Eleanor Downton (Dip.Couns. S.A.C. Dip.CBT MBACP)
Are you happy with your life? Do you wish things could be different? We cannot be happy all the time but the greatest gift is to feel content with how your life is. To be able to deal with the difficulties but still feel good inside.
Sometimes life events cause us hurt and worry. That's how life is.
How would it feel to be able to cope better? To see things differently.
To feel in control instead of beaten?
Stress or anxiety in any area of your life can sometimes be caused by an underlying issue that you may not even be aware of. You will be surprised at the difference it can make when you understand what's going on for you.
Whether at work or on a personal level, you will learn to deal differently with stressful situations.
I offer a combination of counselling and coaching - tailored to you personally.
What may seem like an overwhelming issue to you - can be very easy to resolve. You may feel isolated, alone, different - but you would be surprised at how many people are struggling with similar issues. I will never judge you. Just give you a safe, confidential setting for you to explore what's going on for you and what options are available. There is no obligation for you to continue - you can end at any time.
Counselling is not just for the serious issues that life throws at you. It can help you with life/relationship/career decisions. Sometimes you just need a few sessions to help you gain a new direction in your life or a new perspective on an issue you may be struggling with.
JUST TEXT 07956 766858 for an appointment and change your life forever!
Using a combination of counselling and coaching - tailored to you - you will be amazed at how small changes can impact on your life.
You will have a better understanding of what is causing any stress or anxiety.
You will identify triggers, make changes, gain confidence and achieve your goals.
You will experience positive results within 4 - 6 sessions.
We work at your pace, no pressure with flexible appointments worked around your commitments. Weekly, fortnightly - whenever you want. You can have a few sessions at a time - see how things work - and come back at any time for a few more. Everyone is different, and everyone has a different way of working. We will work your way.
THERE IS NO OBLIGATION TO CONTINUE IF YOU FEEL IT IS NOT FOR YOU. YOU CAN END COUNSELLING AT ANY TIME.
Based in Rhoose. Just outside Barry, I offer a bright confidential counselling room with private parking.
I am a Registered Member of the BACP ACCREDITED REGISTER OF COUNSELLORS AND PSYCHOTHERAPISTS.
You can't change what life throws at you - but you can change how you deal with it. You will be surprised how easy it can be!
I will never judge you - or advise you. Just allow you to explore what is going on for you. What options you have available - how they could affect you and those around you. Give you space to think things through. No pressure - just time - for you.
In just a few sessions - you will have a better understanding of what's going on - and make changes that can transform your life.
It takes courage to take that first step and make an appointment. But this is the first step to a new you. In our first session I will explain more about how we will work together but you are under no obligation to continue if you feel that counselling is not for you.
If you wish to continue - then we work at your pace - with appointments convenient to you.
An opportunity for change - and life skills to help you - forever!
Whether you are struggling with an issue at the moment - or you have struggled all your life. It's never too late to seek help.
It may seem trivial to you - or you may be overwhelmed by something you just can't deal with. Its amazing how different the world can be - once you decide to take control of your life.
Here is a brief overview of some of the issues I deal with - for further information please do not hesitate to contact me or visit my website www.Downton Counselling - Set Yourself Free
INDIVIDUAL COUNSELLING - £40 PER 1 HOUR SESSION
This can come in many forms - sometimes about an issue - or in some cases General Anxiety with regard to everything. In counselling you can learn the triggers that cause the anxiety and find ways to deal with it.
At the moment Anxiety is controlling you - but you can learn to control the anxiety!
You may have 'always' been anxious and accepted this is how you are. But anxiety is a state of mind. Your mind and body are in an 'automatic state'. Once you understand the reason why you feel anxious - you can learn to change the state your mind is in. It is easy once you know what to do. Sometimes it can be due to something that happened in your life - sometimes it's the situation you are in. It can be a little thing - or a big thing. But the way to deal is just the same.
You will never have to talk about anything you don't want to. The sessions are yours and we work at your pace.
But once you have that control - you will be a different person. You will be able to deal for the rest of your life.
(As above) plus - Positive stress is good for you and is part of normal life. But when you feel stressed for no reason - this can destroy your life. Learning and understanding the triggers allow you to deal differently. You become in control, not the stress! You will be free!
AS with anxiety - stress is a state of mind. You can learn to feel the stress - understand why its happening - and deal differently.
You are not alone - so many people are dealing with enormous stress with the current climate of budget cuts and job insecurity. You can't change the situation at work - but you can change how you deal with it.
There are times in all our lives when most of us suffer from depression. This can be crippling and leave you feeling isolated. Counselling can help you understand what is going on for you. Help you make small changes that lift the depression. Some people have depression all their lives - but this can be managed. You are not alone - but you may feel you are. Counselling can help you identify negative thoughts and behaviours - and enable you to take control of your life.
These can be terrifying - and prevent you from moving up in your career - or just dealing with life. Using elements of NLP Coaching, (Neuro Linguistic Programming) you can stop the panic attack happening. You will be in control - not the panic attack! You can learn how to boost your confidence and be who you want to be.
- (sexual, mental or physical) can have a devastating effect on someone's life. You learn ways of coping but sometimes these coping mechanisms affect your life in such a way that you can't live it. Counselling can help you deal with all that you are going through. Build your self-esteem and give you your life back. You don't have to talk about the abuse if you don't want to. You just need to understand the feelings associated with the abuse and learn the triggers in everyday life that cause the anxiety and stress - that you may not even be aware of. If you are in an abusive relationship we can look at how you can leave. I will never judge or advise you - but will enable you to explore all the options and support available to you. Its up to you whether you do anything about the situation. Sometimes there may be reasons why you can't leave - but you can find a better way to deal and more importantly keep yourself safe. You may feel isolated and alone - but you are not. There is a lot of support there for you whatever decision you make.
The birth of a child should be a wonderful time, but for some Mums (through no fault of their own) It is a different experience altogether. You feel vulnerable, isolated and confused because it's just not happening for you. There may be good reasons for this. There may have been complications with the birth or health issues with the baby. Or maybe the whole experience has triggered something for you. The important thing to remember is that this is not your fault and you should not be suffering this in silence. In a confidential setting you can explore what's going on for you, why its happening and learn to deal differently. Birth Trauma - if left untreated - can affect you much later in life. A traumatic event later in life can trigger a lot of the powerful emotions you suffered at the time of the birth - and you may not even be aware that this is the cause. We all feel 'this is how it should be'. But sometimes it's not - and it's not your fault.
Can leave you feeling that life has no purpose anymore. But you can rebuild your life. You just need to learn how.
There are many types of loss - a few I have mentioned here - but the loss of anything in your life can impact hugely on you and you can lose your 'sense of self'. You don't know who you are anymore.
Whether it was expected or not - a loss of job can mean the loss of your identity. Together we can explore how to deal differently with this. Not see it as a loss - but as an opportunity to stop and change direction. Using Solution Focused Therapy (Coaching) we can explore what options are available to you and enable you to gain the confidence to make any changes that can help you move forward.
Miscarriage/Loss of a child
To lose a child is the most painful loss of all. The whole order of things turned upside down and dreams and hopes shattered. To find a new meaning in life is not easy and its something you 'never get over'. However, counselling can help you explore all your hurt and anger and enable you find a 'different way to be'. Make the onward journey a little more bearable. Help you to become you again and enjoy the life that you still have - while holding your loss safely in your heart.
Pregnancy loss can sometimes be no less painful for those who chose to terminate their pregnancy. Sometimes there is no choice. Sometimes it seems for the best. For some women they can never lose the sadness. There can be feelings of guilt that stay with them forever, spoiling what should be a good life for them. Some suffer for years and years. It helps to explore exactly what was and is going on for you. To share for once the pain, the anger, the guilt and all those emotions you have buried for so long. You don't deserve this and you shouldn't suffer like this. Together we can work through it and 'set your self free' to enjoy your life again.
Loss of a Parent - at any age can impact in many ways. You may have been very close and are struggling to cope on your own. Sometimes there may have been issues with the parent (abuse/neglect/critical) and the death has left many unresolved issues with you.
Whatever the issues - the impact can affect your very being. In a confidential setting we can explore what's happened and how you can deal. Remember - you are not the only one who feels like this. You may feel isolated/ashamed/guilty/angry - this are normal stages of grief. But if the feelings are overwhelming then you will benefit hugely from counselling and finally put these feelings to rest.
Loss of a partner - has the ability to 'shut you down'. You were 2 now you are 1. There's no one to talk to when you come home, no one to share the events of your day. Yes, time will heal and there are plenty of things you can do to help. But if you feel it's just too much - then counselling can help you make sense of it all. Move forward, find a different way to be.
Loss of a pet - can be devastating. As above, time will heal and sometimes you just move on and get another one to love. Sometimes just 1 or 2 sessions can help you come to terms with your loss and help you move on. Counselling is there for when its just too much and you need a little help.
Low Self Esteem
Sometimes events in the past, a remark someone made, or the situation you are in – can all affect your self-esteem leaving you lacking the confidence to live your life as you would like. You may not even be aware of why you feel this way. You just feel 'different'. Not like everyone else. Detached, isolated, vulnerable. Avoiding social activities because you are just 'too scared' of what others might say. But you can change - and you will be surprised at how different you can feel. A combination of counselling and coaching can not only improve your self-esteem – but give you the tools to deal with such issues in the future.
You will be a different person!
- is a coping mechanism. It is nothing to be ashamed of - it's your way of dealing with something you are struggling with. It can be upsetting and isolating and impact on all areas of your life. Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to get explore what is going on for you. You will not be judged in any way, just helped to move on with your life. Self harm is usually linked to powerful emotions you are blocking. Together you can learn how to reduce and eventually stop. You will be in control.
There is no one right way to look or weigh. The most important thing is to be healthy and like who you are. Diets work for some but not all. If you are struggling to lose weight maybe it's time to change your relationship with food. Exploring the way life affects you may help you change your behaviour, learn to love who you are and start taking control of your life.Worth a try? How would it feel to like the person you see in the mirror? You deserve to be happy! I'm not saying I'll make you thin. But enable you to be who you want to be. You set your goals, decide how will achieve them and REWARD YOURSELF!!
There are times in our lives when we may be confused with our gender. It may be a phase you are going through - or all of your life you have felt 'something's not right'.
Counselling gives you a safe, confidential space to explore all aspects of Gender Issues. Allowing you to explore all the options available to you - and the impact any of these may have on you and others.
We all have the gift of life and deserve to be the person we want to be. You may decide to do nothing - but feel better for just exploring the options available to you - in the strictest confidence. I cannot advise you in any way - but of you feel you require more knowledge of a certain area I can signpost you what is available and you can move on if and when you want to. The important thing is that you explore who you are and who you want to be.
IF you have experienced such issues you will be aware of the lack of information and understanding for what you have been through or going through. Together we can explore what this means for you as a person. Explore options available. We all deserve to be who we want to be.
BULLYING - can be in school, college or in the workplace. It can destroy you - but you can learn to take control of your life. Don't suffer in silence. Help is there for you - all you have to do is ask for it. The bullies are the ones with the issues. Together we can look at your situation and how best to deal.
Whatever it is that's spoiling your life - take a brave step and deal with it. Take control.
SET YOURSELF FREE!!
COUPLES COUNSELLING £50 PER 1 HOUR SESSION
When a relationship breaks down for any reason - it is hard to get things back on track. Couples Counselling does not seek to lay blame - but instead looks at what is going on for you both. I provide a confidential setting in which to explore how small changes can make a difference. We all want to be loved and accepted, but sometimes we just get things wrong. In just a few sessions you can both have a better understanding of your relationship. Sessions are arranged to suit your requirements - as and when you need them.
Whatever your issue - big or small - counselling can help you to take control of your life.
Please email or call me or, for further details regarding the therapies I use, can be found on my website. www.downtoncounselling.co.uk.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Certificate in Couples Counselling
- Certificate in Counselling Skills
- Certificate in Counselling Studies
- Diploma in Humanistic Existential Counselling
- Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (Distinction)
- Diploma in Counselling (Inst. N/H) (Distinction)
- Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Trained (ASIST)
- Registered Member of British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
I have also worked as a sessional counsellor for Cardiff Mind in both a paid and voluntary capacity.
(Dealing with both GP referrals and self referred clients).
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Cognitive therapy
- Couples counselling
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Individual counselling £40 per 1 hour session.
Relationship/Couples Counselling £50 (all sessions)
Students £25 per 1 hour session
Home visits can be arranged under certain circumstances.
Additional fee applies for home visit (£5 for Rhoose/Barry.)
Payment can be made in cash on the day or by bank transfer.
I offer a pleasant, counselling room based in Rhoose, Vale of Glamorgan with parking available..
Sessions can be arranged to suit - weekly, fortnightly, monthly. Day or evening.
If you require any further information please do not hesitate to contact me and I will respond within 24 hours.
You can e-mail me directly, or you can call or text on 07956 766858 – please advise a convenient time to call you back to maintain your confidentiality).
Please email or call me or further details can be found on my website - www.downtoncounselling.co.uk
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Whilst I have 4 steps down to the path - which negates the use of a wheelchair, it is suitable for someone with walking difficulties. There is a handrail and I would assist where required. I also allow extra time either side of session for access.
I can offer flexible counselling appts for both daytime and evening to suit your availability. Home visits can be arranged subject to initial assessment - at additional charge.
Types of client