I have kept the general message below but I am, of course, currently working only online using Zoom or by telephone.
I offer a warm, friendly, professional and confidential service in a safe and comfortable environment. I have been working as a therapist for many years and I have had therapy myself, finding life challenging at times, so I know how it feels to be the client.
I work in a totally informal way and I find this helps my clients to feel relaxed, even after just a few sessions. You do not have to be prepared in any way before coming to see me, or starting your therapy.
When you think about seeking psychotherapy/counselling, it is not unusual to put it off because you have difficulty in believing or listening to yourself, asking questions such as:
'Did that really happen to me?', 'Am I exaggerating everything in my head?', or 'Is it just me?' - all sorts of thoughts/questions/fears that stop us coming for help.
That is why we will work at your pace, and equality, honesty and self-worth will be encouraged in our work together. I will encourage you to feel present in the moment, rather than worrying about the past and your future. If it helps, we will 'explore' together your childhood experiences and your (often unhelpful) family patterns.
In other words, we would strive to help you to experience a helpful and nurturing relationship. Therapy can greatly reduce your feelings of anxiety. When we are feeling lost or down, we can feel extremely lonely and/or isolated. When things are just not right, we tend to feel so very alone with our thoughts and feelings - even when we are surrounded by close friends and family.
People come for therapy for all sorts of reasons, including:
anxiety or fear
stress related problems
relationship problems - at home or at work
Affairs/betrayal/divorce or separation
emotional or physical pain
depression/feelings of worthlessness
low self esteem/lack of confidence
emotional/physical (including sexual) abuse
(whether happening now or having happened in your past).
Therapy is not limited to a specific issue/problem. Often you find that what is really troubling you is deep-rooted and often out of awareness until you begin to 'explore' with me.
In seeking help to try to sort out our 'struggles', we may be 'diagnosed' or 'labelled' as having this, that and the other. I understand that diagnoses are not always helpful and I work hard to understand how you feel as an individual - a human being rather than a number with a label.
You may find that you often feeling angry, without really understanding why, or be aware of the painful emotions but believe that nobody sees the pain behind your anger.
Anything at all can be brought to our therapy sessions, whether they be everyday problems or more serious issues.
I can help you to feel more comfortable with yourself as a human being (AND, VERY IMPORTANTLY, TO LIKE YOURSELF), encouraging you to value the person you are, learning that it is OK to be who and what you are. I will encourage you to tell me about your feelings and think about how you may be constantly criticising yourself - unable to accept these feelings as valid. You can learn to stand back and observe your behaviours, rather than condemn yourself for the way you are.
Coming for counselling/psychotherapy can truly help you to feel less alone. You can talk about whatever is bothering you, safe in the knowledge that you have someone you can trust. Over a time, however long that might be, we will get to know each other and you may find this helps you to be open with me.
At times we just know that something is not right and we struggle to work it out without help.
I see individual clients and couples for short or long term therapy. You decide what suits you. Some clients come for just a few sessions and others come for long-term work. We will have a review from time to time to discuss how you feel about how we are working and if/when you want to end the therapy.
The thought of going for therapy can be extremely daunting. I understand this. It is difficult to make contact and this can make you feel extremely anxious. While I work on a professional level, I would consider myself a warm and friendly person and I will do my utmost to make you feel relaxed.
If you decide to consider working with me, following our first session there is no obligation whatsoever or any need to commit to anything.
I thoroughly enjoy my work and learn a lot from my clients about what it means just to be a person.
Counselling for Relationships (Couples, Siblings, Parents and anyone in a relationship and struggling)
If you come as a couple due to relationship problems, I will do my utmost to ensure you are both heard equally. We all have our own individual values and beliefs.
At times in your relationship you may feel that you have grown apart. Perhaps you feel you are both taking each other for granted, wishing to get back to 'the way it was before'. There may be a lack of sex and/or intimacy. However, relationships, like human beings, change with time. Sometimes we are just not very good at allowing for our personal changes in our relationships. Think about how many changes you have experienced in your time together - probably several more than you had realised.
You have to share the commitment to improve your relationship. I will encourage you to be open and honest with each other, rather than bottling up your feelings - not easy without help. Communication is absolutely vital in a healthy relationship, yet sometimes we get so tangled up that we find it very difficult to be open with our partner about how we feel.
Learn to get along without a fight.
I work in Bearsden, Glasgow. If you are working full time, I can offer early evenings during the week or some Saturdays during the day.
I am happy to work in the way that suits you: face to face, online using Zoom or by telephone.
Training, qualifications & experience
Certificate in Counselling Skills (COSCA Accredited)
Diploma in Psychodynamic Counselling (COSCA Accredited) at the Garnethill Centre, Glasgow.
ASIST (Suicide Intervention) course
Training in work with young people at Edinburgh University
Professional Certificate in Couples Counselling (Advanced Professional Training) at Strathclyde University
Certificate in Online Therapy
Emotion-Focused Psychotherapy (L1) Strathclyde University
I am a fully qualified counsellor/psychotherapist and have over fifteen years' experience, working in the private and voluntary sectors with a countless number of clients during this time.
I am a Registered Member of BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and abide by its Code of Ethics.
The most important part of my frequent and ongoing 'training' is in my own life's experiences, which help me to understand what it means to be a human being.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am currently working solely with Zoom or telephone. This will be a temporary arrangement, unless it would suit you to continue with this mode of working on a permanent basis.
Please get in touch if there is anything you would like to ask.
My fees are £50 per session for individuals. For couples my fees are £60 per session (or £90 for a ninety minute session).
There are times when I can offer reduced fees for young people. Please contact me to discuss. Thank you.
Should you wish an initial consultation, the fees are the same. Alternatively, we could have a brief chat on the phone before our first session to give you an opportunity to ask me about anything you would like to know about therapy in general.
You would usually pay by cash or cheque at the end of each session, or by BACS prior to the session (apart from the first session, which you can pay after it has taken place.) During this time when only online work is possible, I can only accept payment by bank transfer.
It is important that you feel that I am the right therapist for you and that we could get along.
We all feel a bit 'stuck' at times and it can feel impossible to move forward. I am able to help you explore how you feel about you and your ways of being with others around you. I will listen to you with care in a safe environment and you will be treated with dignity and respect.
Therapy can enhance your life in general, improving relationships as you learn to be happy with yourself as you are. Getting to know yourself more - i.e. self-awareness - is a gift!
In our work together, you will have an opportunity to be heard - perhaps for the first time in your life.