About me

About me
Hello and welcome to my profile, and thank you for your interest in counselling and psychotherapy. Currently I work online through video and via phone and email. I have worked online extensively and find this is a very effective medium for many people.

My name is Kate Graham, I am an experienced psychotherapist and supervisor, accredited by the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). I don't judge you, and I strive to be authentic, to offer a space where you can be genuinely heard and met. I offer both short term counselling and longer-term therapy, depending on your needs and interests. I am passionate about helping people grow and connect with themselves, and with others, and find their way once again in their lives.

I have helped people work through a wide range of issues such as:

  • Anxiety and generalised anxiety disorder
  • Depression and feeling sad
  • Low self esteem and self confidence
  • Life purpose and direction
  • Loss and bereavement
  • Childhood and more recent trauma
  • Relationship and family issues
  • Sexuality and identity

Prior to becoming a psychotherapist I worked in a wide range of settings: in the voluntary sector, in International Development, and as a consultant, trainer and coach. With my colleagues at Triangle Consulting I developed the Outcomes Star and a range of other developmental outcome tools. Underpinning all of this was a concern to support people and help them make the changes they wished to make. I bring all of this experience to my therapy practice and to supervision.

What happens in therapy?
Our first session together is a chance to explore what has brought you to counselling or therapy, and what you hope to get from it. You will be listened to, carefully and deeply, as I start the process of understanding you and how you make sense of the world. It is a chance for you to decide whether you would like to work with me, and for me to assess whether I have the skills and experience to offer you what you need.

From this session we will work out whether a short focused set of sessions would work for you, or whether you would prefer longer term psychotherapy to explore the deeper causes of the issues you are experiencing, and agree a way forward. I will often suggest that people try six sessions anyway, before making any longer term commitment.

Therapy is a place to explore what is really going on for you, in a safe and attentive space. It is a time to pay attention to yourself, and listen to what is going on for you, and be truly listened to. My aim is to provide you with a warm, kind, supportive (and challenging), safe environment in which to undertake this exploration. In therapy I work with you to make sense of your experiences, which is likely to involve exploration of your childhood and the beliefs and strategies that were necessary for you as a child, but which may no longer be helpful.

People who have observed me working have commented on my calm presence and my care, kindliness and warmth. I pay attention to what you tell me through your body as much as your words, and I am interested in your felt experience, as often it is hard to put words to what you are feeling. As well as working with what you feel in your body I may also use creative techniques to help us understand what is going on for you and between us, where this is something that works for you. My aim is to work with you to find the approach that fits you best, and to develop this as we work together.

I am an integrative relational psychotherapist. The integrative part of this, as a verb, means that I integrate several approaches, as appropriate, into my work, such as Transactional Analysis, Gestalt, Attachment Theory, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Narrative Therapy. As a noun, I aim to help you, as needed, to integrate different parts of yourself, to integrate your sense of past, present and future, and to feel more integrated with others and a greater sense of your soul or spirit. The relational part recognises that healing happens in a relationship, just as any original trauma happened in relationship, and that the issues that require attention are likely to appear in the relationship between us as we work together and get to know each other better.

Working with relationships and couples
My approach to working with two people and their relationship draws on similar principles to my individual work, though with a more systemic approach. Our work together may include looking at how you communicate and understand or misunderstand each other. Work often includes looking at how each person’s childhood attachment patterns are impacting the relationship, and you may need to work through practical issues such as finance, childcare, and wider family pressures. We will clarify what you each want from your relationship, the meanings you place on each others’ words and actions, and the love, experiences and hopes that you share.

In your first session will involve some assessment of where you each are now in the relationship how we might name the problem, and what you each hope to gain from couple’s therapy. It can be helpful for both parties to have an individual session with me before reconvening for further joint sessions. I normally suggest we try an initial five joint sessions and then review how we are working together.

My therapy room is close to Ben Rhydding station, one stop before Ilkley, less than half an hour by a regular train service train from Leeds or Bradford. There is also plenty of free parking just outside my door.

Professional Qualifications
I am a full clinical member of UKCP and am bound by their ethical code, holding a post graduate Diploma as an Integrative Psychotherapist through four years of advanced training. I also hold a UKCP accredited Diploma in Supervision. I have trained extensively in NLP and am a qualified Master Practitioner and Certified Trainer, as well as an NLP Coach.

I am committed to learning and professional and personal development, in order to provide the best service possible to my clients. I read widely, write regularly, and attend frequent CPD. Recent training and professional development includes:
·       Advanced Practice in Couples and Relationship Therapy, London Gestalt Centre
·       Introduction to Dyadic Developmental Therapy Dan Hughes
·       Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing Part 1 and 2,
·       Rewind by David Muss,
·       Introduction to Narrative Therapy for Trauma and Anxiety
·       Creative approaches for working with children and young people, London Gestalt Centre
·       Working with Faith and the Spirit,
·       Working with Shame,

These and other courses, together with my training, give me a wide range of tools to work with the issues you may bring, so that I can tailor my approach to your needs. Each relationship is unique, as we all need different things.

I take part in a regular CPD group focused on the therapeutic needs of people with Autism and ADHD, to develop and update my knowledge of this specialised and much needed area. I am particularly interested in working with people with high functioning autism as I have seen the distress and anxiety associated with this condition, especially in teens, and have generally been able to help this, though working carefully to identify and meet relational and emotional needs.

I am fully insured and receive regular supervision from a highly experienced psychotherapist and trainer.

In addition to my private practice, I currently work with refugees and asylum seekers for Yorkshire charity Solace Surviving Exile and Persecution. I have a breadth of experience in working multi-culturally and through interpreters. In the last five years I have worked in a local secondary school and in a Bradford primary school. I have previously worked with school students and staff at (what was then) Goole High School. I enjoy working with young people, and with people of all ages. I am also interested in working with clergy and those for whom faith is important. I am a Quaker and engage in regular spiritual practice.

Locations for face to face counselling (currently not available)

My counselling and psychotherapy practice is based in Ilkley and is easy to reach by train and road from Leeds, Bradford, Bingley, Balidon, Guiseley, Saltaire, Menston, Skipton, Harrogate and much of West Yorkshire.

Working outside

Do you feel more alive, more connected, more grounded when outdoors? If you find that you can connect to your feelings more easily when out in the open air you might like consider taking your therapy session outside. It is cold, but it is a viable COVID safe option! The initial session will be by zoom.

For more details about this please take a look at my website

Online Counselling

I also offer online counselling via zoom. This is highly effective, and I have now worked with a large number of clients from across the UK entirely online. For more information about this please contact me.

What to do next

If you think working with me might be helpful to you, please call or text me on 07866 323291 or email. If you would like to have a chat on the phone to help you work out whether you would like to come that would be fine. I look forward to hearing from you.

First session is half price

I offer a first session at half price (£25) so that you can get a feel for working with me. After this I charge £50 an hour (with a sliding scale from £35 for those whose incomes are affected by Covid).

Training, qualifications & experience

Diploma in Supervision UKCP Accred December 2020 (Distinction)
Diploma in Integrative Psychotherapy December 2016

I hold an MA from Cambridge, an Msc in International Policy Studies (Bristol) and and MA in Conflict Resolution (Bradford).

I have a post postgraduate certificate in Coaching and Mentoring (Oxford Brookes) and the NLP qualifications described above.

Before training in psychotherapy I worked in the voluntary sector for nearly twenty years, in a varied career that took me to many countries, including living in Kenya and Ethiopia. I have learnt a great deal from these experiences and bring this learning to my practice. I am a trained community mediator.

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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UK Council for Psychotherapy

The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) is a leading professional body for the education, training and regulation of psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors. Its register is accredited by the government's Professional Standards Authority.

As part of its commitment to protect the public, it works to improve access to psychotherapy, to support and disseminate research, to improve standards and to respond effectively to complaints against its members.

UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

UK Council for Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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Other areas of counselling I deal with

Death anxiety
life transitions

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Free initial telephone or online session

Additional information

I charge £50 per hour session for individual therapy, £50 per hour for couples therapy (sessions may be 90 minutes) and £45 for supervision.

I am currently offering a half price first session at £25 for one hour.

If your income has been adversely affected by the COVID situation please let me know as I offer a sliding scale for individual therapy from £35 in this instance.


I work online weekdays and occasional evenings. See website for current availability

West Yorkshire

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme

Key details

There are three steps up to the house. I also offer online therapy, and work via telephone and email. It is easy to reach Ilkley by train: 25 minutes from Leeds and from Bradford, allowing easy access from York and many other towns.


In person supervision
Online supervision
Telephone supervision

I am a UKCP qualified relational integrative supervisor, working in West Yorkshire and online. I am currently taking on new supervisees.

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Kate Graham

Kate Graham