Good relationships underpin our happiness and emotional well-being. I have over 25 year’s experience, helping to turn a poor relationship into one which can sustain and support both of you... for partners, friends and siblings, or just for you.
We all need to feel appreciated, supported, cared for, respected and even loved, by at least one other person. If we do not have this then we end up feeling anxious and depressed. Sometimes we may look for all these things in a counsellor but much better that you try to create it for yourself in your close relationship. I try to help you to understand and improve your present relationship so you won't need to come back to this site in the future.
I am a counsellor and psychotherapist with over 25 years professional graduate and post-graduate training and clinical experience of, emotional and mental health problems. I've worked in an NHS psychotherapy department for 5 years and private practice for 20 years. I also have a lot of experience with Relationship difficulties; I worked with couples in Relate for over 25 years and did a further 3 years postgraduate training at the internationally respected 'Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships' in London.
I can see you face-to-face or on zoom. £50 for 60 mins for couples and £40 for 60 mins for individuals.
My approach to therapy
Whatever emotional distress has brought you here my role is both to support you when you need it and help you forward when you're ready. We'll make sense of your present difficulties in the context of your life as a whole, and your relationships, because everything joins up and impacts on everything else. We'll explore how you see yourself and how you make sense of your experiences and your relationships; what sort of family did you grow up in, what sort of messages did you receive as you grew - both explicit ones and assumptions and implications that were never made explicit? Have you experienced traumas in your life, and how were they handled by those around you? We will be looking for patterns in your history, and patterns in how you felt and feel and how you make sense of things, and we'll use them to think about your present experiences and problems. We will be making links and finding meaning.
The essence of my approach is that everything about you - even that seemingly self-defeating and difficult part of you that you think you don't want - is there for a good reason; together we have to work out what the good reason is and only then can we even begin to think about changing. You can not change anything without first understanding why it's there. Sometimes understanding 'why' is all we need to make it feel 'right' and 'acceptable' and take away the feelings of shame.... and begin to love yourself.
But, there's another thing to think about... you are not alone: It's important to remember that we are social animals, constantly affecting and affected by others; so we also need to understand the emotional peculiarities of those around you as we seek to understand you. We need to know what belongs to you and what belongs to those around you.... Is it really your feeling or is someone trying to show you what they feel. Is someone getting under your skin, getting on your nerves, winding you up?... and how easily can they succeed? ...and how does that work? So, it's as important to understand your 'significant others', and your relationship with them, as it is to understand you.
You may have found this site because you find your relationship has hit a crisis or you feel anxious that it may be disintegrating as rows and disagreements chip away at the closeness you once had. Together we can explore the anxieties and conflicts AND address the underlying structure of your relationship - how do you two fit together, how do you experience each other? We need to solve the present problem but we also need to put your relationship on much firmer ground. My aim is to help you understand and know each other much better. Understanding is the only route to tolerance and acceptance and real intimacy. One hard lesson we all have to learn about relationships is that our partner can not be the perfect mate we perhaps all hope for - not all of the time anyway - but by understanding yourself and your partner better and by improving your communication you can create a realistically secure, accepting and loving environment in which you and your children can feel safe and flourish.
Why choose me?
In the section below are details of my training and experience.... please read it, it's an important factor to think about when you're choosing who to take your problem to. My academic training in respected institutions like the Tavistock in London, my self-awareness through rigorous and lengthy analysis and my broad clinical experience of both mental health problems and relationship difficulties, give me a solid knowledge base to enable me to understand you, your problems and your relationships more deeply and clearly, and to grasp the underlying significance of things more quickly, which helps you and me to work towards a solid and longer lasting solution to your difficulties.
Text or ring me on 07724 719174 or email me email@example.com. We can have a brief talk about your problem over the phone or you can simply book an appointment. At the moment I can only see you through zoom, but don't let this put you off, I've found it can work very well. I charge £50 for 60 minutes, but if money is a problem for you at the moment, we can negotiate. I don't give a free initial session because we will be working very hard in the first session, and sometimes one session can be all that you need to set you on a different path, but if you're not happy to continue after 30 minutes you're free to leave without charge.
For more information I have a web site - www.glynisgreening.com.
Training, qualifications & experience
Academic and Clinical Experience
*I began my career in the 1980s as a volunteer for the Samaritans and for a help line for struggling Parents - parent line. I joined Relate as a volunteer and went onto to train with them before undertaking
the five year training in psychotherapy at Canterbury University in Kent.
* My five years studying psychoanalytic psychotherapy at Canterbury University included all aspects of psychological development and mental health, my own individual and group therapy throughout, infant observation, child studies and two years of clinical work.
* I then spent five years working as a psychotherapist in an NHS Mental Health Psychotherapy Department treating individuals with a variety of troubles like depression and anxieties.
* I Trained and worked as a couples counsellor in Relate for 25 years. www.relate.org.uk
* I studied for three years at the internationally respected 'Tavistock Center for Couple Relationships' [TCCR] http://www.tccr.org.uk in London where I was awarded my Masters degree in 2011.
* Theoretically I am inspired most by Attachment theory, Existentialism, and some of the ideas from psychoanalysis - especially the importance of our emotional defences. I continue to keep up to date with thinking and knowledge and I have been particularly impressed and influenced by the new ideas from neuroscience and a psychology based therapy called 'Human Givens'. All new ideas and thinking go 'into the pot' and enrich the process.
Professional and Academic Qualifications:
UKRCP Registered. BACP Accredited BACP number - 025087
1989 - 1998 Relate Certificate and Post Graduate Diploma in Couples Counselling. Theory and Practice
1996 - 2001 Post Graduate Cert and Post Graduate Diploma in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Studies. University of Canterbury at Kent.
1999-2001 Infant Observation and Child Studies. University of Canterbury.
2002 - 2004 Post Graduate Cert and Post Graduate Diploma in Couple Therapy, Psychodynamic and Systemic. Relate and The University of East London
2005-2007 Institute of Group Analysis: Introduction Years x2 London and South West
2006- 2007 Post Graduate Diploma in The Psychoanalytic Study of the Couple Relationship. Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships. [TCCR] London
2010 - 2011 Post Graduate Diploma in Attachment, Psychoanalysis and the Couple Relationship [TCCR] Lon.
2011 Master of Arts in Attachment, Psychoanalysis and the Couple Relationship. [TCCR] Lon.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£50.00 per session
Free initial telephone session
Concessions offered for
I charge £50 for 60 minutes. If you are truly finding money a problem we can talk about a lower fee.
email - firstname.lastname@example.org
ring or text 07724 719174
for more information see my website: www.glynisgreening.com
Appointments available at the moment.
How long will it take?
Depending on what you hope to learn we can begin to make sense of your problem in the first session or two but it will take at least 6 weeks for us to really grasp the complexities of 'you' and your partner and uncover the dynamics of your relationship. It'll take longer to work through these discoveries, depending on your personal circumstances and problems... something we can talk through.
A full written report is available for an extra cost after 6 sessions.