About me

** I am currently offering ONLINE counselling and therapy**

Existing problems may be feeling difficult, or it may be that the new circumstance of the global pandemic has brought up anxieties and emotional challenges for you that would like help with. I can offer a safe space to listen and process your feelings; to think alongside you to help alleviate distress and find understanding.

As a therapist I offer a warm, reflective approach to think together with you in depth about aspects of yourself and your life which may be troubling you. Psychotherapy and counselling can offer a safe space to unpack emotional difficulties without judgement.

My orientation is primarily psychodynamic: this kind of therapy works to identify and understand underlying thoughts and feelings, sometimes linked to past experiences and relationships. Processing feelings and making these links together can help to bring about insight and to change deep-seated emotional and relationship difficulties.

I combine this approach with a practical focus on wellbeing and self-care, which feels especially important during this unusual time of the pandemic.

What Happens When You Get in Touch?

The first step to starting online therapy is to send me an email. We can then arrange a mutually convenient appointment online, using one of the video meeting platforms. This will be for an initial session for you to tell me about yourself and what you would like to get out of counselling, and for you to experience what it is like working with me. If you would like to proceed with ongoing therapy after that I would offer weekly appointments. (Once it becomes possible to meet with others face-to-face again, you would have the option to continue face-to-face in my consulting room in Cowley, Oxford, if you would like to).

Training, qualifications & experience

I have significant experience working in an NHS Psychotherapy Service with adults, and in student mental health, working in Oxford University Counselling Service. I have also worked in counselling services in secondary schools and, in the voluntary sector, in supporting new parents with the transition to parenthood.

I completed my clinical training, culminating in a  Master's in Psychodynamic Practice, at the University of Oxford.  I have published my research on aspects of the therapeutic relationship in the British Journal of Guidance and Counselling.

I am an accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

Relevant Qualifications:

  • MSt Pyschodynamic Practice (University of Oxford)
  • Diploma Psychodynamic Practice (University of Oxford)
  • Certificate Psychodynamic Counselling (University of Oxford)

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.


British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

  • Anxieties and emotions relating to COVID-19 pandemic
  • Transition to parenthood
  • Health issues in yourself or your family
  • Feeling stuck
  • Academic anxiety
  • Difficulties at university


£55.00 per session


Various session times available. I can take on new clients at present.


Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young people
Older adults
Femke Stokes

Femke Stokes