Jem Stopes
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About me
Hi, I’m Jem. I’m a they/them (but I’m easy going about it if people find that confusing). I’m a COSRT registered sex and relationship therapist. I take a pluralist approach which means I adapt the way I work to meet the client in front of me. My influences include person-centred counselling, CBT, mindfulness/Buddhist teachings, parts work, and life coaching.
I work with people of any sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship structure and way of life. I have training and lived experience with kink/BDSM, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Trans/Non-Binary Identities and Sex Positive Culture.
I offer a relaxed and non-judgmental space to get into the depths of your sexual and relational life and to transform the challenges into gold. I’ve worked with a whole range of issues including erection problems, early ejaculation, difficulties with orgasm, desire discrepancy in couples, communication difficulties, and attachment issues to name a few.
I have a strong, and long-standing somatic meditation and movement practice which informs the quality of presence that I bring to this work.
In my spare time, I produce community events with my mobile sauna and play music with friends. I love dancing and nature.
I am a Registered Member of the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT).
Training, qualifications & experience
Therapy Trainings:
- Foundation in Integrative Counselling at BCPC (Bath Centre for Psychotherapy and Counselling): 2020 - 2022
- Diploma in Clinical Sexology (Sex and Relationship Therapy) at CICS (Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology): 2022 - 2025
Other Training:
- Non-Violent Communication: 2016
- Conflict Mediation: 2017 + 2019
Previous Therapy Experience:
- 230+ supervised placement hours at MIND's LGBTQ+ therapy service and at Your Time to Talk.
Other Relevant Experience:
- 6 years as a conflict mediator.
- 2 years as a behaviour change facilitator with male perpetrators of domestic abuse.
- 10 years of concerted meditation practice (multiple silent retreats a year).
Member organisations
COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.
All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I specialise in Psychosexual Therapy and work with couples. I'm available for any and all sexual concerns, sexual function problems, low desire, concerns about porn use, issues related to kink, non-monogamy, and gender identity.
Therapies offered
Fees
£40.00 - £90.00
Additional information
Individual therapy: £60 for 50 minutes
Couples/groups: £90 for 75 minutes
Low-cost: I also offer a reduced price for clients on a low income, starting from £40 per session.
When I work
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