Life can throw difficulties in our path that can leave us feeling frustrated, anxious, crushed and helpless. Sometimes we can find ourselves feeling invisible, like an outsider or as if we don’t belong. The way we respond to problems may reveal deeper hurts, or unmet needs, causing emotional pain and a feeling of being lost.
Taking the step to find a Counsellor can take a lot of courage, but I know from personal experience how freeing it can be to be offered a non-judgmental, affirming and confidential safe space, in which to begin to explore the issues you might be facing.
It’s in a trusting relationship for example that you can begin to expose your fears and learn that you will not be rejected or harmed. Slowly you can learn to allow another person to witness your confusion, discomfort, anger, grief or shame. Sometimes it is in the midst of our deepest pain that we are able to let go of old patterns and beliefs that no longer serve us, and so open to new beginnings and new possibilities.
My approach is integrative and strongly relational and I place a primary focus on the process between us in the present, which can often replicate experiences of past and current key relationships. It is from a place of acceptance and safety that I will draw upon a range of theories according to your particular needs and desires, to help you make the changes you want to make. Here are some examples:
Talking together: It can be very healing to have someone listen to you in a non-judgmental way, offering acceptance, warmth and understanding. Perhaps you are simply looking for a fellow traveller to sit with you and offer love and empathy, whilst holding on to hope for a way through painful times. Being understood can be a powerful catalyst for change.
Transaction Analysis: We all have different sides to ourselves – we can call them ‘ego states.’ Eric Berne defined three ego states that can be confirmed by observing behaviour: the parent, adult, or child. An ego state is a way in which we think, feel and behave, making up our personality at a given time. An individual may assume any of these roles in transactions with another person or in internal conversation. TA offers a way to explore how to decode internal conflict and find ways to change negative patterns into positive ones, bringing relief and increased confidence.
Inner Child work: Your Inner Child is the echo of the child you once were. We each have our own history and we have all been influenced by our environment, events and the significant people around us. We will have made ‘decisions’ at a sub-conscious level, about how we ‘should’ be and what we ‘should’ do in order to be seen as OK, and to be allowed to stay around and to survive in our families. Our later experiences will have reinforced these beliefs and formed our own ‘Script’ for how our life ‘should’ be. We can carry these immature scripts and decisions with us into adulthood. It is sometimes helpful to revisit the experiences of the child we once were, and to find out what our own script says about our life and the unfolding drama we may have been re-creating and repeating.
I may use several different techniques to help you identify the hurts from your childhood which may include journaling, guided imagery, symbols, pictures, figures, sand trays, nesting dolls and similar creative approaches. Working creatively in therapy is a way to safely visualise what you cannot verbalise or is maybe too triggering to discuss.
Creative Tools: Working creatively in therapy can enable you to find a voice where perhaps you struggle to hear yourself, so gradually the voice appears with the help of for example drawing or painting. For some people, it can bring a possible self in to existence or be a means to survive and recover from difficult circumstances. The use of image and metaphor can help you find way of reaching new levels of understanding and grasp what is on the edge of your conscious awareness.
Psychoeducation: Clients often want to develop greater understanding of why they are experiencing certain symptoms such as flashbacks, avoidance of reminders of certain events, negative thoughts or mood and hypervigilance. I have found it helpful to provide a basic understanding of the brain and the important links between the brain and body. People find hope in knowing that it’s possible to develop new neural pathways to replace and extinguish unhelpful and harmful thinking and behavioural patterns.
I also work as an Associate Counsellor working for a local charity and over the years I have gained considerable experience working and supporting people with a wide range of issues. Personal and professional experience of trauma and abuse has instilled a passion and dedication in me to help those who have been similarly affected.
I have been trained to work with the following issues:
Anxiety and stress, Trauma, Different types of Abuse, Shame, Depression, Loss of confidence and self esteem, Divorce and relationship problems, Crisis pregnancy, Still-birth & Neonatal Death, Self-harm and suicidal thoughts, Bereavement and Loss, Rejection and abandonment, faith issues, Autistic Spectrum conditions
I am a fully trained and qualified counsellor. As a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), I work according to their ethical framework. As a Christian, I'm also a registered member of the Association of Christian Counsellors (ACC). I see clients who have a faith and those of no faith.
Training, qualifications & experience
Advanced Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
Continued Professional Development - 2019
L5 Certificate in Integrating Creative Interventions for Counsellors
PODS: Working with Dissociative Disorders in Clinical Practice
Attachment: Adult Attachment Behaviour, Attachment and Shame, Attachment and Culture
Aspire Autism Training: An insight in to the world of Autistic Spectrum Conditions
Counselling Clients on the Autistic Spectrum
March 2018 - present: Volunteer Counsellor at Talking Spaces & Just Be Bereavement Support
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug addiction
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Health anxiety
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic attacks
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
1 hour face to face counselling £40
1 hour telephone counselling £30
Initial telephone consultations available without charge.
I offer short term and long term counselling
I believe that everyone should have access to counselling so limited concessions are available.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Day time and evening appointments and some Saturday morning appointments available either in Wetherby or Harrogate
Types of client