Kay J Thomas, Psychotherapist, Counselling Dip, M.BACP
Welcome, to my profile. (https://kayjcounselling.com):
Im a qualified registered (BACP) counsellor for individual adults on a long, medium or short term basis, in Lymington, Hampshire.
You might be looking for a counsellor because of a specific issue or a general sense of something not being quite right. I provide and accepting, supportive and safe space for you to explore experiences, thoughts, feelings and memories that may be getting in the way of you feeling grounded, at ease with yourself and others, or just fully alive.
If your interested in exploring what it might be like to work with me as your counsellor, please do get in touch by messaging me through the contact section, or calling me on the number provided. We can arrange an initial session to get to know each other and find out whether the support I offer would be useful to you, in my office at Kay's Counselling.
Im a humanistic counsellor. I am predominantly Person Centred in my approach, although I also am trained in CBT and Psychodynamic counselling and integrate elements of these approaches in my work. This means I believe we all have a tendency to move towards what we need in life, so long as the conditions (including care and love) around us are and have been, supportive and accepting of our needs. Many of us learn, sometimes early on in life, that some of our real needs and feelings are not acceptable to others, and therefore we find it difficult to accept them ourselves. This can result in anxiety, depression , shame, emotional numbness, self-hatred and other forms of distress, as we adapt ourselves and ignore our true needs. In a healing, therapeutic relationship with an empathic counsellor we can experience these needs and feelings as being truly accepted and prized by another human being.
If you come to counselling with me you will be setting the pace of the work. We will work with whatever you want to bring and at whatever pace and depth you chose. I will facilitate the work , but I will not act as an expert pretending that I know best. You are the expert in your own experiences, and I will support you by being fully present and attuned to your process, to feel more able to trust yourself. The relationship and connection with your counsellor is key to this process, therefore, I work to create a space where you feel you can trust me to support you when you may be feeling at your most vulnerable or distressed. Together I believe we will find the perspective you feel you have lost, enable you to find the resources within yourself for growth and change, its almost like tapping into your own toolbox of knowledge, making you master of your own experience.
“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”
― Carl R. Rogers
Training, qualifications & experience
Level 4 Diploma in Person-Centred/Integrative Counselling
- Registered: MBACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)
- MHACP, (Hampshire Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy)
- Worked previously for 'Life Changes Counselling Service' (Southampton)
- Volunteered/trained at Yellow Door, Rape Crisis service, (Southampton)
- Worked previously at 'Brockenhurst College'
- DBS checked/Fully insured
I have experience of, providing bereavement counselling, although my practice is by no means limited to this. Loss, in its many forms, can be core to much of what we bring to and explore in therapy. Present day losses of any kind (e.g. of a relationship, status, health, functioning, achievement, aspirations, lifestyle, routine) might trigger depression and loneliness and, in some cases, memories of past losses that exploration in therapy can help you to process.
My non-judgemental approach has been particularly supportive to clients struggling with self-esteem, those who have internalised critical messages from others in their lives, and also people who are battling with shame related to events from their present or past. Through experiencing full acceptance from a therapist, many clients start to believe that they are fundamentally "okay".
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Children’s learning difficulties
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have worked with adults who have Special Needs, especially Downs syndrome, everyone needs a space to be heard no matter your issues.
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- Initial consultation 20 mins, either face to face or telephone
- 50% off first session,
- If 6 sessions are booked/paid in advance, sessions = £40,
- Sessions 50 minutes (£45 Per session)
- Contact me by email, or phone, I will try to get back to you asap.
- I'm able to offer flexible hours as I have an office space at home
- Concessions are possible, please ask.
I have a purpose built therapy space, which offers you the private/confidential place you need to explore your issues.
I use the online platform ZOOM for online counselling..
My approach to counselling is flexible; if your house-bound let me bring the counselling to you.
My office has off street parking.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I offer flexible hours 10 am - 19.00 (Mon-Friday). Weekends are possible.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|