make no judgements or offer advice, but I am able but to listen, recognise the your worth and encourage you to feel valued.

How we can practically work together

I am currently working Face to Face, through Zoom or using the telephone.

Face to Face offers an opportunity to see each other, which means we have the opportunity  to use both verbal and non verbal cues in the counselling space to help with the growing and learning.  I work from my home and provide an environment which is safe and confidential where we can meet and talk.

Having completed a certificate course in Online and Telephone Counselling, I recognise this is an effective way to work and is particularly useful to be able to find a way to engage with people who would rather be in their own homes.  It does require you to have a space in which you feel comfortable and where you will not be disturbed. It also means that you do not have to travel to me, and this might be beneficial for you. We can either use Zoom or have a telephone call, whichever is easier for you.

Getting Started

Thank you for reading this far, hopefully you will have gained a flavour of me and my approach. I invite you to call, text or email me to discuss having an initial 30 minute free session. In this first session you can consider if I am who you would like to work with, there is no obligation for you to continue if you do not feel I offer the right approach or level of support you need. I too will be able to ensure I am the right person for you work with.  If you decide to continue with sessions we can discuss whether this would be short or long term work, I am happy to do either, along with whether you wish to have weekly or fortnightly sessions.

Final Thoughts

By looking through these pages you have already taken the first important step to finding a counsellor, I hope you will continue to take the time you deserve to find the one who will support you best.

Training, qualifications & experience

I have listed below my main qualifications and training but I do not believe these alone make me a counsellor.


  • BA (Hons) in Integrative-Relational Counselling – Middlesex University June2011
  • Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling – Kingston College June 2003
  • Post Grad Cert in CBT or Treatment of Anxiety & Depression - Metanoia July 2009
  • Certificate in Online and Telephone Counselling – 80 hours training Counselling Tutor 3rd August 2020

As part of my ongoing Professional and Personal Development I have completed a number of courses and training to increase my knowledge and understanding of my work. Some of my more recent ones are:-

  • Working with Dissociative Disorder in Clinical Practice – PODS Training Day 28th April 2018
  • Working with Bereaved Children and Young People – Jigsaw South East 16th October 2019
  • Practical Ways to Help a Grieving Child – Jigsaw South East 26th February 2020
  • Safeguarding and Managing Risk Through Digital Media – BACP Online Training - April 2020
  • Polyvagal Theory In Action: Creating Safety & Connection with Trauma Clients – CPD training with PESI 6th June 2020
  • Working with Bereavement and Complex Grief – BACP Online Training – 18th June 2020
  • Supporting & Counselling People Bereaved During COVID 19 Pandemic – 4 Workshops with OnlineEvents July 2020
  • I also am DBS Checked, registered with Information Commissioners Office (ICO), registered with UKRCP and accredited with the BACP.
  • I work with many issues which include bereavement, anxiety, depression, family issues, trauma, self harm, stress, work related issues, health issues and post natal depression.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy


Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Keyworkers
  • Trainee counsellors

Additional information

I offer an initial 30 minute free session to see if you feel comfortable to work with me and if I feel I can help you with your issues

After that my fees are £50  for a 50 minute session. I work Monday to Friday during the day and have some evening appointments.  I am happy to offer sessions on a weekly or fortnightly basis, which ever suits you.

When I work

I work Monday through to Thursday until 7p.m. and Friday I work 9a.m. until 1.p.m.

Further information

I do have some slots available at a reduced rate dependent upon circumstances.

For Keyworkers in the NHS I offer a 20% discount on my rate making it £40.00, on production of an HNS card.

I work with trainee students and am happy to discuss their individual needs and rates of payment.

Holmwood, Dorking, Surrey, RH5

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme


In person

Supervision is an important part of being a counsellor, and having benefitted from my own supervision, I decided to train to become one in 2011 through CSTD.

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