Judith Marlow PGDip Psychotherapy & Counselling, MEd, MBACP (Registered)
How I can help you
Do you sometimes feel too much and sometimes feel nothing at all?
Maybe it feels like your life is a puzzle and some of the pieces are missing. Do you dream a lot, or maybe you never remember your dreams? Does it feel like you’ve been an adult all your life, or instead (or as well!) does it often feel like you’re a lost child? Do you wonder whether there are walls inside your mind, or do you think maybe some walls would help?
Therapy can be a space to explore, or a space to just be. You can talk, or we can try creative ways of finding what it is you want to bring to our time together. We would be working together to find ways of doing/being therapy that help you to do what you’ve come to do.
What to expect
Expect to be listened to. Expect to be respected and heard. Expect not to be judged, whatever you say.
Expect to learn to create a safe space where you can bring what you need to work on, or discover what it is you’re wanting from therapy.
Expect to feel tired after a session. Be prepared that you may feel worse before you feel better. Be prepared for me to respect what you do and don't want to talk about. Expect some things to be easier than you thought to address. Expect some things to be more difficult than you thought. Expect improvement in some things. Expect to learn to live with uncertainty about others. Expect that there will be a time when you don't need therapy any more:
'When you need me, but do not want me, then I must stay. When you want me, but do not need me, then I must go' (Nanny McPhee). I'm not a 'must' person, but several people who've come to me for therapy have found this helpful in knowing when therapy should end for them.
How long should I come for? How long can I come for?
We will decide this together and we can talk about it again at any time. It might take a few sessions, a few months, a year or several years. You might want to come for a few sessions and then take a break.
What are the rules?
You can say absolutely anything. You don't have to be polite. You don't have to watch your language. However you express yourself is welcome. You don't have to cry, and you can cry. You don't have to say anything at all.
Sessions are confidential. That means that I will not discuss what you have brought to therapy with anyone else.
The only time I would break confidentiality is if I felt that you or someone else was at immediate serious risk. I would never do this without carefully discussing it with you first. For example, if someone who had previously sexually abused you was currently in a position of responsibility working with children, or if you were actively suicidal, we would discuss together who was the best person to share this information with, and how we would do it.
It is also important to know that every counsellor or psychotherapist is professionally bound to have regular clinical supervision. I meet with my clinical supervisor once a month for supervision of my entire caseload. His job is to help make sure I am doing the best job I can. I discuss some of my cases with him each month, and I use first names only, minimising identifying information.
Therapy sessions last for 50 minutes. If you arrive or log on late, you can have the rest of your 50 minute session, but we won't go on for longer than the original session time. So if your session was booked for 2pm - 2.50pm, and you arrived or logged on to video chat at 2.40pm, we would work together for the full 10 minutes that was left of the session.
If you're coming to the therapy room at my home, then at the end of the session we leave the room as we found it. That means that if you want to move the chairs, get out all 200 plastic figures and animals, or lie on the floor with a blanket, that's genuinely ok. We'll make sure together that there's enough time to get the room back to how it was when you came in. There's a sofa and two comfortable chairs. If you are interested in creative therapy, there's sand, a large soft toy horse, lego, playdough, some art materials, postcards, puppets, soft toys, anatomically correct dolls and therapeutic Jenga.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Registered Member of the BACP. My registration number is 099935.
I trained in Psychotherapy and Counselling at the University of Leeds. I am experienced in delivering short and long-term counselling and therapy to people of all ages. Contexts include a women's therapy service, a university and college counselling service, in schools and in the community.
I trained in supervision of individuals and groups at the University of Strathclyde. I am experienced in supervising other counsellors' work with children, young people and adults. I welcome new supervisees and invitation to supervise groups, in person and online.
I have done the ESTD/First person plural foundation and post-foundation training in dissociation and trauma, and am qualified to screen for and make an initial diagnosis of dissociative disorders using SCID-D and DES/A-DES.
I have a range of training in creative ways of working therapeutically with children and adults.
I am trained in safeguarding children, young people and vulnerable adults.
I am a member of the ISST-D, the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation.
I support PODS, Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Young carers
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Dissociative Identity Disorder, DID, DDNOS, Dissociative Disorders, Derealisation, Depersonalisation, Dissociative Amnesia, Identity Confusion, Multiple Personality Disorder, Dissociative Fugue.
£40 per 50 minute session in person. Online sessions £40 by VSee.
Here are a few thoughts about cost:
1. The emotional cost of therapy goes along with the money cost - many of the reasons that bring us to therapy are not our fault, and it can be hard to be the one that is paying for it. Investing in the work is not always easy - the aim is that in the long term it will be worth it.
2. If someone else is paying, make sure you're still willing to invest the time and emotional energy it takes to do the therapy. From my point of view, I am not accountable to them for how you use their money, I'm accountable to you for doing a good job working with you. Your therapy is for you, and it's you I'm working for.
I have an Enhanced DBS certificate. Please ask me for my certificate number if you would like to check my DBS status online.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Regular counselling and supervision daytime only. Online initial consultations available some evenings and weekends. No availability until September 2018.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
As a supervisor, I will support you to feel held and empowered in your work, and to find your own learning edge, based on us building a relationship together where we can create an environment where there is the right balance of safety and challenge for you.