Denise Ela Maley Reg. MBACP, MA SoPH - Couples & Individual Therapy
Seeking out a therapist is such a personal choice or shared choice for couples. What's most important is you feel comfortable with your therapist and you are free to express yourself.
I work with individuals and couples to help identify and unpack what it is that's troubling you or your relationship in a private non-judgemental space.
Clients often describe me as extremely warm, understanding, open and easy to talk to and able to challenge when helpful to do so. Your ‘feel’ for your therapist is such an important part of your ability to ‘go there’ and work together so bear that in mind when seeking a match. I have a few testimonials on my website if you'd like to take a look?
The free no obligation call
I will arrange an agreeable time when you're undisturbed and get an idea of what's troubling you or your relationship and your best hopes from therapy. I'll tell you more about my approach and you can ask me questions to see how you feel and if you'd like to go ahead and meet in person. If I don't feel best placed to work with your needs I'll let you know and signpost you to support you to take that next step.
Our sessions together
They are your private space where you can explore your what's coming up for you and your uncomfortable feelings in a way that is rarely possible with friends, partners or family. For those of you new to therapy, I am not there to judge or to give advice but to capture and hold up a mirror so we can then understand and begin to remedy your difficulties. We'll have regular reviews of our work together returning to your best hopes and agreed goals for the work.
My therapy approach
In parallel to my therapeutic skills, I work from the heart. This means that I weave in creative approaches to help along our work from a fresh perspective. I am able to work with a variety of theoretical approaches to suit your needs which including early life development, self-actualisation, growth and development and archetypal patterns. Part of my training included working energetically, so I do offer the chance to shift into creative gears using breath regulation, relaxation and grounding exercises, working with your dreams as a snapshot of your inner life and general awareness of your energy balance.
The client issues I typically work with include;
- Stress and Work-Related Stress
- Work Performance Anxiety
- Career Transitions
- Relationship Issues
- Couple Therapy
- Weight Issues
- Body Image
- Low Self-Esteem
- Child-Free Status and Decision-Making
- Feeling Sad
- Feeling Lonely
- Self Identity
- Working Through Parental Relationships
- Young Adult/Student Issues
- Adapting to Mid-Life
- Lost meaning in life
My 20+ years experience as a senior corporate professional and personal therapeutic journey broaden my insight and therapeutic capability in the areas of career transition, changing jobs, redundancy, work-related anxiety, work-related stress, performance anxiety, maternity return to work, relationship issues at work and management pressures impacting on life outside the workplace.
Possible outcomes of therapy - Relief, reduced tension, coping strategies, increased ability to balance your thoughts/emotions, increased self-awareness, confidence, feeling centred, becoming grounded, clear purpose, enhanced problem-solving capacity, increase in resilience (mental and/or emotional), more energy, improved sleep quality, self-compassion, acceptance, increased presence, helpful habit formation.......
Relationships can be hard sometimes.
You may be in the middle of a relationship crisis with heightened emotions and no sense of what you can do to save the relationship. Or it may be that you have gradually grown apart and feel confusion and sadness about where to turn next - wishing for a private and holding space to try and work things out. I can help.
I have deep respect and awareness of the process a couple goes through long before committing to come to couple therapy. It takes enormous courage and commitment to your partner to take this step and I honour it.
In couple therapy with me, your relationship is my client and I work in service to your relationship, which means that you will always be seen together by me and not at any time individually. This is really helpful in supporting your reconnection as a couple.
I also believe that we don’t choose our partners by accident, and for that reason, conflict and relationship difficulties can offer opportunities for healing and growth for each of you as individuals as well as for your relationship.
On a practical level, couple therapy can be very effective if you want to improve communication or resolve a specific issue, such as life stage transitions, healing after an affair or childbearing decisions to name a few examples. Or simply for those who wish to deepen their intimacy and commitment, couple therapy is a great option.
Our sessions in couple therapy create safety and objectivity to explore your issues. It's more interactive than classic therapy, integrating valuable tools and exercises to shed light on what you each bring to the relationship. The hope is that this space and time to focus and listen to one another fosters greater awareness, relief and mutual understanding. As such at times the sessions can be more active and structured than a typical individual therapy session!
We typically work with an initial 8 sessions either on a weekly or bi-weekly basis depending on the relationship goal. I can talk to you further about my approach and answer any questions you may have in my free 30-minute call offered to potential new clients.
My therapeutic services are offered in Central London W1W Fitzrovia area and South West Hertfordshire in Rickmansworth accessible to Chorleywood, Watford WD3 area, Little Chalfont, Chesham and Buckinghamshire borders.
I also offer online sessions (via a secure therapeutic platform)
Training, qualifications & experience
As a commitment to the psychological significance of 'relationship', I am undertaking a Post-Qualification Diploma in Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy. This area of therapy is not regulated yet and so not all therapists offering couples therapy have undertaken this specialist training.
- M.A. Psychotherapy & Healing Practice
- PG.Dip Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy
- Registered Member BACP
- Member of the Association of Integrative Coach Therapy
- I abide by the BACP Code of Ethics
As well as my private online and in-person local practice, I have clinical experience in workplace counselling, student counselling, women’s issues counselling and play therapy.
I am also an Associate Psychotherapist at WeightMatters & EmotionsMatter in Central London specialising in weight and eating relates issues.
You can learn more about my background and approach on my website.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Career counselling
- Dependent personality disorder
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Individual Fee: From £65 per 50-minute session depending on location and time of day.
Couples Fee: From £80 per 50-minute session
Evening availability offered and double sessions available as needed for couples
Maps & Directions
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