David Ireland. Dip Couns. MBACP reg. Personal and couples counsellor
I think the best way to tell you about me is to tell you about my approach to counselling, so below are some of my thoughts mixed with some of my client’s comments. The first of the comments (in bold) is mine, all the rest are from clients or others.
“Counselling has no secret formula, there is nothing mystical about it; finding the answer begins with seeing the problem.”
Seeing the problem is what counselling is about, yet the exploration we need to do isn’t always about events outside of us but about how we respond to the situation that is causing us pain, sadness or anxiety. Counselling helps when something makes us feel bad or stuck by exploring what we are doing with that situation, it identifies the mental acrobatics, wrangling and dead ends that make us feel that way. It helps us to unravel, clarify, simplify and un-complicate our view, for ourselves, from within, it’s all about common sense and natural practicality.
One of my clients made a wonderful statement at the end of our sessions when she said:-
“People will always pour salt, there’s nothing I can do to stop them, but now there is no wound to pour it on. There’s still a scar, that’s the memory of it but I can live with a scar, and scars fade anyway. There has been a healing.”
She captured the value of our work together perfectly – that there will always be things we can’t change, but if we can get our mind into the right place, on solid ground, we can stop them hurting or holding us back, and begin to make clear, practical, constructive and good choices for ourselves.
The clarification that comes with counselling is often surprising and not always easy. One client who came to see me said at the end of our sessions.
“I’m quite clear about my choice now and making it was hard, it’s not what I thought it would be or even hoped it would be but it is based on truth. I really did want to love her… truth is I just didn’t, and I see that now. It wasn’t fair to her or to me.”
Choice is a liberating thing and it sometimes works out that the choice people make is not to make a choice at all. The value is not in the choosing as such, but in being happy with whatever you discover to be right for you.
“My life has been all about making decisions and being judged on them, and that’s ok in work or even at home… but this is about me. Something you said about your hope for me that I wouldn’t spend the next week trying to plan out the rest of my life made me think…Ok let it ride… give it time. I stayed home and stripped wallpaper… it was great”
A brilliant statement that I found somewhere, I don't remember where, for me sums up a realization that can start something new, and it goes "Sometimes we have to give up the hope for a better past". Its about acceptance and drawing a straight line in the sand... easier said than done but that would be the work we do together. Whatever the problem is, it's my belief that it is you who has the answer, we just have to find it.
I think that counselling should be pretty informal as far as possible without compromising the quality of the service, I'm on the BACP register and all those excellent safeguards are in place in my work. I always think that an initial phone call is the best place to start and to decide if we should set up an assessment session; there is no obligation, it helps us find out that we speak the same language and have some connection to work with. Its not an interrogation but a chat undertaken on your terms.
So please either call me direct or email and we can set something up. I hope what I've said here helps but it costs nothing to ask a question or two if you want to.
My number is 07932 426586 or my email address email@example.com
I look forward to hearing from you.
Training, qualifications & experience
Since qualifying I have been in full time employment in counselling, I also completed three years of voluntary work for a local counselling agency in Accrington and have been practicing privately for the last seven years. I have in excess of 5,000 hours of face to face work with clients.
ICSK-L2 Introduction to Counselling Skills. (BACP Accredited Course) 2007/8
CSK-L2 Certificate in Counselling Skills. (BACP Accredited Course) 2008/9
CST-L3 Certificate in Counselling Studies. (BACP Accredited Course) 2009/10
TC-L4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling. (BACP Accredited Course) 2010 - 2012
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Health anxiety
- Hearing voices
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
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Fees are payable at the beginning of each session.
Personal counselling session £40.00
Couples counselling session £50.00
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Available all day from 7.30am and into the evening during the week. Weekend appointments also available.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|