Dr Damian Stoupe (MNCS Acc) - the fun counsellor
Things are not normal just now. Fun seems to have drained out off our lives. We are living through a time of uncertainty and change. Homelife, workalike and our relationships are changing because of the uncertainty caused by the virus and on-going economic turmoil. Most us want certainty and predictability in our lives; we do not like change. When forced to change we feel stress, confusion, frustration, anger and even fear: all responses that are normal.
What happens with these feelings? Often, we push them down deep within ourselves, which disappointingly increases our feelings of stress, anxiety or depression, leading people to feel like they are in a rut or stuck in a never-ending cycle of arguments or avoidance as they try not to say the wrong things. Or we end up feeling angry most the time, looking for a reason to lash out at the people around us, especially those we love most.
Talking to an experienced counsellor, like myself with 15 years’ experience, helps you to explore what is happening, to understand how you have arrived at this point, and importantly, helps you find a way out by rediscovering the fun in your life.
What to expect working with Dr Damian.
First and most importantly, respect. In broad terms, you can expect to be treated with respect, dignity, and a balanced level of give and take. You can expect questions and conversation, openness and honesty. I will not judge what you have to say or you; I believe that we do things for a reason, even if we do not know what that reason is – our joint role is to figure out what is going on and how we can change things, to do this we need to be open and honest.
Do not expect counselling to be easy. A quick chat and everything will be fixed is unrealistic and fanciful. Tea and sympathy have no place in the counselling room. YI will, of course, be very supportive and help you feel safe in sharing your problems, but I will also challenge you; to make you think hard about the questions that are asked. Don’t forget, it is your money and time, cosy, boring, counselling relationship that is full of politeness and clichés, where tricky topics are avoided is not, in my opinion, counselling and will not help you resolve your problems.
What is counselling like with Dr Damian
Everyone is different with and has unique issues and goals for counselling, this means that my approach to counselling will be different depending on the person I work with. However, generally you can expect to discuss the current events happening in your life, your personal history relevant to your issue, and process new insights gained from the previous counselling session.
Depending on your specific needs, therapy can be short-term, for a specific issue, or longer-term, to deal with more difficult patterns or your desire for more personal development. I tend to work with people in six-week cycles, so that we have a focus for our work; counselling should not be like going down a rabbit warren!
You will get more results from therapy if you actively participate in the process; reflecting on what we have said during a session and doing any ‘homework’ that is suggested. By doing this you will bring what you learn in the sessions back into your life.
How many session will I need?
This is a really difficult question to answer. It is difficult to predict how many counselling sessions you will need. Some clients require 4 to 6 sessions, some will require significantly more, while others may only need 1 or 2 sessions. Generally, the more complex and long-standing the problems, the more sessions are required to develop and maintain the desired changes.
Although I trained as a generic counsellor initially, my advanced counselling training developed me as a specialist in working over short time scales of up to 6 - 10 sessions
Making a choice to work with a counsellor and improve your mental health is not easy but it is rewarding and worthwhile. I aim to make you feel as safe and comfortable as possible while we work together towards your goals and rediscover the meaning of fun in your life.
From the start I will try and make the process as easy as possible. Either give me a call or drop me an email using the links provided. Once we have made contact we can agree a time to have an initial chat, for about 15 mins, about what you want from counselling and how I might be able to help you (this can be done over the phone or through the secure, encrypted video conferencing platform (doxy.me) that I use. At the end of this session I will suggest that you take a day or so to think over what was said and decide if you want to continue seeing me as your counsellor. If you do, then we can arrange another hour-long session and begin our work together.
Training, qualifications & experience
- PhD (School of Education, University of Bristol)
- MSc Counselling Research (University of Bristol)
- Postgraduate Diploma in Counselling – Organisational Settings (University of Bristol)
- Postgraduate Diploma in Research Methods (University of Bristol)
- BA (Hons) Economics and Management Studies (University of Leeds)
Diploma in Hypnotherapy (Hons); Diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy (merit), Cert. Life Coaching, Cert Mediation Skills
Registered / Accredited
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National Counselling Society
The National Counselling Society
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In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Workplace bullying and harassment
- Individual Sessions = £60.00
- Couples Sessions = £90.00