My view is that we are all individuals; that effective counselling needs to be shaped to meet your own personal needs ‘we are all unique’. I will provide you with as much choice as possible because I believe that your needs are ‘individual to you’.
“The only way out of emotional pain is by working through it. Allow me to accompany you on that journey”
I do not believe in a 'one size fits all' approach to counselling and use an integrative approach in therapy to meet the clients individual needs. My overall objective however, is always the same - to do my very best to offer you an opportunity to ease any discomfort and improve your well-being. To help you discover and develop your own resilience, inner strength, and direction in life.
When we are troubled, anxious, distressed, or even perplexed by life's numerous issues, counselling with a skilled counsellor in a therapeutic setting can help you. The therapeutic setting offers up an opportunity for ‘time out’ to explore these issues. Talking with a trained counsellor could help you gain a greater understanding of your own personal deep-rooted feelings and ingrained patterns of behavior, allowing you to gain a better understanding of yourself. The therapeutic setting is essential in providing continuous support to you as you move towards a better understanding and recognition of your past and present issues, and learn how to deal with them. Some of the issues I have worked with include, Bereavement, Anger Management, Depression, Masculine Depression, Anxiety, Relationship Issues and Self Esteem.
"Let go of the limitations of your past. See your past as what needed to happen for you to become you."
"What is Counselling"
BACP Definition of Counselling
'Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change or enhance their well-being.'
People who seek counselling often feel confused, distressed, depressed, frightened or unhappy. Counselling is a sensitive healing therapy that offers support for those experiencing difficulties, providing an opportunity for you to discuss and explore your issues (past/present) in a confidential, non-judgmental, safe and respectful setting which can pave the way for a journey of self discovery, fulfillment, and recovery. Counselling is a process that allows you to work through issues that may be causing you distress, to explore debilitating and destructive life patterns in personal, family, and other significant relationships. The role of the counsellor is to listen, understand and help you to find solutions to your problem. To assist and empower you to gain practical support to deal with those issues.
One of the results of suppressing troubled thoughts and feelings is that it can lead to the suppressed problem becoming internalized. This internalization can lead to unexplained worries, anxieties, niggling physical symptoms, aches and pains, disturbed sleep, and even digestive disorders.
Counselling is a time for you to be listened to and to be heard. It does not involve giving advice. Instead it allows you space and time to explore your personal issues with a skilled therapist in a gentle restorative healing relationship. To look at the available options to help manage your distress. It will also help you develop positive coping strategies working towards change, self empowerment and clarity. Counselling can also help you to develop your own inner resources to deal with the issues going forward and reduce or eliminate stress from life.
Counselling is a unique and objective relationship that works at your own pace.
I provide a private counselling suite 'a safe space', in a discreet, quiet, and tranquil rural location close to Antrim town. This is not in my home. Daytime and evening appointments can be facilitated
I now offer Walk and Talk sessions outdoors for clients who find being outdoors a more relaxing environment than the counselling office. It can be taken as an introduction to counselling, followed up by a more formal type of therapy. Suspended due to Covid 19
Please do not be discouraged if you get my answerphone, simply leave your name and contact number and I will get back to you. Alternatively try my mobile number, e-mail or text.
Private car parking is available. Please visit www.therapyworksni.co.uk for more detailed information.
Training, qualifications & experience
My professional counselling training is in Integrative Counselling. I draw from, apply and blend different therapeutic approaches, integrated from; Cognitive Behavioral Psychodynamic, Existential, Transactional Analysis, and primarily Humanistic and Person Centered approaches, along with creative techniques to enable me to effectively meet the individual needs and wishes of 'you' the client.
- I am a full time counsellor, Senior Accredited Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Senior Accred) and I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework for Good Practice www.bacp.co.uk.
- I am also a member of the BACP Register www.bacpregister.org.uk. I am insured to practice as a Counsellor/Psyhotherapist with Howden Professional Insurers. I continue to provide a successful counselling service in a regional Health Center prior to setting up my own private practice. I have qualified with the University of Ulster HE Diploma in Counselling, along with a Certificate in Counselling Skills. I engage in one and a half hours personal supervision monthly with an accredited supervisor. In addition to 60+ years of 'life experience' I have also sat in the 'client's chair' for my own personal therapy. I have also
undertaken additional ongoing personal development training and qualifications in:
- Psychotherapy in the Natural World.
- Mindfulness in the Therapeutic Setting.
- Practical ways to work with dreams.
- An Introduction to the Enneagram [Personality Types].
- Working with Self-harm and the Intoxicated Client.
- Recognizing, Understanding and and Assessing Sex Addiction.
- Transactional Analysis Training TA101
- Understanding the law, inside and outside the counselling room
- Overview of Mental Health Disorders
- Child Protection
- Anger Therapy; Hatred, Hostility and Bitterness
- Exploring Relational Depth
- Effective Strategies for Working with Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Working with Domestic Violence
- Working with Sexual Abuse
- Bereavement Counselling Training
- ASIST- Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training
- Psycho-sexual Health Awareness
- Introduction to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT
- Mental Health Awareness Training
- Personal Development for Counsellors
- Working with Difference
I actively encourage feedback from clients, and learn most of all from clients. I believe this has furnished me with the flexibility and variety of experience needed to accommodate and work creatively and effectively with a wide range of clients issues.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Masculine Depression ‘Disturbed men behave in disturbing ways’
In identifying and describing masculine depression as separate or different to other forms of depression is not to justify, absolve, condone or excuse men from the responsibility of their behaviors or the damage done to families, women, children, and other men. Depression can be brought about by conflicting needs, conflicting social forces and expectations. Counselling can help men acknowledge, identify, recognize and address unhealthy aspects of their behaviors, and in doing so help them find healthy ways to express their humanity, have healthy relationships and lead a fulfilling life.
Many men experience “depression without sadness,”
Men are more likely to feel angry, irritable, and frustrated more commonly than women, rather than expressing sadness when depressed.
Men tend to cope with depression differently than women.
Instead of withdrawing from the world, men may act recklessly or develop a compulsive interest in work or a new hobby. Instead of crying, men may engage in violent behavior.
Men are more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol.
When in the midst of a depression, perhaps to find relief from the pain of depressive feelings. This can make it difficult to determine whether a problem is specifically alcohol-or-drug-related or whether it is primarily depression.
Men often report physical symptoms more often than women.
Headaches, joint pain, backache, dizziness, chest pain and digestive problems. However, they are often unaware that these symptoms are linked to depression.
Men experience a higher suicide rate which is a worldwide phenomenon.
The reasons why men are more likely to kill themselves are complex, but risk factors include unemployment, social isolation, chronic illness, and certain occupations that have access to the means of suicide.A worrying recent trend is the increasing rate of suicide among younger men, a trend not seen among young women. The majority of these men have not asked for help before their deaths.
Men can find it hard to connect and talk about their ‘feelings’.
This can be down to role expectations ‘boys’ don’t cry’.
Some questions to ask yourself
- Lose your temper easily?
- Get into arguments at home after a bad day at work.
- Behaved aggressively after a significant loss, e.g. [job, relationship etc.]
- Engage in activities that have a high potential for physical injury.
- Drink too much or use drugs.
- Feel emotionally numb, cold or overly logical.
- Distract yourself through work or sports.
- Does the breakup of an intimate relationship make you miss work, drink heavily or become desperate to find a new relationship?
- Do your children fear you when you are in a bad mood?
- Does your family hide important information from you to keep the peace?
- Do you push, hit or emotionally abuse your partner, come close to or feel strong urges to do so.
If yes, are these behaviors affecting the quality of ‘your’ life, ‘your’ relationships with others, and others relationships with you?
From £40.00 to £50.00
Your first session (of half an hour) will be free of charge.
- Ongoing sessions will be charged @ £40 per session Daytime. £50 per session Evenings (up to one hour per session)
- Walk and Talk, Outdoor sessions. @ £50
- As from 01/2/2012, I am unable to complete or assist in written support or testimony for client’s requirement for Social Welfare benefits (DLA or ESA) or any other Agency requirements.
- All fees are to be paid at the end of each session/or before next agreed appointment.
- A receipt can be given at the end of each session.
- Cheque / DD/ Cash in sterling only.
- A session cancelled with less than 24 hours notice will be charged at the sessional rate. Discretion is only given under exceptional circumstances.
Note: I genuinely want to offer counselling to people in need where I can reasonably do so. If you feel that you cannot reasonably afford to pay that hourly rate, please contact me and we can discuss what you can afford. A reduced fee can be discussed at the Assessment session if the client has exceptional reasons.
Monday to Wednsday Between 10am and 8.30 pm.
The Enneagram of Personality
As an Integrative Therapists I have offered aspects of the Enneagram for many years to assist clients in understand their core motivations and prominent defences as a model for discussing object relations. For many this has been a ‘light bulb moment’. At the very least, it helps to open doors of awareness, promoting personal development and self understanding.
The Enneagram is a personality ‘theory’ describing nine strategies by which the psyche develops a worldview as relates to self and others. Each of the nine types has a basic fear, basic desire, and predictable behaviour pattern in times off ‘stress’ and ‘security’—all of which shape motivations and underlying behaviour. In the past century, counsellors, psychiatrists and psychologists have utilised many systems for describing personality characteristics. The Enneagram is one model for describing personality which has seen a surge in popularity where use has grown in recent years. The biggest difference between other well known personality Type Indicators and the Enneagram is their focus on nature, while the Enneagram is more focused on nurture.
The Enneagram reveals that all people belong to one of nine major personality types. The purpose of the Enneagram is ‘not’ to put you into a box quite the opposite, but to help you identify both the strengths and the limitations of a preferred or evolved strategy and to give you guidance on how you may develop more capacity and freedom to move beyond the limiting aspects of the ‘box you might find yourself in’?
The Enneagram believes that everyone emerges from childhood with one of the nine types dominating their personality, with inborn temperament along with other pre-natal factors being the main determinants of our type.
The theory proposes that buy adulthood, individuals have developed a predominant personality strategy to cope with the external environment ‘life’. Each of the nine core "types" described by the Enneagram has an associated basic fear, basic desire, and predictable pattern of behaviour in times of ‘stress’ and ‘security’. The Enneagram uses these basic fears and desires to describe the essential motivations underlying much of the resulting behaviours. It thus captures a range of behaviour for each type and is capable of providing an individual with a great deal of insight and understanding into underlying psychological wellness. Providing valuable, practical and compelling insights into our own strengths, weaknesses, tendencies and growth.
The Enneagram asserts that personality is by nature interconnected and multidimensional. Self-identification through personal experience and exploration is thought to be the best method for determining type.
The Enneagram also suggests that individuals tend toward ‘instincts’ of self-preservation, social interaction, or sexual (i.e., one-to-one) bonding. These instincts create nuance among each of the nine types by giving direction to the motivation of each type. Understanding how instinctual variants subtly affect the primary nine types provides additional compelling insights into our own strengths, weaknesses, tendencies, core beliefs, interpersonal dynamics, and raising self-awareness and growth are all evidence of the practical value.
In conclusions the Enneagram is a robust system that integrates all the concepts generally accepted to be necessary for a theory of personality helping to explore change.
If you have questions or would like to explore this personal journey of exploration in more depth please feel free to contact me.