David Ireland. Dip Couns. MBACP reg. Personal and couples counsellor
Telephone and Internet counselling available.
I think the best way to tell you about me is to tell you about my approach to counselling, so below are some of my thoughts mixed with some of my client’s comments. The first of the comments (in bold) is mine, all the rest are from clients or others.
“Counselling has no secret formula, there is nothing mystical about it; finding the answer begins with seeing the problem.”
Seeing the problem is what counselling is about, yet the exploration we need to do isn’t always about events outside of us but about how we respond to the situation that is causing us pain, sadness or anxiety. Counselling helps when something makes us feel bad or stuck by exploring what we are doing with that situation, it identifies the mental acrobatics, wrangling and dead ends that make us feel that way. It helps us to unravel, clarify, simplify and de-clutter our view, for ourselves, from within.
One of my clients made a wonderful statement at the end of our sessions when she said:-
“People will always pour salt, there’s nothing I can do to stop them, but now there is no wound to pour it on. There’s still a scar, that’s the memory of it but I can live with a scar, and scars fade anyway. There has been a healing.”
She captured the value of our work together perfectly – that there will always be things we can’t change, but if we can get our mind into the right place, on solid ground, we can stop them hurting or holding us back, and begin to make clear, practical, constructive and good choices for ourselves.
Recently I worked with a young man who was terrified that some of his behaviour had the potential to damage or even end his relationships with his wife and family, and he sought to break a cycle of a very self-destructive tendency in himself. He came with little hope of success and a cynical attitude to counselling generally, but afterwards he said:-
"There was no single thing that changed my way of thinking, though there are some things that I will always remember from counselling. I never thought that anything could work, and it was changing that belief bit by bit that was crucial to making the changes for me. There is no silver bullet, but the accumulation of realisations this has brought up, has done what I hoped it would, but never believed could happen."
The clarification that comes with counselling is often surprising and not always easy. One client who came to see me said at the end of our sessions.
“I’m quite clear about my choice now and making it was hard, it’s not what I thought it would be or even hoped it would be but it is based on truth. I really did want to love her… truth is I just didn’t, and I see that now. It wasn’t fair to her or to me.”
Choice is a liberating thing and it sometimes works out that the choice people make is not to make a choice at all. The value is not in the choosing as such, but in being happy with whatever you discover to be right for you.
“My life has been all about making decisions and being judged on them, and that’s ok in work or even at home… but this is about me. Something you said about your hope for me that I wouldn’t spend the next week trying to plan out the rest of my life made me think…Ok let it ride… give it time. I stayed home and stripped wallpaper… it was great”
A brilliant statement that I found somewhere, I don't remember where, for me sums up a realisation that can start something new, and it goes "Sometimes we have to give up the hope of a better past". Its about acceptance and drawing a line in the sand... easier said than done, but that would be the work we do together. Whatever the problem is, it's you who has the answer, we just have to find it.
I think that counselling should be pretty informal as far as possible without compromising the quality of the service, I'm on the BACP register and all those excellent safeguards are in place in my work. I always think that an initial phone call is the best place to start and to decide if we should set up an assessment session; there is no obligation, it helps us find out that we speak the same language and have some connection to work with. Its not an interrogation but a chat undertaken on your terms.
So please either call me direct or email and we can set something up. I hope what I've said here helps but it costs nothing to ask a question or two if you want to.
My number is 07932 426586 or my email address firstname.lastname@example.org
I look forward to hearing from you.
Training, qualifications & experience
Since qualifying I have been in full time employment in counselling, I also completed three years of voluntary work for a local counselling agency in Accrington and have been practicing privately for the last seven years. I have in excess of 5,000 hours of face to face work with clients.
ICSK-L2 Introduction to Counselling Skills. (BACP Accredited Course) 2007/8
CSK-L2 Certificate in Counselling Skills. (BACP Accredited Course) 2008/9
CST-L3 Certificate in Counselling Studies. (BACP Accredited Course) 2009/10
TC-L4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling. (BACP Accredited Course) 2010 - 2012
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Fees are payable at the beginning of each session.
Personal counselling session £40.00
Couples counselling session £50.00