Denise Ela Maley Reg. MBACP, MA SoPH - Couples & Individual Therapy
Bagnall Centre For Integrated Healthcare
A warm welcome. I offer a still space for you to bring and unpack the current difficulties you may be wrestling with – to listen attentively, hold the contents of your mind and to walk alongside you on your own path of healing and growth as an individual or a couple. I integrate practical as well as creative approaches to our work together.
As a qualified psychotherapist and former HR Director, I can offer you a broad open approach to our work together, informed by an awareness of our relationships in life, with ourselves, our childhood and family and intimate partners. It also may include your relationship to your job, food or other significant areas of your life.
It may be that you are very clear about what the 'problem' is, but not how to approach it. Or you may need help to discover what is causing your sense of not feeling 'yourself'.
Underlying issues may also emerge through the process of exploration which will be held and negotiated together in our work. We will consider if a focussed short-term approach or an ongoing deeper exploration is suitable, always to be discussed and agreed with you.
Our sessions together are a still space in which to explore your embodied thoughts and feelings in a way that is rarely possible with friends, partners or family. For those of you new to therapy, I am not there to judge or to give advice, but to act as a mirror to foster a deeper awareness within you and to listen attentively and patiently.
Clients often describe me as extremely warm, understanding, open and easy to talk to and able to challenge when helpful to do so. Your ‘feel’ for your therapist is such an important part of your ability to ‘go there’ and work together so bear that in mind when seeking a match.
In terms of the work we’d do together, my training was very broad (incl. Jungian, Psychodynamic and Transpersonal) so I am able to work with a variety of approaches to suit your needs. Part of my training included working energetically and creatively, so I do offer the chance to shift into creative gears using breath regulation, relaxation and grounding exercises, working with your dreams as a snapshot of your inner life and general awareness of your energy equilibrium. Significantly, some creative approaches have found to be effective therapeutic methods thanks to recent neuroscientific research
The client issues I typically work with in private practice for individual therapy include;
- Relationship Issues
- Couple Therapy
- Weight Issues
- Body Image
- Low Self-Esteem
- Child-Free Status and Decision-Making
- Work-Related Stress
- Career Transition
- Feeling Sad
- Feeling Lonely
- Self Identity
- Working Through Parental Relationships
- Young Adult/Student Issues
- Adapting to Mid-Life
- Lost meaning in life
My 20+ years experience in HR and personal therapeutic journey broaden my skill and therapeutic capability in the areas of career transition, changing jobs, redundancy, work-related anxiety, work-related stress, performance anxiety, maternity return to work, relationship issues at work and management pressures impacting on life outside the workplace.
I have deep respect and awareness of the process a couple goes through before committing to come to couple therapy. It takes enormous courage and commitment to your partner to take this step and I honour it.
In couple therapy with me, your relationship is my client and I work in service to your relationship, which means that you will always be seen together by me and not at any time individually.
I believe that we don’t choose our partners by accident, and for that reason, conflict and relationship difficulties can offer opportunities for healing and growth for each of you as individuals as well as for your relationship.
On a practical level, couple therapy can be very effective if you want to improve communication or resolve a specific issue, such as life stage transitions, healing after an affair or childbearing decisions to name a few examples. Or simply for those who wish to deepen their intimacy and commitment, couple therapy is a great option.
The top 3 reasons for coming to couple therapy are:-
1. Time - not having enough time for each other
2. Communication - no longer being able to communicate well, often as a result of financial or work-related stress
3. Sex - the loss of sexual intimacy
Our sessions in couple therapy create safety and objectivity to explore your issues, integrating valuable tools and exercises to shed light on what you each bring to the relationship - the hope is that this space and time to focus and listen to one another fosters greater awareness, relief and mutual understanding. As such at times the sessions can be more active and structured than a typical individual therapy session!
My therapeutic services are offered online (via a secure therapeutic platform) and in-person by in Rickmansworth, Chorleywood, Watford WD3 area; Chalfont St Giles; Amersham; Chesham; South West Hertfordshire and Buckinghamshire borders. Please note that couples therapy is offered only as an in-person therapy.
I adhere to the BACP code of ethics and strict professional guides relating to client confidentiality. This is important for all clients to be aware of as a structure of the containment and boundaries of our work together to establish trust and a private space to be open with your thoughts and feelings.
Training, qualifications & experience
As a commitment to the psychological significance of 'relationship', I am undertaking a Post-Qualification Diploma in Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy. This area of therapy is not regulated yet and so not all therapists offering couples therapy have undertaken this specialist training.
- Post-qualification Diploma in Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy - CCPE [course certification pending]
- MA Psychotherapy & Healing Practice, SoPH – Society for Psychology and Healing validated by Middlesex University
- Registered Member BACP
- Member of the Association of Integrative Coach Therapy
As well as my private online and in-person local practice, I am a clinical workplace counsellor for a private psychological services organisation. I also have a diverse clinical training experience to date includes working in a university student wellbeing team, a women’s health charity and a non-profit therapeutic service for children using play therapy.
I am also an Associate Psychotherapist at Weight Matters in Central London specialising in weight and eating relates issues.
You can learn more about my background and approach on my website.
Recent CPD include;
- Psychology of the Personality
- Working with Trauma
- Shame in Performance Management Systems
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
Individual Fee per 50-minute session range £45 - £65 depending on location and time. I offer an initial telephone consultation at no cost and a fee per session thereafter which is discussed as part of the proposed client contract and will also depend on timing considerations.
Couples Fee per 90-minute session £95 (low cost and in-person only). I offer an initial one-off in-person session for which the fee applies, thereafter an initial commitment of bi-weekly sessions of 90 minutes with regular reviews will be discussed for agreement.
All sessions are on a weekly date and time which becomes your time and it is an important part of the therapeutic work that there is a mutual commitment to attending this weekly session.
Looking for the 'right' therapist for you is an important decision.
I empathise with your position and offer an initial telephone/online video consultation at no cost for you to tell me what it is you're seeking and to ask me any questions about my approach, to help you come to the right decision for you. I am more than happy to take this time and see it as an important aspect of my work.
Should we both like to proceed then we would have an initial session for us both to assess how well we can work together and your best hopes for the therapy. It is again another opportunity for us to assess our 'fit' and to ask any questions. Should you wish not to pursue an ongoing therapy together that's understood, and should I feel your needs are outside my area of clinical expertise I'll let you know and also help with referrals wherever possible.
If we proceed with therapy then I will share a brief client contract with you as a reference for both of us on how we'll work together. You are free to ask any questions about it and also if at any point you'd like to re-assess this framework of practice then we can do so together.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Monday 10.00 - 17.00 Friday 09.00 - 17.00 Evening availability possible - please ask
Types of client