Gemma Gay

Redhill RH1 & Coulsdon CR5
07882 917952 07882 917952
Redhill RH1 & Coulsdon CR5

About me

Counselling can be a scary step, but let me assure you its a step in the right directions! I will provide a safe, confidential and judgement free space for you to explore any issues that you may have.

I am a qualified, experienced Counsellor and Psychotherapist with experience in a wide range of issues from depression, stress, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, low self-esteem, anger and bereavement. Counselling could help you understand these problems and help you work with them in a more constructive way.

I work with adults and young adults on a one to one basis My approach is built up by a multitude of models. Attachment based therapy, Psychodynamic approach, and aspects of person centred and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).By using different theoretical models, I will be working in a way which I feel is suited to your individual needs and difficulties. I offer long and short-term therapy to suit each individual person and their needs.

Attachment is often at the heart of some of the issues and problems we experience as adults. Sometimes counselling will explore this directly. It may be that you come to counselling wanting to discuss and look at a situation, relationship or event that involves your parent (s) or caregiver. By looking at attachments in therapy, you come to the realisation that by examining your childhood and past experiences you begin to understand the coping strategies that you formed early on in your life and how they now impact your relationships, reactions and how you feel about yourself in the present.

As a result, of your new understanding and awareness, you can begin to process your own experiences. Discovering your early experiences means you can begin to view yourself differently and more positively and you can perhaps start to approach yourself with a kindness and compassion that you have not done before. In doing this you can begin to bring about the changes you would like in the areas of your life you are finding difficult at present.

What is Attachment?
Attachment is all about the bonding process we have as children with our caregiver (s).

For most of us, our primary caregivers were our parents. For some, their primary caregiver will be a grandparent or another family member, or will even be teachers or house masters for those who have been at boarding school throughout their childhoods. However, for most individuals the primary caregiver is a parent or parents in some form . . . either biological parents, step parents or adoptive parents.

As a child, our caregiver or caregivers were the centre of our world. Consequently, how our needs were met as children, how we were treated as we grew up and how our caregivers responded to our needs is internalised. This means we store those reactions inside of us. This internalisation, of how our caregiver responded to us, shapes the opinion we hold of ourselves and influences how we then attach to others in our adult lives. It becomes our attachment ‘style’ or ‘pattern’.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Post Grade Diploma in Attachment
  • Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
  • Certificate in Counselling Concepts
  • Certificate in Counselling Skills
  • Trauma, Dissociation & Recovery
  • Creative interventions
  • Freedom Program

I am experienced in working with:

  • Domestic abuse
  • Childhood abuse/trauma
  • Loss & bereavement
  • Stress
  • General anxiety disorder
  • Anxiety
  • Depression & low moods
  • Anger
  • Relationship issues
  • Feeling different and/or isolated
  • Low self-esteem/confidence
  • Weight problems

I have previously worked with Mind in Croydon, YMCA Heads together (13-25 year olds) and The Bariatric Consultancy; specialist provider of psychologically led Tier 3 multi disciplinary weight management services for adults presenting with morbid obesity. Experience with working within a women's refuge.

I'm a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), which means that I work to their Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

Current DBS checked

Member organisations


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive and behavioural therapies
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Psychoanalytical and psychodynamic
  • Psychodynamic therapy


Please contact me to request a free initial chat over the phone. I will answer any questions you may have about your therapy and discuss whether you would like to come for an initial session.

Initial assessment £40 (1-1.5 hours)

Weekly session between £40-£45

218 Brighton Road


Type of session

In person
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language Unspecified
Other languages None


Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

Wheelchair user access


Tuesday and Thursday day time. Evening availability and some weekend slots available

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Gemma Gay

Gemma Gay