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BA Hons, Dip HE Counselling (distinction), MBACP Accred

About me

I am based in the Hamble/Netley Abbey area of Southampton and offer supportive and non-judgemental counselling for people of all ages, races, genders and sexualities. I have a safe, confidential and welcoming environment where you can talk to me about anything which is bothering you. I also work online (by Doxy.me, Zoom etc) and by telephone. I will listen carefully to help you to explore any issues which might be making life difficult and to try to find a way forward. I work with adults, young people from about 14 and am also a qualified counselling supervisor.

I can help with a wide range of issues and list some of these below.  In addition I also have extensive specialist experience in working with trauma (in particular sexual or domestic abuse) and in working with alcohol, drugs and addictions (including gambling, food, sex, porn and shopping).  I also hold an advanced certificate in couples' counselling and an OCN certificate in supervision.  The wider range of things I work with includes:

  * feeling anxious, low or depressed
  * feeling stressed, finding it difficult to cope with life
  * relationship and family issues 
  * bereavement
  * being worried or confused about your sexuality or gender
  * dealing with the effects of sexual, mental or physical abuse
  * personality disorders such as EUPD                                                                              * lack of confidence
  * low self esteem
  * panic attacks
  * managing anger or frustration
  * difficulties at school, work or college                                                                         * obsessive compulsive disorder
  * the impact of trauma
  * coping with change
  * worries about drinking or drug use
  * resolving 'unfinished business'
  * self harm
  * compulsive behaviours and addictions                                                                      

My experience of working with agencies includes 5 years with a drugs and alcohol agency and almost 4 years with a well respected local charity dealing with rape, sexual assault and domestic abuse.  In addition I currently work as a counsellor for a large employee assistance provider and have worked for a senior school, local university and a children's home and school specialising in working with children and young people from traumatic backgrounds or affected by school exclusion.

As a 'gestalt' counsellor I work by listening to find out how you see things and what is really important to you as an individual or as an individual within a couple. I will help you to understand what you feel, why you feel the way you do and to explore what it would be like to be different. We will try to make sense of your story together so that you can then make decisions about moving forward. I will support you to identify and make changes and also to cope when things can't be changed. Although some issues take a while to resolve, many clients say they start to feel better and more in control after just a few sessions. Being able to talk openly and without fear of judgement is a huge relief for many clients.

The relationship between us as client(s) and counsellor is an important part of therapy.   I am caring, have a genuine interest in helping to make your life happier and will do my best to make sure that you feel safe and confident in working with me. I will always do what I feel is in your best interests and helps you to move forward. A key part of my approach is being fully respectful of you as your own person. I also find that having a good sense of humour can be a very useful tool. If we do decide to work together there are likely to be at least a few occasions when we find we are laughing together, even in the most difficult circumstances!

I am an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) meaning I reach their higher standards in respect of ‘knowledge, experience and development of counselling and psychotherapy’ and I am fully policed checked. 

Location-wise I am based just off J8 of the M27, around 15-20 minutes from Hedge End, Locks Heath, Whiteley, Warsash and Botley, 10 minutes from eastern Southampton (Woolston, Weston, Sholing etc) and around 20 minutes from Eastleigh, Fareham and central Southampton. My private counselling room is in a peaceful, semi-rural location and has its own wc facilities. There is plenty of parking on the drive or road outside.

Training, qualifications & experience

I have many years' experience of working with adults with alcohol and addictions issues, facilitating groups and delivering 1-1 counselling and also in working with trauma and sexual and domestic abuse.  I also have considerable experience of counselling young people aged 8-25 through working in a senior school, and through working as a therapist at a children's home and school for young people from traumatic backgrounds or affected by school exclusion. I have also worked with a local charity carrying out telephone counselling for adult survivors of domestic abuse, currently work as a sessional counsellor at the local university. I also work as a counsellor for a large employee assistance provider.

My qualifications include a Higher National Diploma in counselling for which I was awarded a distinction, a '101' qualification in transactional analysis from the Berne Institue, an OCN certificate in counselling supervision and, from my life before counselling, an Honours degree and full professional qualification in social housing.  I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy meaning that I meet their higher standards of proficiency in relation to knowledge, experience and development in counselling and psychotherapy.

With regard to couples' counselling I hold a both a certificate and advanced certificate in couples' counselling awarded by Basingstoke Counselling Service.

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

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Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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From £45.00 to £60.00

Concessions offered for

  • Trainee counsellors

Additional information

The price for an individual session of 50 minutes is £50, where 6 sessions are booked and paid for in advance I offer a discount of £10 on the total price. Counselling supervision is £55 for 1 hour.
I have a reduced rate of £45 per session for counselling students in training.

I charge a surcharge of £5-10 per session for clients referred by other organisations, this enables me to cover the additional costs of invoicing etc.  I also have a 24 hour cancellation policy so the session fee is payable if less than 24 hours notice of a cancellation is given.

If you have any queries about any of this information please do get in contact.

When I work

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 I am available all day Monday, Tuesday and Thursday and Friday afternoon.

Further information

I have a peaceful, safe consulting room with wc facilities. I work with people from many nearby areas including Southampton, Eastleigh, Fareham, Chandlers Ford, Warsash, Locks Heath, Whiteley, Hedge End, Woolston and Botley.

If you have any queries please feel free to give me a call or send me a text or email.

If you contact me I will get back to you within 24 hours, but usually, much more quickly.  I hope to hear from you in the near future.

Butlocks Heath, Southampton, Hampshire, SO31

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Employee Assistance Programme


In person

I hold an OCN qualification in counselling supervision and offer supervision to counsellors and other similar professionals.

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