Denise Ela Maley Reg. MBACP, MA SoPH - Couples & Individual Therapy
07950404990 / 07950 404990
You’re a private person and don’t open up to anyone about how you really feel inside and don’t know if therapy can help. You give your job and relationships your all - they take over your life leaving you with no energy or space for you.
You put on a brave face for others, but when the evenings and weekends come you just want to be alone and zone out with food, TV or sleep. You fear people getting too close and seeing the real you which only drives you to try to please others even more. Deep down you don’t feel good enough and are scared of being ‘found out’ in case others see the pain and unhappiness you’re trying so hard to hide. It’s been exhausting and you know you need help to change.
You long to feel free to be yourself without worrying about what anyone else thinks about you. You dream of having more energy and motivation to finally live out your life’s purpose instead of hiding out in despair. You’re ready to put yourself first and discover what’s been holding you back without feeling guilty or selfish. I can help you get there.
With flexible and secure online therapy sessions and early/late session scheduling options, I make it easy to fit therapy into your lifestyle. Getting started is simple, just visit my website (www.seventhwavetherapy.com) and message me for your free no-obligation 30-minute phone consultation today.
Our sessions together are a private space where you can explore your what's coming up for you and your uncomfortable feelings in a way that is rarely possible with friends, partners or family. For those of you new to therapy, I am not there to judge or to give advice but to capture and hold up a mirror so we can then understand and begin to remedy your difficulties.
Clients often describe me as extremely warm, understanding, open and easy to talk to and able to challenge when helpful to do so. Your ‘feel’ for your therapist is such an important part of your ability to ‘go there’ and work together so bear that in mind when seeking a match.
In terms of the work we’d do together, my training was very broad (incl. Jungian, Psychodynamic and Transpersonal) so I am able to work with a variety of approaches to suit your needs. Part of my training included working energetically and creatively, so I do offer the chance to shift into creative gears using breath regulation, relaxation and grounding exercises, working with your dreams as a snapshot of your inner life and general awareness of your energy equilibrium. Significantly, some creative approaches have found to be effective therapeutic methods thanks to recent neuroscientific research
The client issues I typically work with in private practice for individual therapy include;
- Relationship Issues
- Couple Therapy
- Weight Issues
- Body Image
- Low Self-Esteem
- Child-Free Status and Decision-Making
- Work-Related Stress
- Career Transition
- Feeling Sad
- Feeling Lonely
- Self Identity
- Working Through Parental Relationships
- Young Adult/Student Issues
- Adapting to Mid-Life
- Lost meaning in life
My 20+ years experience in HR and personal therapeutic journey broaden my skill and therapeutic capability in the areas of career transition, changing jobs, redundancy, work-related anxiety, work-related stress, performance anxiety, maternity return to work, relationship issues at work and management pressures impacting on life outside the workplace.
Relationships can be hard sometimes. You may be in the middle of a relationship crisis with heightened emotions and no sense of what you can do to save the relationship. Or it may be that you have gradually grown apart and feel confusion and sadness about where to turn next - wishing for a private and holding space to try and work things out. I can help.
I have deep respect and awareness of the process a couple goes through long before committing to come to couple therapy. It takes enormous courage and commitment to your partner to take this step and I honour it.
In couple therapy with me, your relationship is my client and I work in service to your relationship, which means that you will always be seen together by me and not at any time individually. This is really helpful in supporting your reconnection as a couple.
I also believe that we don’t choose our partners by accident, and for that reason, conflict and relationship difficulties can offer opportunities for healing and growth for each of you as individuals as well as for your relationship.
On a practical level, couple therapy can be very effective if you want to improve communication or resolve a specific issue, such as life stage transitions, healing after an affair or childbearing decisions to name a few examples. Or simply for those who wish to deepen their intimacy and commitment, couple therapy is a great option.
Our sessions in couple therapy create safety and objectivity to explore your issues. It's more interactive than classic therapy, integrating valuable tools and exercises to shed light on what you each bring to the relationship. The hope is that this space and time to focus and listen to one another fosters greater awareness, relief and mutual understanding. As such at times the sessions can be more active and structured than a typical individual therapy session!
We typically work with an initial 8 sessions either on a weekly or bi-weekly basis depending on the relationship goal. I can talk to you further about my approach and answer any questions you may have in my free 30-minute call offered to potential new clients.
My therapeutic services are offered in Central London WC1 Gower Street area and South West Hertfordshire in Rickmansworth accessible to Chorleywood, Watford WD3 area, Little Chalfont, Chesham and Buckinghamshire borders.
I also offer online sessions (via a secure therapeutic platform)
I adhere to the BACP code of ethics and strict professional guides relating to client confidentiality. This is important for all clients to be aware of as a structure of the containment and boundaries of our work together to establish trust and a private space to be open with your thoughts and feelings.
Training, qualifications & experience
As a commitment to the psychological significance of 'relationship', I am undertaking a Post-Qualification Diploma in Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy. This area of therapy is not regulated yet and so not all therapists offering couples therapy have undertaken this specialist training.
- Post-qualification Diploma in Transpersonal Couples Counselling and Psychotherapy - CCPE [course certification pending]
- MA Psychotherapy & Healing Practice, SoPH – Society for Psychology and Healing validated by Middlesex University
- Registered Member BACP
- Member of the Association of Integrative Coach Therapy
As well as my private online and in-person local practice, I am a clinical workplace counsellor for a private psychological services organisation. I also have a diverse clinical training experience to date includes working in a university student wellbeing team, a women’s health charity and a non-profit therapeutic service for children using play therapy.
I am also an Associate Psychotherapist at Weight Matters in Central London specialising in weight and eating relates issues.
You can learn more about my background and approach on my website.
Recent CPD include;
- Psychology of the Personality
- Working with Trauma
- Shame in Performance Management Systems
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
Individual Fee per 50-minute session online at £50 per session and in person at £65 per session.
I offer an initial telephone consultation at no cost and a fee per session thereafter which is discussed as part of the proposed client contract and will also depend on timing considerations.
Couples Fee per 90-minute session £115 and 50-minute £75. I offer an initial one-off in-person session for which the fee applies, thereafter an initial commitment of bi-weekly sessions of 90-minutes/weekly 50-minute sessions with regular reviews will be discussed for agreement.
Looking for the 'right' therapist for you is an important decision.
I empathise with your position and offer an initial telephone/online video consultation at no cost for you to tell me what it is you're seeking and to ask me any questions about my approach, to help you come to the right decision for you. I am more than happy to take this time and see it as an important aspect of my work.
Should we both like to proceed then we would have an initial session for us both to assess how well we can work together and your best hopes for the therapy. It is again another opportunity for us to assess our 'fit' and to ask any questions. Should you wish not to pursue an ongoing therapy together that's understood, and should I feel your needs are outside my area of clinical expertise I'll let you know and also help with referrals wherever possible.
If we proceed with therapy then I will share a brief client contract with you as a reference for both of us on how we'll work together. You are free to ask any questions about it and also if at any point you'd like to re-assess this framework of practice then we can do so together.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Monday 07.00 - 21.00 Tuesday 07.00 - 21.00 Wednesday 1700 - 20.30
Types of client