Doncaster Nottinghamshire Border
Cornerstone Counselling & Therapy
99 Murray Road
07729 806844 / Cornerstone - 01142678613
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Are you experiencing Sexual problems, Relationship issues, or feel you have a Sex Addiction? Many be I can help.
At some point in life, you may experience trauma, depression, anxiety, bereavement or relationship and sexual problems. Most of the time you are able to seek comfort and support from family and friends. However, you may need to seek help from a Counsellor, such as myself, who can be objective, unbiased, and who is experienced in working professionally with her clients.
The fact that you are reading this means you have made the biggest step in recognising you would like support.
Finding the right Counsellor is another important step. One of the biggest problems you may well encounter is finding the right therapist for you.
It is important that you feel comfortable with your counsellor, so to help you through this process, I offer you a 15-minute consultation where you can ask me a question, enabling you to establish whether or not you feel I am able to help you.
I started my counselling career whilst bringing up my own four children. I am constantly developing and expanding my professional skills. I am a qualified Relate counsellor and work with couples, individuals, young adults and children. My degree in Psychosexual Therapy (Pedi) enables me to successfully work with clients with sexual dysfunction including LGBT, and Sexual addiction.
I adopt an integrative approach so that I can choose the most appropriate therapies for my client. For example, I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Techniques (CBT) to help overcome negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours and Psychodynamic Therapy to explore repressed emotions and experiences from your past. My client-centered approach means that I can offer a therapy strategy, which is tailor-made to the individual.
Relationship counselling may take place with a partner, family member and friend or work colleague. I have extensive experience helping clients with relationship and communication problems. I am able to provide the necessary skills and strategies so that conflict can be managed in a healthy and constructive manner. Couples that come to see me are often experiencing problems because they have lost that spark in their relationship and need help to rediscover and create the emotional and physical desire that initially attracted them to each other.
I welcome Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transsexual and Intersexual clients and have extensive experience working in this field. I focus on the whole person, and not just their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Issues I work with;
- Relationship difficulties/issues
- Communication problems
- Divorce & Separation
- Loss of intimacy
- Commitment issues
- Past relationship difficulties affecting present relationships
Within my practice, I help couples overcome sexual dysfunction, for example, Vaginismus, Dyspareunia and Anorgasmia (inability to have an orgasm). The most common dysfunction I am presented with the lack of desire or loss of libido. This can be devastating to either or ultimately both partners. I utilise Cognitive Behaviour Therapy in order to provide my clients with a bespoke treatment programme. This includes exercises, which are carried out in the privacy of the client’s home.
Sexual Dysfunction I Work with;
- Premature Ejaculation
- Retarded/Delayed Ejaculation
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Sexual pain problems; Vaginismus (Painful or impossible intercourse)
- Dyspareunia (painful intercourse)
- Anorgasmia (Unable to reach orgasm)
- Differences in sex drives between partners
- Gender Dysphoria
- Sexual identity issues
- Sexual problems arising out of altered body appearance or function, including surgery (breast or genital treatment for conditions such as cancer, stomas, scarring).
- Sexual difficulties following sexual traumas including sexual assault, sexual abuse.
This is a term that describes any pattern of out of control sexual behaviour that causes problems in someone’s life, a pattern of behaviour that cannot be stopped, or does not reliably stay stopped…. any behaviour can be addictive, it’s not the behaviour itself that is the problem but the relationship to the behaviour. When we become dependent on something and can’t stop doing it, in spite of all the problems it’s causing in our lives, we’re addicted.
This is a very secret addiction. You can access for example porn for hours on end and yet there would be no physical side effects as with say alcohol, so the secrecy of the addiction is easy to maintain. Massive of shame surrounds this addiction which then drives the addict further down the block hole.
One in twenty are addicted to sex, 30% are women!
If any of this sounds familiar to you in any way contact me and we will work together to understand the reason for the addiction and learn to break the chain of behaviour, removing the shame, and allowing you to be the person you want to be.
I work with;
- Sexual Addiction/Compulsivity
- Sexual behaviour that feels out of control
- Compulsive masturbation
- Compulsive use of pornography
- Anonymous sex
- Having multiple ongoing affairs
- Chat room/online sex
I am a trained telephone counsellor. Telephone counselling can be advantageous for clients who are unable to leave the house. It is also useful for one off sessions whereby a client may have hit crisis point and needs some help instantly.
Clients can access telephone counselling during work time, in lunch breaks and is particularly suitable if they are unable to travel to my practice. Despite not being a face to face experience, it has proved to be very successful. In fact, some clients prefer it.
In this day and age, talking online using Skype or Facetime (Webcam) can also provide an excellent method to access counselling. Just as with telephone counselling, the client does not need to leave the home to speak with me. I can also set up conference calls to link partners who may not be in the same locality. This can be effective in couples counselling.
If you and your partner live in different places webcam counselling is an easy way for you both to take part in a session from separate locations. A new and convenient way to talk to a counsellor — you choose when and where to have counselling. No baby sitters, no travelling (saving time and money), all in the comfort of your own home.
YOUNG PERSON COUNSELLING
As a qualified Relate Counsellor, I am uniquely placed to assist children and young adults who are experiencing problems. Common issues that I help with are self-harming, separation and divorce, exam stress, sexual abuse, depression and loss of a loved one.
I work hard to build a trusting relationship with my younger clients through therapies such as sand play, art therapy and play therapy.
BACP Code of Ethics.
I adhere to the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) code of ethics and their principles of good practice. Confidentiality and professionalism combine to ensure an ethical approach and quality of service is provided. I am also a Accredited member of The College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and I adhere to the strict code of ethics and guidelines set out by COSRT.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Each session is an hour long. I can offer you a safe place to explore the issues that you as an individual or as a couple are experiencing. Together we will unpick and explore your problems so that you become empowered to make any necessary changes and achieve your goals. I believe in client-led counselling and will endeavour to work with whatever you bring to the session. I am not a miracle worker but I will work hard to get you where you want to be.
I work from a specially set up therapy room in my own home on the border of South Yorkshire and Nottinghamshire. I am 20 minutes from Sheffield and just of the A1. I offer a private and comfortable environment, with wheelchair access along with free parking.
I suggest an initial session to discuss and explore your problems and also to see if we are happy to continue working together. I ask that if clients need to cancel that they give a minimum of 48 hours notice. Payment at the end of a session can be either cash, cheque or bank transfer. Please note that I offer reduced rates for students, unemployed and mature clients.
I look forward to your enquiry.
Training, qualifications & experience
Post-Graduate Diploma in Relationship Psychosexual - University of Hull, Relate Institute.
Higher Diploma in Psychodynamic Counselling.
HND HC management Westminster College, London.
RELATE Trained Conversion in Working with Couples.
Counselling Young People (10 to 18 yrs).
Therapeutic Counselling Skills for Children (5 to 10 yrs).
Continual Professional Development
Domestic Violence Abuse Awareness and Safety.
Sexually Compulsive Behaviour.
Mindfulness : Sex and Relationships.
Mental Health and Couple Counselling.
Sexual Addiction and Couples.
Psychosexual Workshop 'Neurobiology and Sexual Desire'.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy with working with Children.
Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
St Luke's Hospice Bereavement Volunteer.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Physical abuse
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Sexual issues including Vaginismus, Dyspareunia, Anorgasmia, Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejacultation and Lack of Desire
Sex addictions working with the addict and the partners of addicts
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Family/systemic therapy
Sessions are available mornings or evenings seven days a week for up to 60 minutes at a cost of £50 couple, and £45 for an individual.
For sex therapy, the cost for an hours session is £60
For Sex Addiction and supporting partners of Addicts, for an hours session is £60
Skype sessions, can be available if appropriate i.e. when working abroad £45
Telephone counselling is also available, especially for house bound clients £45
Payment is accepted in cash or by cheque, or bank transfer.
20% discount for children under 12, students and OAPs.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Private sessions are available every weekday between 9am to 8pm - and at weekends in the morning. I also provide online counselling via Skype. Wheel chair access and free secure parking
Types of client