So, here we are coming out of Lockdown... and that's bringing up different things for all of us. It's been weird hasn't it? At times lonely and certainly frustrating. Are you feeling stuck? Sad? Caught up in self-judgement, that voice in our head saying “not good enough”? Unable to accept a compliment because we always add a “but” to it or just wanting to be happy/different and not knowing how. And the thought of going for counselling can seem nerve-wracking! It’s an unknown.
I can offer a calm, gentle, kind, empathic approach and am an experienced counsellor. We work at your pace. If you are concerned about becoming upset I will “hold” our counselling space carefully, allowing you time to talk, explore your issues, challenges and “stuff” whilst guiding you to decompress safely. I have a variety of approaches - we are all different so my approach will be different for each client. Please read on.
“We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.”
― Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person
I currently work as a counsellor with adults and teenagers part-time at a local charity alongside working with private clients. I also work as a School Counsellor with Primary aged children one day a week. I have worked with a wide range of issues from anxiety, relationship problems, low self-esteem, feeling stuck, grief and specifically the effects of sexual violence. I am familiar with the stressors of modern life, having been a Primary school teacher for over 15 years, a waitress, gardener, office clerk and I’ve raised a family. I believe myself to be fairly well-rounded! I am a trained Integrative Counsellor at Level 5. I have a wide level of experience working with adults, teens and children. I am also experienced in working with University students.
I’ve got to an age where life experience counts for a lot. Some years ago I realised my career and lifestyle weren’t right for me – my children had left home, I was feeling stressed and headed towards burn out. I took stock and worked on what I wanted to get out of life. As a consequence of this soul searching I became a counsellor. Being a counsellor meets my ethics and values of supporting others to heal, make changes to their lives, to fully be themselves. I am very grateful to be in a job I love.
What will happen in a counselling session
There will be talking! That'll be you and I will listen carefully and help you to explore what is a problem for you. I may gently challenge you! I often have images arise in my mind of what is going on for you and I will share those. I love creative activities which can be quite powerful in therapy as well as enjoyable. It's a different way of working and sometimes it's nice to leave the talking for a bit and engage with a different activity.
The Spiritual side of life
Spiritual or not, I believe most of us want a meaningful life. My interest in, and enjoyment of, spirituality began in Sunday School, aged 6. I’ve always been curious about the big questions – why are we here? why am I like I am? is there a purpose to life? I have explored several very different faith paths. I don’t adhere to any religion, but I recognise that my spirituality is important to me. It is part of my self-care along with Mindfulness, being part of a Medicine Drumming group and some Conscious dance.
“ I just wanted to let you know you done an amazing job at helping me and helping me realise I could help myself.” (Julie *)
· Single sessions – sometimes a light touch is all that is needed. Single sessions give you a chance to be heard, to air and explore your issue.
· Short-term work – sometimes focusing on the main issue can be very helpful and I use a Solution focused Brief therapy approach for this. We look at what is going on in the here and now for you and work with that as the primary focus. This is useful for between 4-6 weekly sessions.
· Open-ended – if you are not sure what you want – and it’s often hard to know if you are new to therapy, or are dealing with something new – this could be what feels right. There is no commitment to a set of sessions and we go at your pace.
The initial meeting
We will have a chat about what I do and how I work. It’s important to meet before booking in for sessions. I encourage you to contact several counsellors to find the right person to work with – but I hope it’s me. If you feel comfortable you may like to talk briefly about why you are seeking counselling. And we can go from there.
Training, qualifications & experience
- I have an Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I trained with the Ironmill College, Exeter, which included Transactional Analysis - TA 101 and 102.
- 12 days training re Sexual Abuse (with Twelves Company, now First Light)
- Mental Health First Aid
- Mindfulness course
- Domestic Abuse and Child Protection
- Working online (Survivors Trust training)
- The Web of Shame
- Suicide and self-harm
I first worked as a crisis counsellor with Women's Aid in Falkirk over 20 years ago. I have been a Co-Counsellor and I worked as a teacher for 16 years. I have a good understanding of child development and the pressures on family life. I also know what it's like to work in a high pressured career. I have experience counselling gambling addicts, having had Gamcare training.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£40.00 per session
Free initial telephone or online session
Concessions offered for
Free Initial meeting
Counselling sessions £40 (hourly rate)
Short-term - Set of 4 sessions, £140, payable in advance.
- Set of 6 sessions £200, payable in advance.
I look forward to meeting you :)
Mondays and Fridays 9am to 6.30pm.