Edmond Oreilly - MA, MSc, BACP Senior Accred. Individuals & Couples
My Feelings about Counselling
I am a senior accredited counsellor /psychotherapist (BACP) I have 24 years experience of working with individuals, couples and families
I am very aware that the early l stage in deciding to see a therapist can be daunting. We all need support to take this first step. To help I offer a free thirty minute session either face to face or by phone.
I work on the assumption that we can learn to manage our difficulties whether they be around depression, anxiety, shame, anger or relationship difficulties. We begin by recognising, accepting, understanding and working on the difficulty with self compassion, non judgement and complete self acceptance.
I have found that by building a relationship based on respect, acceptance, trust and empathy it becomes possible to understand and accept more fully our difficulties. This allows healing to begin.
I trained as a couple counsellor in 1999 - 2001 with London marital Therapy Counselling ( now The Davistock)
In my work with couples I have found that difficulties in communication are often central. My role as therapist has been to facilitate communication and so help develop understanding and acceptance of difference.
I do of course recogise when irreconcilable differences develop and the relationship no longer works. I then seek to create a supportive space where the individuals can explore their differences and find an acceptance of what is. The anger and bitterness that follows on divorce can be hugely destructive. Both individuals need support to withdraw from each other.
I am a clinical supervisor. I trained at Sussex university. Supervision has been an important part of my work for fifteen years, I have supervised practitioners as students and as therapists. These clients have been drawn from different modalities
I feel very privileged to have been able to work with and be trusted by hundreds of clients over the 24 years of practice. It has been hugely rewarding to have been able to assist others face, understand, acknowledge and finally manage their difficulties.
I trained as a clinical supervisor
Common questions asked about counselling
Having taken the first very difficult step in deciding to see a counsellor you may have difficulty in deciding who to see. What kind of counsellor can help? how long will it take?
I am progressively convinced that the relationship between client and therapist is the most important part of the counselling process. It seems the model of counselling is less important than the personal relationship between client and counsellor. It is basic that you feel that the counsellor will be totally trustworthy and that they have appropriate qualifications and experience. Perhaps it is even more important that you can work with them. That you sense empathy as well as understanding
How long should counselling take?
In my experience the length of time varies considerably depending upon the nature of the problem and what the client is seeking to achieve. Frequently a few sessions is sufficient to resolve difficulties. When working for BUPA I worked to a Six session contract. I have to say that this met the needs of many clients but not all. Some issues are deep rooted and need much longer work which requires a Psychodynamic approach which involves an exploration of childhood relationships and the general experience of growing up in order to understand when and how difficulties arose and how they relate to present life.
Training, qualifications & experience
Before training as a counsellor I was a teacher of sociology and pastoral head of year. While teaching I completed an MA in the psychological aspects of learning and I followed a two year course on the Emotional Aspects of Learning at the Tavistock Clinic in London. It was this experience that led to my training in counselling.
My Training as a counsellor / Psychotherapist Supervisor
1992 - 1994 Diploma Psychodynamic Counselling, Birkbeck college, London University
1995 - 1996 MSc Psychodynamic Counselling Birkbeck college, London University
1999 - 2001 Post Graduate Cert. Couple and Marital Therapy London Marriage Guidance
2005 - 2006 Certificate in counselling supervision Sussex university.
2000 Accredited BACP member
2005 Senior Accredited BACP member
Since 1994 I have attended numerous short courses, workshops and colleague study groups. These have included studies on CBT, Person Centred Therapy, Brief Focused Therapy, Systemic Therapy.
I have tutored The CPCAB advanced diploma courses(ten years) I have also tutored brief introductory courses in Varndean College. These experiences have deepened my understanding of the complexities of the counselling process.
I have 24 years experience of working with all ages, children as young as seven to adults 70+, with people drawn from all walks of life, with different sexual orientation, European and non European. I work with individuals, couples and families.
I have worked for the NHS, the Children's Society, London School of Law and in colleges and schools. I now work exclusively in private practice in Brighton as both Psychotherapist and supervisor of colleagues
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have many years of working with young people of all ages, both as counsellor and teacher. I have a natural empathy for the difficulties that they struggle to deal with.
I always welcome the opportunity of working with families and indeed my whole background is particularly relevant to this work.
I have enjoyed the work and find the family dynamic very interesting, in particular the impact of the extended family and its emotional inheritance.
My normal charge is £45 for the hour.
I charge the same fee for couples, individuals and families. I also charge the same fee for supervision.
My fee is negotiable when the circumstances demand.
I offer a free thirty minute session to allow clients and myself to get to know each other and to explore expectations.
My original training was in the Psychodynamic model of therapy. This approach has a proven record of providing positive results. In my experience, however, I have found that a rigid Psychodynamic approach does not meet the needs of all clients. I believe the more humanistic person centred approach with its emphasis on empathy, warm regard and non judgment is sometimes enough.
Further in my short term focused work I have successfully made use of a Cognitive Behavioural approach. This approach challenges the negative underlying thoughts that can govern our feelings. It is particularly useful in working with anxiety and depression.
Reflection on my clients
I am constantly impressed by the courage and will to heal of people who have been hurt and damaged by relationships, accident or by wrong decisions made in early life. I often feel privileged to be in a position to provide a safe place where the inner self can be explored, difficulties confronted and lost confidence regained. It is rewarding to work with people and to witness their rediscovery of their own inner counsellor.