What can counselling help with? Experiences you have had in the past can contribute to how you feel today or you may be struggling with something that is currently happening in your life. You may have a constant inward battle, telling yourself you are not good enough or worse.
We are constantly under pressure to be a certain way in order to be accepted in society or to please others, and our lives end up being a constant series of "shoulds".
We try hard to feel accepted and with this our true self can be pushed further and further away. This can lead to problems, such as depression, stress, generalised anxiety disorder, addictions, social anxiety, unsuccessful relationships, family issues, a feeling of being stuck, among many other difficulties.
What to expect from our sessions
As a person-centred counsellor working from a humanistic model I strongly believe that you hold your own answers, even if they feel out of reach at the moment. Your counselling sessions will be yours for you to explore your feelings, your fears and parts of you that you may have hidden. For this reason the counselling journey can sometimes be a little uncomfortable; I will be with you during those times offering a non-judgmental, confidential space.
I can sit with you through your pain, your tears, your anger, your sadness
your anxiety, your awkwardness and of course your happiness and through these very human emotions you can begin to find your way.
I will listen to truly understand how the world looks and feels from your perspective and, as you gain trust in me, my acceptance of you will, in turn, help you accept yourself for who you really are. I will, with gentle challenging, help you to focus on what changes you would like to make, all at your pace.
This process can take different times for different people which is why I offer short or long-term counselling.
I also work with couples; there are two sides to every story in a relationship and your understanding of each other is crucial for moving forward.
Who have I helped?
I have worked with clients who have struggled with depression, anxiety, loneliness, psychosis, borderline personality disorder, low self esteem, relationship problems, ex offenders and many other issues, large or small.
I am committed, however, to working with you as an individual, whatever you bring, and not the label of any 'disorder'.
When people have had a lot to deal with during their childhood and have suffered a degree of trauma, they find ways of coping and feeling safe that may not fit well with other people and/or can be harmful to themselves. In some cases they are given the diagnosis of 'personality disorder'.
I have an interest in personality disorders; I grew up around people who had some of these traits and I have trained to further my understanding of these. I feel that my study in this area has deepened my understanding of other psychological problems.
It is important that you find the right counsellor for you and so I offer a free half hour initial appointment so you can find out if that is me.
I look forward to working with you and bringing my life experience and my learning together to help you make changes.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am qualified in Humanistic Counselling at degree level and have five years counselling experience. I am a member of the BACP and work ethically under their guidelines.
Along with my degree I have undertaken further training in the following:
- Certificate in Counselling
- Diploma in Humanistic Counselling
- Working with Internal Conflict
- Neuro Linguistic Programming
- Standing in your Power, An Introduction To Anger And How to be With Your Own
- Transactional Analysis 101
- Working with Ex-offenders
- Working with People with Personality Disorders
- Working with Couples Tool Kit
- Working with Narcissism
- Narcissists and Their Children - Made not Born
- Counselling victims of sexual offences including family members and loved ones of sex offenders
- Working with Client's Dreams
- KUF Training, understanding people with personality disorders
- Individuation for the Adult Replacement Child - Kristina E. Schellinski
- Levels 1 and 2 Couples Counselling Training with Debbie Winterbourne
I am committed to furthering and updating my knowledge by undertaking continuing professional development.
I have worked with people who care for others and I now volunteer working with ex-offenders.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
People who are/have been involved with someone with personality disorder traits.
£40.00 per session
Free initial in-person session
Each individual session costs £40 and lasts for 50 minutes.
Couples sessions can either be 1 hour at £50 or 1.5 hours at £65. Couples sessions can be booked on an ad hoc basis
Payment to be made by cash or bank transfer at the beginning or end of each session.
Weekend appointments available on request