Kim Bowers MBACP (Accredited member of BACP)
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Hello and welcome!
We all have our stories, they can have many chapters, these create the book of our life.
The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves, we have to live with our thoughts ,feelings and emotions all the time. When we have a good relationship with ourself life takes on a different meaning.
You will find yourself here as you or someone you know will be feeling overwhelmed or certainly challenged by life this, this maybe stopping you from feeling good about you in the world.
I bring 20 +years of experience, both professional and personal understanding the challenges of being human into the therapeutic relationship. In my depth of understanding l am empathic, non-judgemental, compassionate and insightful into how l hear and respond to your story.
People seek therapy for many different reasons such as: a crises or situation which may be old or just recently happened or feeling overwhelmed, anxious or depressed, stuck and/or dissatisfied, disengaged with life and unable to move onto another chapter in life. It may be that your suffering with obsessive thoughts or low self-esteem, or feeling you want to hide inside yourself.
These thoughts and feelings can become difficult, uncomfortable and may feel like your carrying around baggage or feel weighty- this can feel very physical and tiring!!!
Inner thoughts and stories affect all relationships and you may find it hard to have positive relationships. This often is due past attachments in our relationships and what we have learnt in our early life what we see, hear and feel this will inform us in how we relate to others, in relationships. When we understand where we’ve come from it can give direction to where we are going and gives us more choice in where we want to be.
Feelings and inner scripts, beliefs and stories are very powerful and life is full of challenges for us as human beings, it can be hard to detach from them at times and see a bigger picture, therapy helps to see life from a different perspective by exploring many different angles of yourself the journey you so far have been on and feelings connected to this and helps see life from a different perspective.
I work with a gentle yet dynamic and engaging approach, helping you to understand how you think, feel and respond in particular situations and in relationships and why. Together, in a relaxed safe environment, we create the space to explore the obstacles that are causing you difficulties, helping you to gain insight, and enabling you to take control of the relationships and circumstances in your life.
A successful counselling relationship is based on:
- Mutual respect and building TRUST ( small word big meaning!)
- Mutual appreciation of the importance of the relationship
- An understanding that gaining a positive outcome may involve working through pain and resistance
Training, qualifications & experience
I think firstly what has been my greatest teacher is my life experience, but unfortunately there is no Degree or PHD given for that! I have faced and come through many challenges. I would not be who or where l am today if l had not had the support and insights of a couple of good therapists along the way. I believe as a therapist it is my duty to always look within! It is with this experience and depth of my understanding of our human frailty, that humbles me in this very privileged position of therapist.
Taking this and the below information, all enhance the experience of who l am and all of what l have experienced , l bring into the therapeutic relationship.
I completed my training in 1998. Intially l worked as part of the student welfare counselling team,within a higher education setting supporting students with a broad range of age, backgrounds and challenges who came to use the service. I have been in private practice for 16 years.
Previously l worked in social care and justice. I worked advocating and supporting families challenging any issues to support their well-being which was having an impact on their lives.This work led me to work with a wide range of people from different ethnic, social, economic and cultural backgrounds, this has given me a greater understanding of human condition and cultural and emotional differences, stresses and strains that impact on individuals and therefore on their relationships and their families.
l have worked with families and parents and have a depth of understanding both personal and professional of the emotional challenges of parenting, and of being new parent and the emotions, challenges and struggles which can arise from this. The first year of having a child can be the most challenging for a new parent, this can be because of your past, lack of support both physically and emotionally or because of post natal depression. Together we would work to gain understanding and develop coping stratergies to build upon and enhance the relationship with your baby.
Diploma in Person-Centred/Psychodynamic Counselling
Post Diploma in Counselling
Accredited Member of BACP (British Association Counsellors & Psychotherapists)
Certificate in Couples Counselling
Transpersonal Workshops: working creatively with the many aspects within ourselves.
lnner Child Work : There can be the you who is in the world and a you that does not feel so adult. This can be through arrest of development as a child, through trauma, memories of 'back there' you are unable to move away from or have got stuck.
Body and Soma: Working with trauma or strong emotions that are held in the body, using SE ( Somatic Experiencing techniques Peter Levine model).
Working creatively using a wide range art,visualisations and various techniques.
Using Mindfulness to develop and enhance body awareness of how stress and emotions sit within the body and using these tools to help reduce stress, anxiety and manage emotions.
Working with Attachment: The attachment we form as babies with our care givers is the most significant one, it teaches us about relationships. Depending on what the attachment will determine how you attach to further relationships when becoming adult; these may be difficult if the attachment has been difficult, it can be hard to trust others.We work gently within our attachment to develop something different, and therefore work together to begin to gain trust and understanding of how a different relationship can begin. Once you start to get an experience of something different relationships outside the therapeutic space start to change.
Early developmental trauma, is related to experiences from non secure attachments as children. This maybe because of what has happened inside or outside the environment as a child; a child who does not feel safe, or under threat will have experienced this, this will have an impact in relationships in adulthood where they may not feel safe. These children that had to be constantly hyper-vigilant will most part become adults that do.
I am committed to ongoing continual personal and professional development and l attend various training and workshops.
A commitment to my own on going personal journey and inner development.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Career counselling
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Sessions are 50 minutes long and my fees are:
£50 Newmarket one to one
£65 for Newmarket Couples
Payment by cash or cheque only after each appointment Please there is no cash machine.
l review my fees annually and due to this are subject to change.
These will be discussed and negotiated within the therapy if/when appropriate.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Monday to Thursday in Newmarket 8-7.30.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|