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MBACP (Snr. Accred.) Counsellor, Couple and Sex Therapist.

About me

Ashford Relationship Therapy

How counselling, couple therapy or sex therapy can help.....

You probably didn't think you would ever need to come to a professional to help you sort out your communication and relationship difficulties, until one of you decided that there was no other option than to part or seek solace in someone else who appears to listen.

Couple therapy can help you both listen to each other again and you can both start to understand what  brought you to this point.  It's not failure, but a recognition that you may have forgotten how to appreciate each other.  Making the decision to work on your relationship may lead you to a more fulfilling relationship and sex life.

Physical and psychological wellbeing can adversely affect relationships your sex life, and likewise the difficulties in your sex life can affect your relationship.

I offer therapy to all members of the community regardless of sexuality, ethnicity and gender - honouring all diversity.

I specialise in relationship and sex therapy, whether you are an individual not currently in a relationship or in a relationship, which is on the brink of collapse, and I can help you to manage your difficulties more effectively, and with compassion and understanding through Psychoeducation,  and graded communication, experiential and behavioural exercises.

What you can expect in the sessions….

The first few sessions are assessment sessions where I will see you both together for 1 session, then individually for 1 session each to get a better picture of your past relationship history.  If we are specifically working on sexual issues, the History Taking part forms a large part of the treatment so this will be taken over several weeks and I will always share my Formulation (summary of the issues, and how we can move towards change) once this process has been completed.  We then agree on our goals for the work ahead of us.

I am also trauma informed, and therefore I work through a long history take of your issues, and can support you through sexual issues after sexual trauma.

My interests are in women struggling through the menopause, or with low sexual desire, and men who struggle to communicate their thoughts and feelings around sex and their relationship and with problems around erectile dysfunction.

I am also interested in couples where culture and relationship and sexual issues may differ.

I can offer long, and short term work via Zoom or In person (following my Covid guidelines, which are available on request)

Training, qualifications & experience

My work is mainly in private practice, but I also have NHS experience delivering short-term Couple Therapy for Depression.  I work with Individuals, and couples


  • Diploma in Counselling
  • Diploma in Couple Counselling - Relate
  • Couple Therapy for Depression - Tavistock
  • Diploma in Psychosexual Therapy
  • EMDR (Currently in Training)

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.


College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT)

COSRT is the UK’s leading membership organisation for therapists specialising in sexual and relationship issues.

All members must abide by their Code of Ethics and the performance of accredited members is regularly monitored.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

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British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Those that are new to sex and sexual expression.



Additional information

Couple's Therapy £60

Sex Therapy £60

Individual Counselling £50

Further information

Please note that I do not offer Sex Addiction therapy which is a different specialism - which can be accessed via the  ATSAC website.

294 Kingsnorth Road, Kingsnorth Road, Ashford, Kent, TN23 6LX

Type of session

In person



I am Integrative Counselling Supervisor, and can supervise clinical work of Counsellors and other allied professionals who work with adults.

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