Gemma Gay

218 Brighton Road


07882 917952

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About me

Counselling can be a scary step, but let me assure you its a step in the right directions! I will provide a safe, confidential and judgement free space for you to explore any issues that you may have.

I am a qualified, experienced Counsellor and Psychotherapist with experience in a wide range of issues from depression, stress, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, low self-esteem, anger and bereavement. Counselling could help you understand these problems and help you work with them in a more constructive way.

I work with adults and young adults on a one to one basis My approach is built up by a multitude of models. Attachment based therapy, Psychodynamic approach, and aspects of person centred and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).By using different theoretical models, I will be working in a way which I feel is suited to your individual needs and difficulties. I offer long and short-term therapy to suit each individual person and their needs.

Attachment is often at the heart of some of the issues and problems we experience as adults. Sometimes counselling will explore this directly. It may be that you come to counselling wanting to discuss and look at a situation, relationship or event that involves your parent (s) or caregiver. By looking at attachments in therapy, you come to the realisation that by examining your childhood and past experiences you begin to understand the coping strategies that you formed early on in your life and how they now impact your relationships, reactions and how you feel about yourself in the present.

As a result, of your new understanding and awareness, you can begin to process your own experiences. Discovering your early experiences means you can begin to view yourself differently and more positively and you can perhaps start to approach yourself with a kindness and compassion that you have not done before. In doing this you can begin to bring about the changes you would like in the areas of your life you are finding difficult at present.

What is Attachment?
Attachment is all about the bonding process we have as children with our caregiver (s).

For most of us, our primary caregivers were our parents. For some, their primary caregiver will be a grandparent or another family member, or will even be teachers or house masters for those who have been at boarding school throughout their childhoods. However, for most individuals the primary caregiver is a parent or parents in some form . . . either biological parents, step parents or adoptive parents.

As a child, our caregiver or caregivers were the centre of our world. Consequently, how our needs were met as children, how we were treated as we grew up and how our caregivers responded to our needs is internalised. This means we store those reactions inside of us. This internalisation, of how our caregiver responded to us, shapes the opinion we hold of ourselves and influences how we then attach to others in our adult lives. It becomes our attachment ‘style’ or ‘pattern’.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Post Grade Diploma in Attachment
  • Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
  • Certificate in Counselling Concepts
  • Certificate in Counselling Skills
  • Trauma, Dissociation & Recovery
  • Creative interventions
  • Freedom Program

I am experienced in working with:

  • Domestic abuse
  • Childhood abuse/trauma
  • Loss & bereavement
  • Stress
  • General anxiety disorder
  • Anxiety
  • Depression & low moods
  • Anger
  • Relationship issues
  • Feeling different and/or isolated
  • Low self-esteem/confidence
  • Weight problems

I have previously worked with Mind in Croydon, YMCA Heads together (13-25 year olds) and The Bariatric Consultancy; specialist provider of psychologically led Tier 3 multi disciplinary weight management services for adults presenting with morbid obesity. Experience with working within a women's refuge.

I'm a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), which means that I work to their Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy.

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Please contact me to request a free initial chat over the phone. I will answer any questions you may have about your therapy and discuss whether you would like to come for an initial session.

Initial assessment £40 (1-1.5 hours)

Weekly session between £40-£45

Maps & Directions

Coulsdon, CR5 2NF
Redhill, RH1

Type of session

Online counselling: No
Telephone counselling: No
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None


Accessibility information
Wheelchair access: Unspecified


Tuesday and Thursday day time. Evening availability and some weekend slots available

Types of client

Young people
Older adults