Angela Tomasso (FdA) MBACP
Hi! I'm Angela. I'm a qualified counsellor & therapist with my own practice, Time4U2Talk, based in Llanelli, Carmarthen and Swansea; some issues that I have dealt with are Bereavement, Depression, Sadness, Anxiety, Sexual abuse, Relationship problems and Domestic Abuse & Violence. A fuller list is below. I offer a dedicated, confidential psychotherapeutic service to men and women 18 years and over in tranquil and comfortable surroundings.
I’m a registered member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy and adhere to the organisation’s strict ethics to deliver therapy that is respectful, empathetic and demonstrates my belief that every individual is deserving of high regard without condition and without prejudice.
No matter your problems, big or seemingly small, I want to say to you well done for looking into therapy. Seeking someone trustworthy to confide in, who will help you heal from hurts, is a strength not a weakness. It takes maturity and honesty to realize you need support, and grit and determination to listen to your feelings rather than ignore them.
Like young trees in the wind, almost all of us no matter what age need support at one time or another to grow; speaking with a trained counsellor who will listen and not judge can really help. Painful emotions can be viewed as important messages from your body offering you the opportunity to free yourself from discomfort and move towards greater happiness and peace in life. Therapy can help you grow secure roots which connect you securely to this world and people in it and help you to withstand the future storms of life.
The Therapy and My Beliefs
My approach is humanistic and integrative with a person-centred heart, which means a few different things:
That I believe you to be of great worth and doing your best as you currently see it. I also believe that all humans possess everything they need within themselves to heal and grow from their experiences. A principal responsibility of mine is to help you to connect to those resources.
Being Integrative means that I know that since you are uniquely individual, no one single approach to therapy can possibly fit everyone. I therefore tailor my therapy to fit you, not the other way around, using a cohesive mix of tools and techniques from different, well researched approaches and integrate them into my work with you, for example strong elements of CBT.
Being person-centred means I allow you to bring to each session what you feel needs expression most not what I think we should cover and as I regard you as the expert on yourself. I try to deliver my role in such a way to observe what I notice and let you know what I have noticed and offer you the chance to process in your own way. It's a collaborative approach, I will make suggestions and help you to make decisions, but they will be your decisions.
Where and When?
In Llanelli I have a lovely tranquil therapy room, discretely located on a residential estate with free parking, close to the train station, bus routes and town centre.
At Carmarthen, I work alongside a group of other accredited therapists at Alliance Therapy, King Street, a beautifully appointed and discrete Victorian building one minutes' walk from a car park (50p for one hour). I also offer home visits if you are disabled or housebound.
Swansea clients can come to beautifully appointed therapy rooms just off Kingsway in the city centre with some free parking opposite and car parks and transport links an easy walk away.
Appointments are available Monday-Saturday, from 7.30am-4.30pm. Evening appointments by arrangement.
Weekly sessions last one hour and are conducted privately, face to face in comfortable chairs in pleasant surroundings. An extra half-hour Guided Relaxation or Mindfulness can be incorporated into the beginning or end of the session to help reduce emotional hyper arousal and allow you to walk back into the outside world feeling strengthened and calmed or energised. I allow fifteen minutes between clients to provide a very private service.
How many sessions will I need?
Some people feel they have gained what they need in just a few sessions, others will want to stay longer. We can go week by week or agree on a certain number of sessions, set goals and be focused, whichever feels right to you. You can begin and end therapy at any time, though it's best to have an ending session. You can return for more therapy at a later date no matter how much time has passed.
Wherever possible I endeavour to see new clients within 48 hours of first contact when required.
Please email me here or call me on: 07736573030
Training, qualifications & experience
University of Wales Trinity St David's (UWTSD) Foundation Degree in Integrative Counselling with distinction.
I am about to start studying for a further four years with the West Wales Institute of Transactional Analysists to become a Certified Transactional Analyst at equivalent to level 7 (Masters).
I have undertaken the following professional development courses, among others:
- A-level in Communication skills, Grade B, 2 years
- Cruse Bereavement Care Foundation Course, West Wales 6 weeks
- A.S.I.S.T Suicide Intervention Skills training, 2 days
- Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Swansea University, 10 weeks 2016
- Identity-Oriented Psychotrauma Therapy, WPP, Cardiff University 1 day
- NHS Mental Health First Aid Course, 2 days
- West Wales Institute for Counselling & Psychotherapy Transactional Analysis 101: Relationships, avoiding games, drama triangles
- UWTSD Challenging not Confrontation: Using Effective Story-telling in Therapy 11/2 days
- Working with Domestic Violence & Sexual Abuse Course, New Pathways 2015
- UWTSD Psychopharmacology: Effects of Anti-depressants 2 x half days
- UWTSD Art Therapy – Working Creatively, 2 days
- SANDS Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Training for Counsellors, 1 day 2018
As well as my private practice client work, I continue to work as a Bereavement Volunteer for Cruse West Wales one day every week to honour my commitment to providing free support to those who need it and cannot afford to pay. I have worked for New Pathways as a Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Therapist on placement, and for Women’s Aid and Threshold as a Domestic Abuse Counsellor on placement. I attend regular continuous professional development courses to enhance my effectiveness in my field.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder in children
- Behaviour problems
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Childhood bereavement
- Childhood bullying
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Depression and anxiety in children
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Physical abuse
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
£40.00 for sixty minutes' talking therapy
£50.00 for sixty minutes' talking therapy plus a half hour for Guided Relaxation or Mindfulness
My fee may be negotiated for concessions.
* The first assessment lasts no more than an hour, this is an opportunity for us to meet and for you to decide if you feel comfortable with me and ask any questions you may have. We will discuss what you want from counselling and set some goals to keep us on track.
Please email me here or call me on: 07736573030
What can you expect from Therapy with me?
I qualified as a Counsellor in 2017 with a foundation degree in Integrative, Humanistic, Person-centred Counselling, but though this is recent it does mean I am up-to-date with modern counselling practice and have, by date of writing (October 2018), more than 260 direct counselling contact hours with clients. I also have a 30-year background in voluntary mentoring and using counselling skills.
With this long experience as a helper, however, I regard you, the client, as the expert on yourself since you are the only one who knows exactly what and how you are perceiving at any one time. With all of the therapies listed here, I will help you discover your favourite 'safe places', establish or maintain a healthy support network, discover what attitudes, values and opinions you hold, make observations and offer guidance that will be the most helpful to you as an individual. I won't tell you what to do or give advice, the work is a collaborative process where we work through feelings and ideas together.
I am about to begin training with the respected West Wales Institute of Conselling & Psychotherapy, a four year psychotherapy course.
- Person Centred Talking Therapy
- Integrative Counselling
- Psychotherapeutic tools and techniques
- I use strong elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy in my work
- Guided Relaxation
Talking Therapy - help with multiple Issues
Many people are not exactly sure what parts of their life are the most difficult to bear. They often don't have anyone they can trust to open up to for fear of burdening them or driving them away. A therapist who is trained how to listen will give you the safe non-judgemental space you need to just talk and talk without fallout. Talking things through can help you sort out the jumble of emotions you and others can't seem to make sense of. Through listening carefully as clients talk and reflecting back what they hear in a person centred way, allowing the client to be in control, a therapist can help people sort out and establish for themselves exactly how they feel if they're not sure and give you the reassurance you are looking for; identifying that you are almost certainly having perfectly normal reactions to a particular set of difficult circumstances.
I will help you work out how you really feel by helping you express and name your emotions and attend to you as you get to the bottom of what you think about having them and what that means to you. I will reflect back to you my understanding of what you have said about your thoughts, feelings and behaviours and this will help you process your emotions and what has happened, accept and come to terms with the reality of your experience and finally move forward.
Counselling - Help with a single issue
A series of conversations offering a focused approach that concentrates on a particular issue you have already identified and are having in the present, using some of the tools described above.
I will be a psychotherapist in training. Psychotherapy looks at how your past has influenced your present, including childhood, using creative means. It takes account of how you are feeling now and what is seeking expression, using your adult self to give to you now what was missing in earlier years. It involves working to goals and identifies and incorporates un- or under-used resources you already have. It might teach a few new ideas and ways of looking at things.
It does all this, building on talking and/or counselling therapy, through more imaginative means using one or more of the following: kinesthetics (actually doing something), linguistics (reading, writing, listening or speaking), naturalistic items (nature), visually or spatially (visual aids), logically (using patterns, numbers and equations) or artistically (painting, sketching, colouring, poems and stories) in creative ways. Integrating tools and techniques from:
Person-centred Therapy - the client as the expert and resource
Transactional Analysis - looking at the Inner Child's needs and connecting to others more effectively through your Adult with you as the driver
Egan's Problem Management Approach - Solving problems that can be solved and getting to where you want to go using a tried and tested formula
Psychopharmacology - side effects and direct benefits caused by medications and how to get the same effect without medication
Psychosynthesis - connecting with an external resource such as spirituality or personal religion as an internal guide
Neuro-biology & physiology - how the brain, digestive, respiratory and threat response systems work and be influenced to support or detract from mental and emotional well-being
Compassionate Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CCBT) - Changing how you think and behave to change how you feel.
Research has shown Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to be effective as a brief intervention therapy or longer term therapy concentrating on a single problem at a time. It operates on the understanding that thoughts and behaviours are linked to feelings, and that positive changes in just one of these areas will automatically positively affect how you are in the other two areas. I am not a CBT practitioner only using CBT, but I use what i see as the best methods incorporating them, with compassion, into my integrative or person-centred work.
The therapy is very visual, uses pen and paper or whiteboard and is characterised by worksheets, mood diaries, diagrams, models and lists. Written work is only undertaken once a warm and trusting relationship has been established and extra support can be given if you struggle to learn visually. I will take time to hear your story so I can understand what experiences and people have shaped your view of yourself and the world around you and informed your ability to respond to situations. I will only move forward once you feel understood and accepted for who you are. Being accepted and valued just as you are with all of your flaws can give you the courage to change.
Once you have found your feet you will be given brief, guided tasks to do in the week and then we can go over the progress in the following session. All forms of CBT have shown to be very effective for depression and anxiety, among other problems.
Modern life allows us to multi-task to the max. We often task ourselves to match what we perceive as the expectations of others and become miserable or overwhelmed simply with daily life. For instance we can download from the internet, answer the telephone, defrost the freezer, buy clothes, help a child, cook the dinner, listen to music and do the washing all at the same time. This is great for getting stuff done but not so great for the mind. We can become frazzled and burnt out with over complicated thoughts, making it difficult to receive the restorative sleep that the mind and body needs. There is little time for us to actually enjoy the gift of now, to really taste the food we are eating, smell the summer breeze or frosty air as it passes us by or hear the beauty in birdsong. Instead our minds go racing off, thinking about the next task we have to do.
Mindfulness is a simple practice that can be experienced in the session for quieting chattering minds, and bringing the mind and body peaceably together.
It is effective for taking stock of how you are feeling in your body, in different parts of the body and training the mind to stay with the task in hand. Effective for treating stress, anxiety, depression and chronic fatigue, it works by allowing the mind to take a rest, the body to take centre stage and then integrate together for a feeling of all-over well-being.
It can bring immediate relief for feelings of anxiety and be taught how to replicate at home. When practised regularly for as little as 15 minutes a day it trains the brain to experience the gift of now automatically and experience pure joy.
Working on your body one part at a time I can help you regulate your breathing and enter a state of deep relaxation which is either restful or invigorating, your choice.
Depending on your need, you will be guided in your mind, with or without your eyes closed, via a personalised visualisation exercise to your favourite safe, happy or restful place. This ability to go anywhere at any time in your mind can really only be achieved when in a relaxed state. It can bring relief to those in intolerable situations or bring much needed rest without sleep if your days are so demanding that they do not allow for napping. I have also successfully used it to provide special remembering time for 'being with' loved ones who have died.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Disabled access available at Llanelli and Swansea, regrettably not Carmarthen
Monday-Saturday, from 7.30am-4.30pm. Evening appointments by arrangement.
Types of client