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Hi! I'm Angela!

I'm a qualified counsellor & therapist with my own practice, Time4U2Talk, based in Cardiff. I offer a dedicated, confidential psychologically informed service to men and women 18 years and over in tranquil and comfortable surroundings.

I am very experienced in helping with depression and anxiety. Other issues that I have assisted with are Bereavement, Sadness, Anxiety, Sexual abuse, Relationship problems and Domestic Abuse & Violence. A fuller list is below.

I’m a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy and adhere to the organisation’s strict ethics to deliver therapy that is respectful, empathic and demonstrates my belief that every individual is deserving of positive regard without condition and without prejudice.

No matter your problems, big or seemingly small, I want to say to you well done for looking into therapy. Seeking someone trustworthy to confide in, who will help you heal from hurts and eventually, when you're ready, help you move forward is a strength not a weakness. It takes maturity and honesty to realize you need support, and grit and determination to listen to your feelings rather than ignore them.

I believe everyone to be doing their best as they currently see it, so I will never judge you, but maybe there's a better and easier way to be? I invite you to feel safe in a discreet and non-judgemental space to be where you will be listened to and heard. I will reflect back with kindness and caring and help you to see patterns of relating you may have fallen into that may not be helpful to you and help you work out ways forward that make sense and feel right to you.

We will meet online via video calling which has shown to be very effective and allows you to be helped in the comfort of your own home. I'm happy to do the occasional session by telephone. If meeting online feels daunting, I'm also happy to meet you in my comfortable therapy room for the first time under controlled and safe conditions while restrictions allow so that you can clearly see if your feel comfortable with me.

Like it says on my website, www.Time4U2Talk.com, we are all like young trees in the wind at some point or other, getting buffeted with the winds of life and almost all of us no matter what age need support at one time or another to grow. Speaking with a trained counsellor who will listen and not judge can really help.

Painful emotions can be viewed as important messages from your body offering you the opportunity to free yourself from discomfort and move towards greater happiness and peace in life. Therapy can help you grow secure roots which connect you securely to this world and people in it and help you to withstand the future storms of life.

The Therapy and My Beliefs

My approach is humanistic and integrative with a person-centred heart, which means a few different things:

That I believe you to be of great worth and doing your best as you currently see it. I also believe that all humans possess everything they need within themselves to heal and grow from their experiences. A principal responsibility of mine is to help you to connect to those resources.

Being Integrative means integrating a variety of methods in my work to suit you. Since you are uniquely individual, no one single approach to therapy can possibly fit everyone. I therefore tailor my therapy to fit you, not the other way around, using a cohesive mix of tools and techniques from different, well-researched approaches and integrate them into my work with you, for example I use strong elements of CBT to combat the debilitating effects of anxiety but I combine the work with person-centred compassion and patience.

Being person-centred means I allow you to bring to each session what you feel needs expression most, not what I think we should cover and as I regard you as the expert on yourself I try to deliver my role in such a way to observe what I notice and let you know what I have noticed. I will then offer you the chance to process in your own way. It's a collaborative approach, I will make suggestions and help you to make decisions, but they will be your decisions.

Where and When?

Ten minutes' walk from Cardiff City centre, very close to Queen St Station and Cardiff Central. A lovely Victorian building set in a private residential street with some parking available. Appointments are available Monday-Friday, from 7.30am-4.30pm. Evening appointments by arrangement.

Weekly sessions last up to one hour and are conducted privately, via easy to operate video calling (I'll show you how) or in non-lockdown face to face in comfortable chairs in pleasant surroundings. I'm happy to met everyone for the first time face to face in carefully controlled conditions.

An extra half-hour Guided Relaxation or Mindfulness can be incorporated into the beginning or end of the session to help reduce emotional hyper arousal and allow you to walk back into the outside world feeling strengthened and calmed or energised. I allow 10-15 minutes between clients to provide a very private service.

How many sessions will I need?

Some people feel they have gained what they need in just a few sessions, others will want to stay longer. We can go week by week or agree on a certain number of sessions, set goals and be focused, whichever feels right to you. You can begin and end therapy at any time, though it's best to have an ending session. You can return for more therapy at a later date no matter how much time has passed.

Wherever possible I endeavour to see new clients within 48 hours of first contact when required.

You can contact me via phone, text or email. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.


Please email me here or call me on: 07736573030

Training, qualifications & experience

University of Wales Trinity St David's (UWTSD) Foundation Degree in Integrative Counselling with distinction.

I have completed my first year of a four-year, level 7 (equivalent to a Masters) qualification in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy with the much respected West Wales Institute of Counselling and Psychotherapy to become a Certified Transactional Analyst.

In addition, I have completed these professional development courses, among others:

  • A-level in Communication skills, Grade B, 2 years
  • Cruse Bereavement Care Foundation Course, West Wales 6 weeks
  • A.S.I.S.T Suicide Intervention Skills training, 2 days
  • Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Swansea University, 10 weeks 2016
  • Identity-Oriented Psychotrauma Therapy, WPP, Cardiff University 1 day
  • NHS Mental Health First Aid Course, 2 days
  • West Wales Institute for Counselling & Psychotherapy Transactional Analysis 101: Relationships, avoiding games, drama triangles, 3 weekends
  • UWTSD Challenging not Confrontation: Using Effective Story-telling in Therapy 11/2 days
  • Working with Domestic Violence & Sexual Abuse Course, New Pathways 2015, 10 weekends
  • UWTSD Psychopharmacology: Effects of Anti-depressants 2 x half days
  • UWTSD Art Therapy – Working Creatively, 2 days
  • SANDS Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Training for Counsellors, 1 day 2018

As well as my private practice client work, I am still a Bereavement Volunteer for Cruse West Wales to honour my commitment to providing free support to those who need it and cannot afford to pay. I have worked for New Pathways as a Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Therapist on placement, and for Women’s Aid and Threshold as a Domestic Abuse Counsellor on placement. I attend regular continuous professional development courses to enhance my effectiveness in my field.

Member organisations

BACP

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.

Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.

All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Loneliness

Therapies offered

  • Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
  • Integrative
  • Mindfulness
  • Person-centred therapy
  • Solution focused brief therapy
  • Transactional analysis

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Fees


Sessions cost:

£55. 00 per 50-60 min session

£65.00 per 90 minute session (one hour counselling, half hour Guided Relaxation or Mindfulness

My fee may be negotiated if you are having difficulties. Please talk to me.

* The first assessment lasts no more than an hour, this is an opportunity for us to meet and for you to decide if you feel comfortable with me and ask any questions you may have. We will discuss what you want from counselling and set some goals to keep us on track.

Please email me here or call me on: 07736573030

Further information

What can you expect from Therapy with me?

I have a 30-year background in voluntary mentoring and using counselling skills and qualified as a Counsellor in 2017 with a foundation degree in Integrative, Humanistic, Person-centred Counselling, so it does mean I am experienced as well as being up-to-date with modern counselling practice and have, by date of writing (June 2019) over a thousand direct counselling contact hours with clients.

With this long experience as a helper, however, I still regard you, the client, as the expert on yourself since you are the only one who knows exactly what and how you are perceiving at any one time. With all of the therapies listed here, I will help you discover your favourite 'safe places', establish or maintain a healthy support network, discover what attitudes, values and opinions you hold, make observations and offer guidance that will be the most helpful to you as an individual. I will try to refrain from telling you what to do or give advice, unless you absolutely ask for it; the work is a collaborative process where we work through feelings and ideas together.

THERAPIES POSSIBLE

  • Person Centred Talking Therapy
  • Integrative Counselling
  • Psychotherapeutic tools and techniques
  • Mindfulness
  • Guided Relaxation
  • Transactional Analysis
  • CBT

Help with multiple issues

Many people are not exactly sure what parts of their life are the most difficult to bear. They often don't have anyone they can trust to open up to for fear of burdening them or driving them away. A therapist who is trained how to listen will give you the safe non-judgemental space you need to just talk and talk without fallout. Talking things through can help you sort out the jumble of emotions you and others can't seem to make sense of. Through listening carefully as clients talk and reflecting back what they hear in a person centred way, allowing the client to be in control, a therapist can help people sort out and establish for themselves exactly how they feel if they're not sure and give you the reassurance you are looking for; identifying that you are almost certainly having perfectly normal reactions to a particular set of difficult circumstances.

I will help you work out how you really feel by helping you express and name your emotions and attend to you as you get to the bottom of what you think about having them and what that means to you. I will reflect back to you my understanding of what you have said about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours and this will help you process your emotions and decide which problem you would like to work on first. Then, finally and in time, accept and come to terms with the reality of your experiences and finally move forward.

Help with a single issue

This involves a series of conversations offering a focused approach that concentrates on a particular issue you have already identified and are having in the present, using some of the tools described above.

For both of the above

We can work through straightforward means - talking, or through more imaginative means to make the sessions interesting and enjoyable - kinesthetics (actually doing something), linguistics (reading, writing, listening or speaking), naturalistic items (nature), visually or spatially (visual aids), logically (using patterns, numbers and equations) or artistically (painting, sketching, colouring, poems and stories) in creative ways.  Integrating tools and techniques from:

Person-centred Therapy - the client as the expert and resource
Transactional Analysis - looking at the Inner Child's needs and connecting to others more effectively through your Adult with you as the driver
Egan's Problem Management Approach - Solving problems that can be solved and getting to where you want to go using a tried and tested formula
Psychopharmacology - side effects and direct benefits caused by medications and how to get the same effect without medication
Psychosynthesis - connecting with an external resource such as spirituality or personal religion as an internal guide
Neuro-biology & physiology - how the brain, digestive, respiratory and threat response systems work and be influenced to support or detract from mental and emotional well-being
Compassionate Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CCBT) - Changing how you think and behave to change how you feel.

Research has shown Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to be effective as a brief intervention therapy or longer term therapy concentrating on a single problem at a time. It operates on the understanding that thoughts and behaviours are linked to feelings, and that positive changes in just one of these areas will automatically positively affect how you are in the other two areas. I am not a CBT practitioner only using CBT, but I use what i see as the best methods incorporating them, with compassion, into my integrative or person-centred work.

The therapy is very visual, uses pen and paper or whiteboard and is characterised by worksheets, mood diaries, diagrams, models and lists. Written work is only undertaken once a warm and trusting relationship has been established and extra support can be given if you struggle to learn visually. I will take time to hear your story so I can understand what experiences and people have shaped your view of yourself and the world around you and informed your ability to respond to situations. I will only move forward once you feel understood and accepted for who you are. Being accepted and valued just as you are with all of your flaws can give you the courage to change.

Once you have found your feet you will be given brief, guided tasks to do in the week and then we can go over the progress in the following session. All forms of CBT have shown to be very effective for depression and anxiety, among other problems.

Mindfulness

Modern life allows us to multi-task to the max. We often task ourselves to match what we perceive as the expectations of others and become miserable or overwhelmed simply with daily life. For instance we can download from the internet, answer the telephone, defrost the freezer, buy clothes, help a child, cook the dinner, listen to music and do the washing all at the same time. This is great for getting stuff done but not so great for the mind. We can become frazzled and burnt out with over complicated thoughts, making it difficult to receive the restorative sleep that the mind and body needs. There is little time for us to actually enjoy the gift of now, to really taste the food we are eating, smell the summer breeze or frosty air as it passes us by or hear the beauty in birdsong. Instead our minds go racing off, thinking about the next task we have to do.

Mindfulness is a simple practice that can be experienced in the session for quieting chattering minds, and bringing the mind and body peaceably together.

It is effective for taking stock of how you are feeling in your body, in different parts of the body and training the mind to stay with the task in hand. Effective for treating stress, anxiety, depression and chronic fatigue, it works by allowing the mind to take a rest, the body to take centre stage and then integrate together for a feeling of all-over well-being.

It can bring immediate relief for feelings of anxiety and be taught how to replicate at home. When practised regularly for as little as 15 minutes a day it trains the brain to experience the gift of now automatically and experience pure joy.

Guided Relaxation

Working on your body one part at a time I can help you regulate your breathing and enter a state of deep relaxation which is either restful or invigorating, your choice.

Depending on your need, you will be guided in your mind, with or without your eyes closed, via a personalised visualisation exercise to your favourite safe, happy or restful place. This ability to go anywhere at any time in your mind can really only be achieved when in a relaxed state. It can bring relief to those in intolerable situations or bring much needed rest without sleep if your days are so demanding that they do not allow for napping. I have also successfully used it to provide special remembering time for 'being with' loved ones who have died.

IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE YOU CAN CALL ME FOR A FREE 15 MIN CONSULTATION


Type of session

In person
Online
Phone
Home visits

Practical details

Sign language
Other languages None

Accessibility

Wheelchair user access

Wheelchair-accessible premises should have step-free access for wheelchair users and individuals who are unable to climb stairs. If a counsellor's premises aren't step-free, they may offer alternative services such as telephone/web-based appointments, home visits, or meeting clients in different location, so you can choose the option that suits you best.

You can contact the counsellor to discuss the options available.

Under the Equality Act 2010 service providers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments to ensure that individuals with disabilities can access their service. You can read more about reasonable adjustments to help you to access services on the CAB website.

Wheelchair user access

My therapy room is on the ground floor. There are some steps going up to front door. Toilet facilities upstairs.

Availability

Weekdays from 7.30am-4.30pm. Evening appointments by arrangement.

Types of client

Young people
Adults
Older adults
Organisations

Social

Angela Tomasso (FdA) MBACP

Angela Tomasso (FdA) MBACP