Jeremy P Gould MBACP
If you want to try and change your life or how you feel - I can help you. I have helped many patients in short and long term therapy to think and talk about what are seemingly intractable and painful issues, that fundamentally affect their daily life.
If you are able to think about and understand why you feel the way you do, what triggers those emotions and why it affects you so badly, it can help you to resolve and alleviate the stress, pain, anger and loneliness that you may currently feel.
There are times in everyone’s life when:
- Close relationships break down because of affairs and betrayals
- Feelings of emptiness and numbness
- Loved ones pass away
- Nothing seems to go right at work
- You feel constantly low and tired but you just don’t know why
- Suffer from anxiety and panic attacks
- Feelings of worthlessness, guilt and shame
- Feelings of being “trapped” wanting to run away but to where?
In the past you perhaps have always found a ways of dealing with those feelings, ways of coping with them, but, maybe you can’t seem to now.
Friends and family may try to help (if you can even tell them), but, it might leave you feeling even more frustrated if you think they just don’t understand or they just expect you will get over it- time will sort it out. You may even pretend to be better, be cheerful in front of them because you don’t want to disappoint them or be seen to be boring.
This can leave you in a very lonely place with the feeling that life will never get any better. That no one really understands what it is really like.
You can suffer a real lack of confidence in yourself, your abilities and be very sensitive to how others perceive you. Out of character outbursts of anger can occur -which only makes it worse because you then have to deal with all the additional feelings of guilt and remorse.
If you would like to break this vicious cycle and try change your life call or email me.
Training, qualifications & experience
I completed a five year Psychotherapy and Counselling training at WPF Therapy one of Britain’s top certified training institutions with a reputation for clinical excellence.
I hold a British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) accredited Post Graduate Diploma in Psychodynamic Theory and Practice.
I am a member of the following: British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP)
I am committed to ethical practice and abide by the Code of Ethics of all the councils and societies I am a member of.
I have trained and practised with CRUSE the bereavement counselling charity and with Royal Borough of Kensington and Chelsea Befriending scheme.
Prior to training as a Psychotherapist I attended a London University and worked for many years in the media, creative and property industries.
I believe that having worked in a number of different occupations, that I have enormous experience, of how difficult and stressful the creative and professional lives of people can really be. The expectations or demands may be different in each industry but perhaps there is a similarity in terms of human desire for recognition and success.
I trained in psychotherapy and counselling because I felt that I had a number of career and life experiences, some of which were very good, others, that were very painful and traumatic. I found that there are some aspects of life you can change through therapy, others, you just have to try to come to terms with- painful as that maybe.
Perhaps I can help you discover and decide what can and can't be changed.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Unbearable work stress and lack of performance due to either lack of self confidence, fear of redundancy, bereavement or divorce.
Relationship and Couples Counselling - Acrimonious or bitter separations in divorce or other relationships. Can the relationship be saved or does betrayal or lack of change in the other make it impossible? How is it possible to have a civil or workable relationship after the split?
Children/Parenting/ Family Issues - what boundaries and attention should we give our children when we are bringing them up? What happens to them when things go wrong in your relationship? Can it ever be repaired? How do you repair the damage?
Anger Management - why do we store our anger up inside. And, when it finally does come out, it's like a tsunami destroying and obliterating everyone in its path. How does it leave you feeling ashamed , guilty, angry and misunderstood? What stops you being understood, heard or being able to communicate, how you feel in a reasonable manner?
Ageing - what does it feel like to be "invisible", no longer the centre attention, no longer desired? What does it feel like not to have achieved or done what you have always wanted? How do you come to terms the with the regrets, anger and bitterness you may feel?
Death - How can life ever get better when the closest person you have always loved and relied on dies? How do you fill that gap?
Creative block - Why is it so difficult to start? What's really stopping you? How much pain do you have to suffer to begin?
Internet Porn Addiction - Why is it easier to have a relationship with something that has no feelings, that can't answer back that prevents us having a real one?
Times and Costs
It may be that you just need a few short sessions to get you back on your feet or it might be that it takes a little longer.
Fees vary from £50-90 per day depending on the time of the session, personal circumstance and whether it is single or couples counselling.
There may be a limited availability of some low cost sessions available at certain times.
How I Work
My style is not to sit there stony faced and silent - expecting you to do all the talking. I will listen but I will also reflect, question and contribute on what I hear. I work collaboratively with clients in an honest, direct, but, empathic way to build a relationship of trust that allows you to feel comfortable, safe and secure.
I am not a mindreader, I can’t magically understand what you are feeling or thinking. It may be that you have never had or needed to formulate a language, to describe how you are feeling. Trying to put into words the pain and anxiety that you feel is just simply alien, foreign, incomprehensible and unnatural.
I work together with patients to try to formulate a language, to try to put into words painful experiences thoughts and feelings which may seem indescribable and unsayable.
Everyone’s difficulties and experiences are unique. There are no set formulas or answers that can be "cut and pasted".
However, if you begin to understand the origins of those painful feelings and recognise the situations that make them arise it gives you the chance and opportunity to think more creatively about them. To see them in a different light, in a different pair of shoes.
And, in doing so it helps to create the basis for change, the chance to communicate how you feel, in a language understood and accepted by others leading to the possibility of a more fulfilling life.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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