Ikuko Subiger MA Dip. MBACP (reg.)
As a couple and family counsellor and supervisor (in training) I am here to facilitate you and your partner (or family members) to build empathy, understanding and connection through identifying familiar behaviour patterns, exploring family and cultural backgrounds and trying alternatives in a safe environment. Often couples argue because they become stuck in a rigid pattern. By unpacking and deconstructing an argument, we can work through why you feel distressed, confused, defensive, or unhappy.
Have you or your partner had an affair?
Do you want to separate or divorce?
Do you feel your relationship has changed too much over the years?
Do you wish your relationship stayed the same as when you first met?
Are you unhappy with your sex life?
Does your partner seem to be uninterested in you?
Do you talk less and less over the years?
These are all the questions that bring couples to my practice. If you feel they apply to you and want to work through them, please give me a call to discuss further on 07757 215168.
For individual clients, I would help empower you to make your own choices, offer a space to explore the difficulties you are experiencing, delve into and resolve past or recent issues, identify your inner strengths and resources to work through your difficulties. We will work together at your own pace, without fear of criticism or blame. I always endeavour to provide a warm, caring and sensitive space that feels safe and confidential.
For all of us, life can sometimes be a challenging or meaningless struggle. We may feel stuck, helpless, overwhelmed or lonely. When we feel these strong emotions, sometimes this leads to feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. What we often seek is clarity and understanding. Counselling is an opportunity to talk to someone who is impartial, in a safe and confidential environment. You may find that it is a relief to be able to share your most personal, intimate thoughts and feelings, when you don't want to burden your friends and family. It is also an opportunity to gain insight and self-awareness, in order to lead a more fulfilling life. Many people find it a positive, life-changing experience. I believe it is the best way of finding our true self and therefore the best gift we can give ourselves.
Please feel free to discuss any concerns you have by calling 07757 215168. When you are happy to commit, we can then agree to work together, usually on a weekly basis.
For supervision, please see my supervision profile and my website.
Training, qualifications & experience
Currently training in Supervision at CSTD
Level 7 MA Relationship Therapy at Relate Institute
Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies
Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
Professional Development training days attended:
Group supervision module at CSTD
Core and Therapeutic modules in supervision at CSTD
Certificate in Understanding Sex Addiction at Relate
Certificate in Awareness of Safeguarding Children at Medway Safeguarding
Certificate in Domestic Violence and Abuse: Assessment and Intervention at Relate
Certificate in Loss and Bereavement at Relate Institute
Certificate in Domestic Violence and Abuse: Awareness and Safety at Relate Institute
Certificate in Safeguarding Vulnerable Young People at Bird College
Certificate in Making Endings at Place2Be
Certificate in Understanding Trauma at the Albany Centre
Certificate in Working with Metaphor at Place2Be
Certificate in Helping Children Tell Their Stories at Place2Be
Child Protection and Safeguarding at Place2Be
Child Protection training at Place2Be
Working in Schools training at Place2Be
Other relevant work experiences:
I work with couples and families in private practice and Relate, as well as individuals at a local theatre college (18-30 year olds). Previously I have worked at a performing arts college (18-25 year olds), in a primary school through Place2Be. I have experience of working with Substance Misuse and Addiction at CRI and also victims of Domestic Violence referred from the Sunflower Centre. I have had some Autism training while volunteering at Home-Start.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Cross cultural issues, cultural identity, inter-cultural marriages.
Spiritual insights, Buddhist mindfulness, simple living.
Individuals £50, Couples £70, Families £90;
Supervision £35 for one-to-one, Group: £10 per person for group of 4 - 6 supervisees.
Payment is due a session in advance and can be made by bank transfer or cash.
Cancellation policy: any missed or cancelled sessions are charged a full fee, unless a 48-hour notice has been given.
Sidcup, DA15 8JP: close to New Eltham and Sidcup train stations, bus routes B13, 286, 51, and free parking available. Wheelchair accessible.
I am fully insured and hold an enhanced DBS check.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Mondays 11:30 - 14:30 and Fridays 12:30 - 14:30
Types of client
Supervision & training
I am a supervisor in training with CSTD, offering holistic and integrative supervision to counsellors / psychotherapists working with individual adults, couples, families and counsellors / psychotherapists in training.