Delia Schumacher

Areas of Expertise: Relationship and Psychosexual Therapy

The reasons why people come and see me are many and varied. Relationships suffering from reoccurring arguments and bickering, misunderstandings due to poor communication, a lack of trust and commitment, the loss of an emotional connection, the aftermath of an affair or the wish to separate or divorce are some of the reasons individuals and couples seek therapy.

I specialise in helping people to master their relationship, be it the relationship they are currently in, they are trying to build, or they are thinking of leaving or have already left.

Whilst most of my clients are couples and divorcing couples, I also see those in other forms of relationships such siblings, or parents and their adult children, or business partners who want to improve their relationships.

Research has shown that the quality of our relationships determines by and large our own physical and mental well-being. A relationship that is in dire straits can easily derail us, make us stressed, unhappy, and less capable.

I view psychotherapy as a process of self-exploration that aims to gain a better understanding of one own’s behaviour and how it impacts not only on the behaviour of the person we are in a relationship with, but also the quality of the relationship itself.

To begin with I support clients to understand their relationship dynamic and its main drivers, what makes the relationship work but also what are the negative drivers, the catalyst of friction and unhappiness.

Following on from this, I encourage my clients to jointly think and talk about possible changes in behaviour. The question is, what needs to be changed, what can that look like, how can both partners actively contribute to this change, and last but not least, acknowledging what cannot be changed hence needs to be tolerated as a limitation.

Another part of my work is psychosexual therapy that focusses on resolving sexual dysfunctions such as a lack of desire, painful sex, premature or delayed ejaculation, erectile difficulties or compulsive porn use etc.

This particular work entails an additional behavioural component where I set clients very specific exercises that they do at home. The exercises follow a tailored programme and are designed to bring about improvements and ultimately resolution.

I see a wide range of people from different cultural and ethnic backgrounds, covering straight and gay couples and individuals.

I offer short- and long-term therapy in English and German.

I am a member of the BACP (British Association of Psychotherapy and Counselling) and COSRT (College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists) and abide by their code of ethics.

How to get started?

Please send an email or call to arrange an initial meeting. The aim of the first meeting is to discuss your particular situation and think together about the best way forward. It is also an opportunity for getting a feel of how I work and clarifying any questions you may have.