Catherine Topham Sly - Relationship Issues Specialist - Individuals & Couples
I specialise in working with individuals and couples who want to improve their relationships. (This includes your relationship with yourself!)
Are you having trouble in your relationship(s) with family, friends, colleagues, or a partner? I can help.
How does it work?
Have you ever heard the saying that before you can love anyone else you need to love yourself?
Well that may or may not be completely true, but my experience has shown that feeling better starts with getting to know, understand, and accept yourself. It leaves you more open to getting to know, understand, and accept others.
Communication gets easier and life gets more satisfying.
How do we get there?
Different things work for different people at different times, so I take a flexible, integrative approach. It mostly involves talking, because talking will help you make sense of stuff, feel better, and become a better communicator. All of that will help your relationships.
You’ll become a better listener, too, whether you come as a couple or on your own. It’s easier to listen to other people when you’ve got your own stuff straight in your head.
I find it can be really helpful to look at:
- the impact of your early experiences on who you are today
- how you feel and what you are going through right now
- your fears, hopes, and dreams for the future
I am interested in all three, and don’t value any one above the others.
What’s therapy like?
I have had counselling myself, both on my own and as part of couple, so I know how scary and overwhelming it can feel to get started. You might be concerned about what will be expected of you, or wondering if there are things that you shouldn’t talk or ask about.
Therapy works best when you feel free to talk about everything, including the experience itself, what it’s like for you and what you want from it. I am a person too and you can trust me to be real with you, and to keep our discussions confidential.
On the other hand you might be worried that going for counselling is, or will make you, self-indulgent. Actually what tends to happen is that we talk a lot about your relationships, how you feel about them, what you want and need from them, and what you can do to change them so they work better for you and the people you care about.
There’s nothing self-indulgent about spending time working out how you can get on with people better!
My Hove office is close to Hove Polyclinic at BN3 7NF. It is on the 5A bus route, near stops for the 5 or 5B buses, or a fifteen-minute walk from Aldrington railway station. There is plenty of free, unrestricted parking on the street nearby.
My counselling hours are Monday to Thursday 9:30am till 3pm. I do not offer counselling on evenings or weekends.
If you’re interested in finding out how I might be able to help with the difficulties you’re having in your relationship(s), you have a few options:
- Make an appointment - you can call or text me on 07428 396671 or email using the button above
- Give me a call just to have a chat, ask any questions you have, and see whether you feel like I might be someone you’d find it helpful to talk to
- Have a look at my website and blog to find out a bit more about my style, and/or join my mailing list/follow me on social media just to keep me on your radar for if you want help in future
There’s no point trying to do therapy with someone you don’t like or feel any connection with. The best way to get started is to have a chat on the phone, then if we feel like I will be able to help, you can come and meet me and see whether you feel like I am good fit for you.
Relationships can be hard work. They are also vital for our survival and provide us with some of the best moments of our lives. I would love to have the opportunity to see what I can do to help you make the best of yours.
Training, qualifications & experience
Qualifications and Registrations:
2019: Certificate in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, EFT International School.
2018: Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.
2017-2018: Supervision Training, The Rock Clinic.
2017: Certificate in Working with Couples, The Link Centre.
2016: Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.
2014: Transactional Analysis 101 Certificate, Northbrook College.
2012-2014: Advanced Diploma in Counselling and Therapy, Northbrook College.
2011: NCFE Level 2 Award in Helping Skills, City College Brighton & Hove.
2011: CPCAB Level 2 Award in Introduction to Counselling Skills, Varndean College.
2003-2006: BA Hons Linguistics, University of Sussex.
2016-present: Counsellor in private practice, Insight & Connection (formerly Hove Counselling & Therapy).
2013-present: Counsellor, Rock Clinic Association, Brighton.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anorexia nervosa
- Attachment disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Career counselling
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
- Compassion-Focused Therapy
- Couples counselling
- Existential therapy
- Gestalt therapy
50-Minute Sessions: £48
90-Minute Sessions: £86
50-Minute Sessions: £68
Regular counselling sessions: £122
Sessions last for 50 minutes.
I have a special interest in the transition to parenthood and run a regular event for parents called Relationship Goals 2.0. Please see my website for more information.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I offer counselling to individuals and couples between 9:30am and 3pm, Monday to Thursday. Please get in touch for current availability.
Types of client
Supervision & training
I am available for clinical supervision for trainee and qualified supervisors and couples therapists.View supervision profile