Feeling frustrated, tired, and lonely in the relationship with your spouse or partner?
You feel you’re living separate lives and going through the motions of life but you miss ‘us’. Your relationship has become very functional.
The school runs, bills to be paid, housework and everyone is fed.
Perhaps there was an event, a family member or a third party that has broken your trust. Someone may have threatened to leave or has left the house.
It's all too much. You’re not able to focus on your work, and perhaps your colleagues have noticed how distracted you are.
You’re thinking whether being in this relationship is worth it or is it best just to get a divorce.
Then you think of the children and guilt overwhelms you.
What you want is a better relationship.
What you really want is to be heard and seen by your partner.
You want the way things use to be but perhaps better.
You want your children to have their parent back and become a happy family again.
You want to feel loved and be loved. You want to feel safe and grow old together like the old couple you see walking hand in hand in the park.
Short term couple counselling
Hi, I’m Azah and I help couples talk, reconnect and love again.
I work with couples who want to save their relationship.
I use an evidence-based approach to couple therapy that works.
It's short-term and it doesn’t require you to unpack your entire relationship or to get down to the problem to repair it.
Click over to my website or email for more details.
Training, qualifications & experience
I trained as a couples counsellor and use Emotionally Focused Therapy in my sessions. It is a short term approach to couple counselling.
The research says this couples counselling approach, 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. So you can be sure of a change in your relationship.
Primarily using this technique, I have helped many couples move from frustration, anger and loneliness to feel safe, secure and happy with their relationship.
I'm a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
I'm bilingual and speak both English and Bahasa Malaysia fluently. I can understand and speak basic Bahasa Indonesia and I am currently learning German.
I'm a third culture kid (TCK). Which means I was raised in a culture other than my parents’ passport country for a good number of my formative years.
Being a TCK is my superpower because it makes me very sensitive and appreciative of religious, cultural and diversity of couples I work with.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a short term structured counselling for couples. EFT is an empirically based and cutting-edge approach to marriage counselling.
Research shows 70-75% of couples journey from marital distress to repair and recovery. 90% show significant improvement in their relationship.
Recovery is stable and lasting with little evidence of relapse or distress.
It is a short-term structured approach to couple’s therapy and typically takes 8-20 session but can be longer depending on how distressed the couple is.
Couples who have had sessions with me experience an average of 8-10 session.
Your relationship counselling investment will £200 a session.
Types of couple counselling.
I offer two types of services for couples. Couple Counselling and Discernment Counselling. For both services, both partners need to attend together. For partners whose mate does not want to attend counselling, I offer Hopeful Spouse Counselling. There is no need for your mate to come for therapy if they don’t want to.
For couple/marriage counselling, the modality I use for marriage counselling is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is an empirically based and cutting-edge approach to marriage counselling. Research shows 70-75% of couples journey from marital distress to repair and recovery. 90% show significant improvement in their relationship. Recovery is stable and lasting with little evidence of relapse or distress. It is a short-term structured approach to couple’s therapy and typically takes 8-20 session but can be longer depending on how distressed the couple is.
DC is a transformational experience for couples where one spouse is not sure whether they want to stay in the marriage or not and the other wants to work on the relationship. They may doubt whether marriage counselling will work for them or they don’t want to attend marriage counselling. The modality accepts mixed-agenda couples and works with their ambivalence rather than sweeping it under the carpet.
The initial commitment for couples is simply a one, 2-hour session. During the session, each person decides separately if they would like one more session for a maximum of five sessions. The goal for discernment counselling is to provide clarity and confidence for the direction of the marriage that is based on a deeper understanding of what has happened and how each person has contributed to the problem.
Hopeful Spouse Counselling.
If you find that your partner refuses to attend couples therapy or marriage counselling, then Hopeful Spouse Counselling may be appropriate for you. Consider it like help or coaching for yourself to learn what you can do without your partner being involved. You are taking a proactive approach to your relationship.
There could be many reasons why a person would like to work on the relationship while the other may not. It could be they are not ready or simply refuses to. If this describes your relationship or marriage, Hopeful Spouse Counselling can help.