Harriet Gardiner MBACP (Accred)
Registered Accredited Counsellor with 18 years experience.
We all have times when we need some extra support, when we need a space to be heard and understood. I have worked with lots of different issues, and life can bring many things that affect us deeply. As a counsellor, what seems most important is to offer a compassionate, supportive relationship where anything can be talked about.
As well as offering a space where you can talk about your difficulties freely, I also aim to help you understand your thoughts and feelings more deeply. When we are experiencing problems in life there can be so much going on inside us, a lot of which is automatic or feels hard to control, that we struggle to deal with the situation. Often we find ourselves getting stuck in the same sort of difficulties, the same sort of relationship problems, or we find it hard to recover from a particular painful experience.
Understanding ourselves more means that we can recognise our automatic responses and develop new skills for coping with difficulties. We can also learn new strategies to respond to and soothe our painful feelings, and skills that help us to get better support from others.
This can give us the opportunity to change how we respond to life's challenges, give us relief from emotional distress, develop better relationships, and ultimately create a more satisfying life.
- be struggling with relationships - with a partner, family, or friends,
- have lost someone you love,
- be feeling stressed or anxious, at work or at home,
- be experiencing strong or confusing feelings
- be struggling with painful or traumatic experiences
- be feeling low, stuck, or bad about yourself and want something to change.
I can offer short or long term counselling, tailored to your needs. I aim to work at your pace, firstly taking time to really understand what is happening for you, and then we can think together about what you need from the counselling.
I can help you to:
- explore and change unhelpful patterns in relationships
- understand and lay to rest unresolved conflict
- develop strategies to help you manage difficult symptoms. e.g. anxiety, sleep difficulties
- work through stuck or recurring feelings and move on from unfinished business
- understand things from the past that are bothering you to help you move into now and towards the future
- use mindfulness skills to reduce negative and self critical thinking, and to soothe painful emotion
Being in counselling can be challenging, but rewarding. Talking about these things can feel daunting, and I will be careful to work at your pace. Sometimes we need to face difficult things but, when we are feeling fragile and unsupported, this can be hard to contemplate. It is an important part of my role to provide the right balance of support and challenge. Your honest feedback about the counselling and the counselling relationship will help us to work together.
Do contact me if you’d like to find out more, I know it can feel like a big step to take, so I’m really happy to respond to any questions by phone or email.
Training, qualifications & experience
I have been a qualified counsellor for 18 years and have worked in a range of settings including education, the voluntary sector and the NHS. For many years I coordinated a women's counselling service for a local charity. I have worked with people from a range of cultural, ethnic and social backgrounds.
I came into this work through recognising and working with the impact of my own life experiences, and then wanted to find ways to help others.
My main qualifications are:
Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, (Leeds Metropolitan University, 2000) Average Grade: A
BACP Accreditation (2010)
Integrating CBT into professional practice (15M credits, Leeds University, 2008)
Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy, IAPT psychodynamic brief therapy (Anna Freud Centre, London, Sept 2013 - 2015)
Foundation in Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (Nottingham Centre for Mindfulness, 2016 - 2017)
I take part in several continuing professional development courses each year.
I am integrative in approach, which means I draw on a number of therapeutic models in my work, depending what feels most useful for each person. These models include psychodynamic, humanistic, attachment and mindfulness principles.
This means my work can include looking at relationship patterns now and in the past, understanding our beliefs about ourselves and others and how they affect the way we behave, making sense of the impact of childhood relationships, noticing the parts of ourselves that are self critical and how they affect us.
I also use mindfulness approaches to help reduce negative thinking, anxiety, low self image and to manage and soothe painful emotions.
My practice follows the codes of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I am fully insured, undertake regular supervision, and ensure I maintain professional standards with regular CPD including up to date training on safeguarding and managing risk.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
How do I find out more?
Call me on 07983 237310
Email on firstname.lastname@example.org
I am happy to answer your questions.
At the beginning we would have a 50 minute assessment to decide whether we both feel comfortable working together, and to clarify whether I can offer you what you are looking for. We would think together about how therapy could be helpful and what we would be focusing on.
This first session would cost £30.
Further sessions cost £45
If you decide that counselling is for you we would agree a regular session time.
How long does counselling last?
We can then meet for an agreed number of sessions, usually weekly. The overall number of appointments will vary depending on your needs. It may be a few, or it may continue over a number of months.
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